2006-12-26 18:27:53 · 22 answers · asked by AngryAmerican82 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Too many in our society are sorely lacking in character. Just look at 1/2 your answers to see for yourself.
2006-12-26 18:53:35 · answer #1 · answered by DivaDynamite 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Some actually mean it when they say it, but discover bad things about their spouse - ie my ex turned out to be abusive. There *were* red flags, but I ignored them. I truly meant the words then - but with the cheating and abuse - can you expect me to stay in that situation?
The second time - our 10th anniversary is today - and other than a few stupid squabbles here and there - we're doing great.
Part of the problem is people aren't getting to really know each other BEFORE the marriage - and they are the younger ones...they don't want to WAIT - they don't understand that if it is a good match- it will still be a good match in 2 years....then get married.
Part of the problem is that generations lately believe a marriage should be EASY. When they discover it's not - instead of working on it, they find someone else.
Whatever happened to youj, be glad he/she is gone - obviously they are not someone that can handle the long haul.
2006-12-30 22:12:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to think most people do mean it at the time, but I guess I know in my heart there are a lot of people out there who don't take their vows seriously. I've been married for 31 years and it's been very hard at times. I'm sure we have both thought of divorce a few times but just worked things out. Before you take the plunge, you should always get to know as much about each other as possible. Having the hots for each other just isn't enough to hold a marriage together. If you asked this question because you're splitting with your spouse, I'm sorry. It must be very painful. But don't give up on finding someone. Just be more careful and really get to know them first.
2006-12-27 02:52:29 · answer #3 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Look back at the time when you both said those words. You were both high on infatuation. You did mean it , and so did she. Im sorry she left you emotionally ( and physically too?) In our society, people want instant gratification now. They may say for better or for worse. They really want " for better or for easy way out for better again. Im sorry you got hurt. My wife of 12 years decided she was lesbian after 3 kids and 12 years marriage, so I understand the "worse". Anyway, good luck to you Bro. Take care
2006-12-27 03:24:58 · answer #4 · answered by Phil J 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think the vast majority of couples do mean it when they say it at their wedding ceremony. The problem is as time goes on many couples forget the sacred nature of the vows including that part about "forsaking all others"....
As time goes on some couples grow apart and forget what brought them together to begin with. They forget how to love one another and communicate.
I think divorce has become many people's "easy way out" because many people find it easier to give up on their marriages rather than work things out.
2006-12-27 03:14:12 · answer #5 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Marriage vows are just words to most people. They don't actually hear what they are saying they just repeat what they are told to repeat of course some realize the vows and that is why a lot of people are writing their own vows which never seem to have anything even close to "for better or worse" or "till death do us part" in them. It just shows that a lot of people just don't care about marriage anymore, they get married wondering if there is something better out there and if they find something they want more they step out of their marriage to get it. It is just so sad.
2006-12-27 02:36:09 · answer #6 · answered by momof3boys 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I used to work in the old days, but now, our generation will not tolerate any worse, divorce and separation is very easy these day, and there are a lot of fish in the sea, nobody is willing to waste their lives unless it was for the better.
2006-12-27 02:33:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
They should mean it. It's a part of that unconditional love you should have for the one you are about to marry. Unfortuantly many do not take the vows serious or forget along the way.
2006-12-27 02:33:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
They do not understand what "worse" is; ie. the travails of life because usually they are too young to apply that to themselves. We live in a "throw away society" and, unfortunately, marriages are thrown away too when stressful things happen or they get bored. There usually is very little marriage education preparation prior to the wedding.
2006-12-27 02:37:45 · answer #9 · answered by jom 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think at the time they really do think they mean it, probably because they can't fathom what "worse" truly entails. It's really easy to pay lip service to something when you don't really have to be in it at the time.
I think it's more a statement of hope than a prediction of ones behavior in the future. You never know how you're going to deal with adversity until it comes your way. You hope you're going to be true to your word, but until it happens, the most you can do is hope.
2006-12-27 02:33:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
That's a pretty big generalization. Definitely not true of everyone here.. or anywhere.. Some couples stay married forever in the worst situations.
2006-12-27 02:40:18 · answer #11 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋