for 6 years straight she flipped out on her bi-polar problems. didn't take the medicine. busted up the house, scared the kids. torturing me, violent. i sent her home to korea 2 times befor. this last time, she flipped out for about 8 months straight. she denied me sex for this time, then stopped cooking for me.. i asked her to leave and never come back. she has been gone since march. this is 10 months now. we dont have her address or any phone number. the kids birthdays came and went as well as christmas. she couldnt send them a card or call them...i am raising them alone. which is ok. she is a korean citizen. what would you have done in this situation? ps, she never worked one day in 15 years of living here.
i will be filing for divorce under abandonment soon. would you?
2006-12-26 18:27:31 · 6 answers · asked by dragon 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
My heart goes out to you and your kids,what a horrible thing for you all to go through.Personally,i would've sent her straight to see her doctor as she obviously needed help to cope with her bi-polar.She didn't really help herself by not taking her medication and she shouldn't have taken that out on you and the kids.Have the kids been for any counseling for this at all?As for her not contacting the kids,that's just pure evil.How can she call herself a mother when she doesn't keep in contact with her children?Those poor kids must feel like crap,thinking they're mother doesn't love them anymore.I dont blame you for going for a divorce,it's maybe the right thing to do,but be warned, she might try and get custody of the kids which i doubt the courts will grant her because of her condition and the fact she's not been in contact with the children.Go and see your solicitor to see where you stand for the divorce,and to try and get your future ex-wife to pay maintenance money towards the kids if you're bringing them up on your own.Obviously you'll have child care to pay for if you're still working.
Good luck and keep re-assuring your kids
2006-12-26 18:44:54 · answer #1 · answered by nanook570 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
OK, let me get this straight, you vowed to love her in sickness and in health until death do you part but you SENT HER AWAY and told her NOT to come back because the symptoms of her sickness were causing her to not feed you or give you sex and now you want to claim ABANDONMENT? I hate to tell you this, but YOU were the one who abandoned HER in her greatest time of need. God have mercy on you!
2006-12-27 02:31:32 · answer #2 · answered by Pamela 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't get a bride from Korea.
I would have forced her to be committed for psychological help.
2006-12-27 02:30:07 · answer #3 · answered by Greg P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a wife, so I have a fair idea about how to behave properly. Respect for your husband, love for your children - these are essential. You must divorce her and find someone who shares your values. It's too bad she doesn't love her children enough, but you must try to make a new life without their mother. Good luck.
2006-12-27 02:36:36 · answer #4 · answered by Miz Teri 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
well you did tell her to leave and never come back. Guess you should think before you speak.
2006-12-27 02:31:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you dont need us to tell you what to do hay do what is proper and you seem to be doing what is proper alright
i pray that this thing shall pass for you
2006-12-27 02:31:01 · answer #6 · answered by wise 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋