for 6 years straight she flipped out on her bi-polar problems. didn't take the medicine. busted up the house, scared the kids. torturing me, violent. i sent her home to korea 2 times befor. this last time, she flipped out for about 8 months straight. she denied me sex for this time, then stopped cooking for me.. i asked her to leave and never come back. she has been gone since march. this is 10 months now. we dont have her address or any phone number. the kids birthdays came and went as well as christmas. she couldnt send them a card or call them...i am raising them alone. which is ok. she is a korean citizen. what would you have done in this situation? ps, she never worked one day in 15 years of living here.
i will be filing for divorce under abandonment soon. would you?
2006-12-26 18:21:48 · 8 answers · asked by dragon 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
YES, YOU ARE DOING THE RIGHT THING!
My brother was married to a bipolar woman. He separated and filed for divorce. She would not stay on her meds. When she was not ill she was a very nice woman, smart, everything. When she went off her meds she was a danger to be around. She committed suicide while separated from my brother. This messed his head and his kids (2) up pretty bad.
I saw some of the writings she left behind. I think she was thinking at one point of taking her daughter with her in her suicide. Luckily that did not happen.
Yes, by the sounds of it you are doing the right thing.
As for the Xmas card, she might not be in any condition to send a card. If she is ill she might not even know who you, your kids or even she is. It is rough, but I think that if my brother had not separated from his wife things might have been even worse than her suicide alone.
Nobody on here should be saying anything until they have seen stuff like this, it is incredible until you hasve seen the effects of people with manic/depressive disorder who are off of their medication. you really don't need to hear from ignorant little guilt trippers like the jerk above me.
2006-12-26 18:34:22 · answer #1 · answered by Barabas 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would file for divorce....it will be granted without a problem. But why didn't you have her commited or just sent her back to Korea without a return ticket. Why, how did you put up with it so long?
2006-12-27 02:25:16 · answer #2 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u r an angel that u spend ur 15 yrs with her.
God will give u reward in heaven with 72 virgin girls
2006-12-27 07:40:31 · answer #3 · answered by Eccentric 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
2006-12-27 02:25:07 · answer #4 · answered by tinamaries43 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. You did what you could and gave her plenty of chances. Good Luck :)
2006-12-27 12:54:22 · answer #5 · answered by #1 due 06/17/10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You abandoned her pal. She needs help and you were her chance. Will you abondon the kids too?
2006-12-27 02:28:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes lucky escape for you ... count your blessings
2006-12-27 02:25:23 · answer #7 · answered by ms.kissel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why did you wait so long?
2006-12-27 02:25:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋