does any one else feel the same way?
2006-12-26 20:10:59 · 16 answers · asked by 317537 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to give it more time and work. Yes, a good marriage takes work.
2006-12-26 20:13:08 · answer #1 · answered by WonderWoman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you miss the "courtship-phase" of the relationship.
Being commited to another does not mean it is the END of the relationship but SHOULD mean that now you can focus on ONE PERSON to actually BEGIN the relationship.
Keep things exciting by keeping YOURSELF exciting to be with.
I'll reference a book below that may help give you a few ideas. Pick up a copy or perhaps your local library will have it available to read for free. (No, I am NOT affiliated with this author in any way - smile)
Just remember that marriage is the ultimate union between two people and that you are fortunate to have found your soul mate. Obviously, he feels the same way or he would not have committed to give you his heart.
Stop reminiscing and together, start living!
Good luck and thanks for posting.
2006-12-27 04:27:35 · answer #2 · answered by GMarieP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I had it all to do over again - I would never marry. It is a contract that has no terms unless there is a very strongly written pre-nuptial agreement that accompanies the marriage contract and even those are only as good as the amount of money one chooses to throw away making them stick. So my advice is to tell the man that you want to stay with him - that you like being his friend and lover and mate - but that the marriage thing is screwing up everything and you wish to go back to the old status quo. He will probably be happy to learn that you feel this way.
2006-12-27 04:26:49 · answer #3 · answered by gaijinojiisan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nope...sorry to say, but marriage has ups and downs, and the only way you both can grow in the relationship is by working those problems/differences out.
Not one day after I got married did I ever feel that my husband and I were better off just dating.
2006-12-27 04:42:44 · answer #4 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U are right/ Its not too late/tell him that u both must treat each other as friends because married couples r like enemies/ marriage is the only war where two enemies sleep together/ but depend more on ur judgement/ dont take my advice as final as exceptions r there . Sorry if i am wrong.
2006-12-27 04:19:27 · answer #5 · answered by raashi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should sit down with him and have a talk. Maybe he feels the exact same way. You may also want to try to fix the problem. Just because he has a new title of ''husband'' doesn't mean that he's a new person.
2006-12-27 04:14:50 · answer #6 · answered by anonymous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Initial periods take time for adjustment. Dynamics change and constantly being together change our perceptions and expectations. But your relationship will soon rebounce back and you will feel much more comfortable this way in say two years from now, as you grow used to each other's fault and go through initial clashes and find your own areas and comfort zones.
2006-12-27 04:40:24 · answer #7 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you never know what someone is really like untill you live with them ( flatmates in sep rooms dont count ) Your relationship doesn't need to change You don't need to suddenly turn into your parents) Maybe the annoying little habits you didn"t notice before are driving you mental, or he is already taking you for granted. Tell him what you expect, as many times as you need to.If you don't he will prob think he's being husband fantastic. Ask him what he expects from a wife. whats his parents relationship like Is he copying their role modeling.
2006-12-27 05:05:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not uncommon for ppl to feel that way.if your only just married you just gotta stick it out and try a bit harder.thats both of you.maybe deep down you both wer'nt really ready for commitment?anyway one of the the biggest problems today with society is ppl lack the intestinal fortitude to stick it out and make it work.you cant just have good times.in marriage and family life theres good times bad times sad times mad times,and honestly if 25% were good times you'd be doing really well.
both dig deep im sure you'll get through it.
2006-12-27 04:29:41 · answer #9 · answered by BUSHIDO 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can live as boyfriend/girlfriend, though you are married. Re-live your past in the present and your future will brightens up too!
2006-12-27 04:59:41 · answer #10 · answered by Ebby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are married with a guy, then you must submit as a wife.You might agree thatrelationship of wife and husband is everlasting. I advise you that you may not take divorce as your husband is your god. Kindly consider and act upon my advice. good Luck
2006-12-27 04:29:20 · answer #11 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋