My daughter is going to be 21 months old on January 13th. My husband and I have been trying for baby number two since October. We want another baby but I'm just a little nervous about caring for two children which I think is normal. I just wanted some opinions from other Moms. Do you think it is too soon to start trying? What do you think is a good age difference between siblings? Thanks for your advice!
2006-12-26 18:26:34 · 12 answers · asked by BDiPaolo413 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I am not a mom but I am a dad who takes more care of the kids than mom does.
I have twins that are 4 years old and taking care of 2 kids the same age is difficult but incredibly fun and rewarding.
I think that your timing is perfect.
You do not want to leave too many years between the kids, the more of an age gap the less they will have in common/enjoy doing together. I have a brother that is 2 years older than me, it seems optimal, even though he had his friends and I had mine, as we got older we were still able to do things together.
Once the age difference gets to be too great the comonality is lost and it might be harder for the siblings to relate to each other, it also might be harder for the older child to adjust to the new arrival.
Also, the longer you wait the older you get and the harder it will be for you.
There is nothing to fear but fear itself.
2006-12-26 18:32:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that'll be a great age between the two children. I'm not a mom, but I know a lot about "life" should I say. Say your baby is born within the next year; there will be a two year age gap, and I think that's perfect. Not too old; not too young. But if you really want to have the baby, you need to think about your financial and work status. Are you able to take time off from work (if you work) for the baby? Will your husband be able to be there when you or the baby needs him? Will it effect your 1st child's life in any bad way? Do you have enough money to pay for diapers, hospital bills, baby clothes, furniture, and a bigger home if needed? It's up to you and your husband to think about the things I listed here.
2006-12-26 18:32:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a fine time: if you're ready for a second, then go for it!
My older sister and I are 4 1/2 years apart and are the best of friends now, but growing up, she would do a bit of bullying...my younger sister and I were 363 days apart and were super close as children, but now we have nothing in common....so it can be a blessing either way!
We are also trying...our LO is nearly 3 1/2 now but we're both finally ready (I've been ready for a while, but it took hubby a while to get to the point where he is ok with another baby)
Good luck TTC...I hope you get your BFP soon!
2006-12-26 19:59:38 · answer #3 · answered by BraidyLocks 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bit of advice is too late for you, but I was always told that siblings should be no more than 2 years apart in age, in order for them to have the best chances on getting along. My first 2 kids are 19 months apart, but my last 2 are 4 years apart. Go with what you feel is best for your situation. I think you will be fine with 2 kids, especially since your child now is already almost 2 years old.
2006-12-26 18:31:07 · answer #4 · answered by severina418 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like a perfect space between children. If youwere to get pregnant now or even in 6 months the older child would be interested and want to help and be a part of the baby's world...if you wait too long the older sibling doesn't want to be involved and then you have issues with the older one feeling left out and replaced and acting out to get the attention that he/she has always gotten before.
Good Luck!
2006-12-26 19:22:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I'm not a mom but I think if you get them too far apart in age then they can't have that same kind of bond. I would definitely try right now. My mom did just fine and all of my friends were about 2 years apart from their siblings.
2006-12-26 18:30:55 · answer #6 · answered by Bridget 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my bro and i are 18 months apart and its perfect..we are tight as can be, but thats also cause we are both boys.
if baby number 2 is a boy, then i would suggest having him soon because he doesnt want to grow up having 2 moms.
if baby number 2 is a girl, then i would suggest waiting for the gap to be about 2-3 years so one girl can learn from the other's mistakes.
2006-12-26 18:31:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal I was nervious about baby #1, and baby#2! And now expecting baby#3 still nervious how will I do it...women are amazing we just do it! My son is 21 months also, I am 11 weeks preggo
2006-12-26 18:29:12 · answer #8 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is up to you. our kids have almost the same age difference. it was a bit difficult at the beginning. so I think that a greater distance between kid 1 and kid 2 should be better. (my friend has 2 kids with 8 years difference so could be better)
keep trying...
2006-12-26 18:29:58 · answer #9 · answered by dragoburaggo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ours were 11 months apart, virtual twins.
I would have opted for a 2-year span but we count our blessings. They get along famously.
2006-12-26 18:28:40 · answer #10 · answered by watcherd 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋