well ive known this girl for a very long time, and our families are very close, and for about a year we've been getting closer and closer. And just recently, we started hanging out and talking more often. however, theres just this thing that happened when we were kids, where i really hurt her feelings, and now I feel as if she still holds that hate inside of her. Ive been beating myself up about it for a long time now, plus she has a boyfriend. The weird thing is, almost everyone knows i like her, and yet she doesnt. All the times that we get close, I feel so happy and joyful. I mean there are times where we lay next to each other and watch scary movies, and I just feel like leaning over and kissing her. I dont know if shes a really good friend, or shes hinting me to make a move. I mean its just so confusing. Theres this burning desire in my heart to tell her the truth, and yet i dont want to lose our friendship. Some girl advice would be really helpful.
2006-12-26 18:42:21 · 7 answers · asked by stewie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I know you asked girls to give you advice, but I thought I can, also, give you adivice as I had been in a similar situation myself in the past.
If she has a boyfriend, as you say, ask her how does she really feel about him. Soes she love him? Take it from there. If she says that she is really in love with him, forget about it. Don't wreck it; she might remind you of your mistreat of her in the past. Remain as friends, but good friends. You never know what future holds for both of you. If she is not really in love with him, or she doesnt really know, yet, develope your friendship much closer and closer with her, showing her how much you enjoy her company and more importantly how much you care about her. Love will definately evolve and she might be the one who reveal her feelings towards you! Take your time and show good respect towards her; yhou will reap the fruits of love. But you should also ask yourself, do you REALLY love her or just infatuation. If possitive, go for it, after finding out her feelings towards the boyfriend.
2006-12-26 19:00:28 · answer #1 · answered by Ebby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i think you should tell her how you feel. I can relate alot to your question. I had this crush on a close friend of my family. I liked him so much and i knew he liked me the only problem was we were both in a relationship. Two years passed and i saw him again. We started talking on the phone but just as friends.Then one night i had told him that i always had a thing for him and he told me the same thing before i knew it he was my boyfriend and now he's my soon to be husband . I'm glad that i told him how i felt cause i would have missed out on a great relationship." Its better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all"
2006-12-27 03:02:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stewie Mate.
Tell her you love her.
It's bloody obvious you love her!
Tell her that even if she doesn't love you, you needed to tell her that you love her. If she doesn't want to take it further tell her you still want to be friends.
It may cause some awkwardness for a while but if you've been friends for so long you'll both ride it out and, at the very least, you'll feel better for getting it off your chest.
The worst that can happen is you get married! (oops, sorry, bitter divorcee showing through there ha ha)
But seriously.
AND THIS GOES FOR EVERYONE OUT THERE
If you truly love someone, AND THEY'RE NOT MARRIED OR INVOLVED WITH SOMEONE ELSE, tell them you love them.
Evryone tell them, make the world a place more full of people who know they are loved. Everyone will be happier for it.
2006-12-27 02:54:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to be like you need to talk to her about what happened when you were younger,apologise and put it behind you[she mite already have,but it could also drag up bad memories,so be careful]after this step back and see how you feel,was it just guilt brought on by your current closeness.if you still feel the same go for it!hope it all works out
2006-12-27 03:17:50 · answer #4 · answered by catherine w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say bring up what happened in your past and apologize for it. then she will see that you really have been thinking about your past and friendship together and that you aren't just being opportunistic and hitting on her. there's no way she won't forgive you if it's been that long and you're good friends, seeing as she already kind of implicitly has. then wait a bit and tell her the rest and then let whatever happens happen.
2006-12-27 03:04:36 · answer #5 · answered by lb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was just telling that higher risk is the higher return....
go for it darling.. best friends do not watch scary movies with boys... do u want my advice.....
hold her hand a while when check the hands next time.... feels if she's taking her hand back... or she wants to keep her hand in urs.... i think u r smart enough to know what to do then....
and about her bf... try to know indirectly how things going between them......
best of luck...
2006-12-27 02:56:34 · answer #6 · answered by blues_iris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her the truth, it would be better for both of u
2006-12-27 02:56:05 · answer #7 · answered by Cinderella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋