About two years ago, when I first started to come out about my bisexuality, I told my sister about it. Out of all of my family members, she's the only one I feel close enough to tell without being judged by it. I told her about my relationship with another woman and she seemed very accepting of it. She even consoled me after the relationship went downhill.
Since then, I've only been in one relationship, but it's with a man this time. On several different occassions I've made reference to my sexuality, and she either seems to not notice or acts confused, as though she doesn't know what I'm talking about. I know I made it clear to her what my sexuality is, but I honestly can't tell if she's forgotten about it or if she just wants to pretend like it never happened.
2006-12-26 19:07:01 · 14 answers · asked by xxkillerxxqueenxx 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I don't throw the fact that I'm bisexual in her face. I may make reference to the fact that I'm attracted to a certain celebrity, or something like that though.
Also, she knows I didn't have sex with the girl because she asked me about it and I told her. It's not a question of her being disgusted by me telling her too much, it's me being confused that she doesn't seem to remember after she asked me all about it.
2006-12-26 19:29:24 · update #1
my guess is pretending its not there...or assuming you have "gotten over it." My boyfriend is bi and has dated men more often than women. I am his first girlfriend in many years. His family "accepted" his sexuality when he brought home his first boyfriend, but it was never really discussed much. Since bringing me home almost 2 years ago, they haven't really addressed "why the switch?" :) It's almost like they are just waiting to see which "side" he settles on--they probably think, like too many people, that bisexuality is just confusion, and a final choice will eventually be made...which is clearly not the case...
2006-12-26 19:12:42 · answer #1 · answered by stcroixalta 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most likely, she is assuming that, since you're dating a man now, you've "gone back to being normal". Way too many people assume that "bisexuality=confusion" or that "bisexuality=greediness" or any of a dozen other derogatory ideas. Or, it may be that she's still not completely comfortable with the idea, and is trying not to be offensive until she works out how she really feels.
Truthfully, however, I wouldn't make an issue of it. (I don't personally with my own friends and family). If your sister doesn't want to acknowledge it, don't worry about it. Just be happy that she hasn't denounced you as satan-spawn, anti-god, or anything else radical like that.
2006-12-27 03:34:53 · answer #2 · answered by sexy_sorceress_169 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's probably confused and afraid to say the wrong thing.
When my best friend came out, I tried to pretend everything was okay because I didn't want him to feel weird. Later, after I was more comfortable with it, I joked around a little too much and ended up offending him. It took me a while to understand how to talk to him about it and to be able to act normally around him again.
2006-12-27 03:20:24 · answer #3 · answered by Iris 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she's in complete denial. And since you haven't had a relationship with another woman she probably just thinks it's a phase and is choosing to ignore what you're telling her. I think you should ask her what's going on and see if you guys can clear it up.
2006-12-27 12:49:32 · answer #4 · answered by Broken hearted 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone about your sexuality, she is wanting to ignore it, but at the same time not ignore you all together. Get it????? She still wants to have that sister relationship with you, but does not want to be reminded of your sexuality.
I have a brother who is gay and I can't stand it and I refuse to speak to him, why???? Because it seems like he is constantly trying to put his sexuality in my face and I truly rather not know or hear about it. So..........I ignore it all together and I end up ignoring him all together too.
2006-12-27 03:13:29 · answer #5 · answered by Staci C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She remembers. I'm gay but don't feel the need to remind everyone of it. My parents were not gay, and I would not want to have one of them let me in on an attraction they may have had. She's your sister not your confessor, so let her be what she is just as you expect her to let you be who you are, a sister, not a robot sex machine. You may be coming off as a mattress on the prowl, calm down.
2006-12-27 06:48:54 · answer #6 · answered by older, not wiser 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My only guess is that she thought you were going through a phase with the girl in the past and that it's over. She probably thinks you're straight now. But who knows... maybe she just wants to think that you're not into girls.
2006-12-27 03:10:38 · answer #7 · answered by Kory 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She's obviously uncomfortable with it and probably considers your bisexuality to be cliche' since every $2 whore nowaday wants to pretend she's a porn star. The most important thing is for you to bring a few hos home now and again to share with your boyfriend. Make the most out of being a sleaze.
2006-12-27 03:13:09 · answer #8 · answered by RexRazor 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
just tryin to avoid it! maybe she cant handle the idea and thought accepts u as her sis but doesnt wanna talk about it! see doesnt wanna visualize that! outta sight outta mind!
2006-12-27 03:23:41 · answer #9 · answered by SEXY CRML 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. Maybe she just thinks it's something that you'll get over.
2006-12-27 12:05:37 · answer #10 · answered by Q~T 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋