I have this friend who is really mean and all. Such examples include her always blaming me that I am the one who starts the fights we have, her making up these really dumb stories like how she got accepted into a model agency and how people thought she was so pretty, claming she's a happy go good person, and I'm a weird one, yet, she's always BRAGGING to me that she has depression pills (and SHE BRAGS ABOUT IT IT"S NOT SOMETHING TO BE PROUD OF), she betrays and backstabs me and her other friends, and she always has this awful mean voice, and is so sarcastic and is always getting pissed at me! I had those times when I thought to give her second chances, but I told her we needed to talk, because than she told me she wanted to be a suicide girl (it means something like a porn star!!!) and so i got freaked out, and now i really don't want to be friends with her because she's mean, and weird to me! But I don't want to hurt her feelings! What to do!?!?!?!?!??!
2006-12-26 18:30:03 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sometimes when you have a friendship like this you have no choice but to hurt the other person's feelings. She isn't a true friend if she is hurting your feelings and backstabs you. That's not a friend. It sounds like you have a good heart and you don't like to hurt people but you don't deserve to be anyone's doormat either.
I think you just need to let her know it's time for you two to part ways. You should let her know that you don't like the fighting and the backstabbing and you just can't deal with it anymore.
People like her only get off on making others feel bad. She needs to re-examine the way she treats people so maybe she will someday treat people the way she'd like to be treated.
Good luck...
2006-12-26 18:34:40 · answer #1 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to go get some counselling and leave you the heck alone! You've been a good, loyal friend to her for too long, and you have just been the passive one about this the whole time. If you ask me, she has waled all over you from day 1, and you just let her, too! Tell her she had this coming and no more will she be able to call you a "friend."
2006-12-26 18:34:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave her out of your life. You are allowing her to be a jerk and mistreat you. Listening to made up junk isn't helpful to either of you. She's still going to make up stories, and some may include you or others you know. You can't control her mouth. Don't waste your time being involved any longer. Walk away. There's no need to say goodbye or anything that could lead to drama.
2006-12-26 18:40:03 · answer #3 · answered by Susan M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow u have a serious problem I have a friend like that she is always rude to me and thinks im crazy she is always showing off and thinks she is better than everyone else its probalby easier for me because im still in highschool but I say slowely stop hanging out with her and see her less and less dont totally block her out but try not to hang out with her as much thats what I did it'l all work out I promise
2006-12-26 18:35:16 · answer #4 · answered by Briar S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares about her feelings? Dont even take that kinda stuff from anybody! Stick up for yourself,and just dont even go around her,you can find better friends than that!
2006-12-26 18:33:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your used to those who abuse you perhaps way back from your past .. time for you to walk away and start loving yourself now. some folks can be codependent on abusive relationships without seeing it for them selves.. look up codependent online see what ya think. good luck .
2006-12-26 18:33:46 · answer #6 · answered by cherylanne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like shes got some serious security issues. leave her. she wont do anything but hurt you. she builds you up to push you back down. and she makes up stories to keep you around.
2006-12-26 18:33:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to never allow any one to be mean to you...let her go..you don't need a person like her in your life...
2006-12-26 18:33:11 · answer #8 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohh i have been in your shoes.. you feel like your in a box and they can just shake you up!!! well i eventually had to seperate myself from her and she eventually calls and i just dont become buddy, buddy with her and eventually forget about her all together...
2006-12-26 18:56:00 · answer #9 · answered by Ariel P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell that she needs to be nicer or don't be her friend any more it is never good to have mean friends
2006-12-26 18:33:11 · answer #10 · answered by Charles B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋