it's like i am one person when i am outside my house and another when i am inside. why am i so scared to act the same in both places?
2006-12-26 17:39:39 · 7 answers · asked by doctorhockey18 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I had the same issue with one half of my family. I found that the person I was with that side of the family was who they wanted me to be, and when I was with my other side of my family and friends, I was myself. You probably know that you have some points of view that may not be accepted by your family, and, sometimes it is easier to be a chameleon rather than having that kind of familial conflict, especially if you are a minor and/or living at home.
2006-12-26 17:42:35 · answer #1 · answered by Lilly Jones-Fair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not very many years ago, i took a long look at myself one day and realized the people i knew all had very different views of me. it was like i was several totally different people, depending on who i was with. i wasn't aware of acting a part, or consciously behaving differently around people, it seemed like mostly different people brought out different aspects of my personality. the exception, of course, was my family. i was always made to feel lacking at home. i never was told i did something right, only my mistakes were pointed out. over and over and over. i was never asked a question without an ulterior motive behind it. any neighbor's word was always more reliable than my own. most strangers words were too. i grew up feeling uncared for, feeling like every waking moment i was surrounded by people who watched my every move, just waiting for me to do something that they could find fault with.
i can't speak for what makes you uncomfortable at home, but i found a long time ago that the place i called home at the time was the one place i couldn't get comfortable in. sad, isn't it?
perhaps you too have been surrounded by negative feelings...
2006-12-27 01:50:56 · answer #2 · answered by gwenwifar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get that feeling too.
With my friends im a total diffrent person
With my family im just quiet.
I think it's cause.. your friends let you do anything and be who you wanna be. Family is just another thing.
2006-12-27 01:41:57 · answer #3 · answered by Jiz La Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Family is family. There are certain traits we have as individuals that remind us that we are who we are because of our parents and our heritage. In front of the family, you really can't hide.
2006-12-27 01:49:09 · answer #4 · answered by mistaken_reflections 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your're trying tooooo hard to be what other people want you to be. focus more on just being you.
2006-12-27 01:44:46 · answer #5 · answered by 2"CUTE"2B30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably your outgoing alot?
2006-12-27 01:40:38 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Choco Lover♥ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
feel guilty about something?
2006-12-27 01:46:45 · answer #7 · answered by BUSHIDO 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋