What should I do??? I am a really caring guy and there is this girl I like, We are both sophmores and have known each other a long time and we both know we like each other. She is mostly "anti touch " she was when I met her and for alittle while after. but we have grown closer and i really like her, but I think she will not like to hold hands or hug, and I respect her so I don't. even though I am a more touchy kind of guy. and I mean with everybody I always love hugs any time from most anyone.SO WHAT SHOULD i DO TO GROW CLOSTER IN OUR RELATIONSHIP. and I want mature answers, and please do not mention sex I am saving that for marraige.
2006-12-26 19:28:32 · 8 answers · asked by 1-4-all 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Your girlfriend may have some issues that you can't understand. Meaning her family may be the answer to her not being affectionate. They may be a more reserved family and not show physical affection like other people do. Another thing is she may have been traumatized by a horrible experience in her past. Meaning (and not trying to be blunt) she could have been molested which would certainly have an adverse affect on anyone. On a brighter and happier note it may just be that she is nervous and unsure of herself. If you are on a good level of communication with this girl then you should slowly approach the subject. I might even just tell her " I would really like to hold your hand if that is alright with you". Just let her know that you respect her and that is why you are asking if she minds. I hope thing work out for you, and I really respect your decision to wait until marriage. That is a very mature and responsible decision.
2006-12-26 19:41:36 · answer #1 · answered by Tina S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to her about this? There might be a reason she dislikes touching and it has nothing to do with you. Maybe something happened in her past. If so, the two of you can maybe work towards her getting past that.
Ultimately you have to respect her space and go the speed she is going. You are proving how much you love and care for her by respecting her decisions. Best of luck :)
2006-12-27 03:33:53 · answer #2 · answered by JAD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey it is really good that you respect her and ur saving urself that scores major points in m y book.
anyway hey maybe some ppl are not the touchy feely kinda person u are . some ppl really dont like to show that they care are like to hold ur hand in public are kiss ae any thing like that. i know cuz i use to be like that. but it takes awhile and u never maybe when u guys are alone she could be closer. it just depends. just give it time and see. if she doesnt oen up maybe she is not the right person for you.
2006-12-27 03:57:50 · answer #3 · answered by wannaBeheard 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love her, why don't you save the touchy thing in marraige too...
is holding hands and hugs and kisses a symbol of love??? think about it....
you just have to respect her feelings...
if you wanna get to know her closer, then get involve in her life, but not too involve...
get to known her parents and you invite her to see your parents too...remember when you are marrying to her, that means that you're marying her family too...
remember to respect and trust her...
2006-12-27 03:58:13 · answer #4 · answered by anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask her if she would mind if you hugged her or held her hand.
Some people just aren't very tactile; that's not how they show their affection. I'm like you--always reaching for a hug. It's difficult for me to rein in that impulse, but I do it because I don't want to invade someone else's space.
(Several of the non-tactile people I've known have told me it's because their siblings use to pretend to hug them, then either tickle or beat them up.)
2006-12-27 03:43:49 · answer #5 · answered by Iris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi
I can see that u lov her very much and i'm happy to see that u respect her decision of ANTI-TOUCH.Y don't u try talking with her abt this anti-touch.U shud let her knw that u lov her very much and u wud lov a hug or two from her.I'm sure she's bound to understand y u wud lov a hug or two.....Tell her that it makes u feel specail and warm at heart.I'm sure things will work out and take care.
lov,
varsha
2006-12-27 03:53:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should at least go on a date & get 2 know her better,maybe that will pretty much make her more like you.
2006-12-27 03:39:21 · answer #7 · answered by ESTRELLA S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her alot..and be sencere. go out for dates..dinner..movies..but really just talk to her..not about you dating about anything you know deep converstation.
2006-12-27 03:37:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋