i have a best friend, we've known each other since first grade, she's one year older than me but still in high school when im at the local university. we live in oregon, but she got accepted into princeton, so she will be going there in the fall. we were very close and i think we still are, but i feel our friendship changed when i started going to the university. it was usually almost always just us two but she made new friends and so have i, we hardly hang out together anymore. i feel that she will forget me when she goes to princeton. we always said "friends for life" but im not so sure anymore. we were the best of friends, more like sisters. im scared that when she goes to princeton she will forget about me. i dont want to lose her friendship, its one of the highlights of my life. she's told me that we will be friends even if we live on opposite sides of the world...
any advice would be good too...
thanks
2006-12-26 18:37:35 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Two words: GET FACEBOOK! Both of you. Facebook makes it so easy to stay in contact when you can't afford phone bills, and there is no one who doesn't get addicted to it. :-)
2006-12-26 18:39:46 · answer #1 · answered by Esma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to realize, things change. That doesn't mean you can't be friends anymore - but, people grow, move, their lives change in ways we never think of. You have to adapt.
I have a 'best friend' from the 6th grade. We hung out a lot. His little brother made jokes that I was the son of his mom & the post man. I was around their house all the time.
But, we graduated. We both went into different branches of the military. We're both out now. But, we keep in touch. Sometimes by e-mail. We send cards. I shocked everyone by appearing at his wedding in Las Vegas. It was a fun time.
I've known this guy since the sixth grade. I'm now over 40. You only lose friends if you want to. Talk to her about it. Let her know you want to keep the lines of communication open. Keep each others e-mail, addresses & phone numbers.
You'll both be at different schools, but you'll still have a lot in common and can still communicate about personal lives, school assignments, hobbies - whatever. It won't be the same, but it's not supposed to be. You're entering new ground in your friendship - you can either run from it, feel sad about it or embrace it.
Good Luck!
2006-12-26 18:45:24 · answer #2 · answered by bionicbookworm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt she will just forget you however over time we all move forward with our lives and sometimes the friends we had when we were younger well we lose touch with them along the way or we may just become to busy to keep in constant contact so months may go by without a word. You two will probably remain friends for life and you can be friends for life without constant contact. You just have to be understanding of the fact that your friend will have a life and be busy and just because you two don't talk for awhile doesn't mean she forgot you.
2006-12-26 18:42:16 · answer #3 · answered by momof3boys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are things you can do to keep in touch with friends, but the truth of the matter is, people do change, grow, and move on in life. You don't have to let the friendship go just because you're apart, but it might be necessary to accept that it will change in intensity, just because you're not in close proximity all the time.
It's a fact of life. Try not to be too sad about it.
2006-12-26 18:42:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up on her or the friendship. A few more friends won't affect your friendship. If your friend says if you lived on opposite sides of the world you would still be friends she probably means it. Trust you gut and first instint. It will all work out in the end. Best of luck.
--bowski--
2006-12-26 18:42:32 · answer #5 · answered by Bowski 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some times at that point in life people go there own way, develop new friendships and move on. It doesn't mean you are forgotten, memories of friendships last forever. Make at least an effort to communicate to keep track of each other.
2006-12-26 19:01:21 · answer #6 · answered by whatshisface 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live over 100 miles away from my best friend of 12 years. We aren't as close as we were in 7th grade, but we phone eachother every now and then and catch up, and we talk and laugh for hours. You may worry now, but living apart doesn't mean growing apart. And you will see her every time you both come home for the holidays, and it will be like you never left.
2006-12-26 18:43:28 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Metro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you work at being a good friend things will not change but you have to become a good listener and accepting of changes because you both will change a great deal. Write her and let her know you cherish her friendship.
2006-12-26 18:42:42 · answer #8 · answered by JAN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she truly is a best friend for life, then she won't forget about you despite the lack of social contact. It sounds like you need reassurance. You need to contact her and express your feelings. Perhaps she will feel the same way or may acknowledge the lack of social contact and remind you that you will not be forgotten.
2006-12-26 18:42:00 · answer #9 · answered by poorprae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True friendship can hold up over thousands of miles. I say don't worry your friend will always be your friend. I like the saying "Make new friends but keep the old". try to see it that way.
2006-12-26 18:41:39 · answer #10 · answered by konala 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to her about what you are feeling I have a very long term friend that has always been there regardless of where we live so it can last just be honest with her
2006-12-26 18:41:06 · answer #11 · answered by caralinar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋