if i wanted to change my personality..?

Question

how can i become more open-hearted, unjealous, accepting? but by doing things to change the way i am, they aren't really coming from the heart. i want to be a better person but how can i if i feel that i'm being fake?? thanks in advance for your advice

Answer 1

Think how you would feel if you where another person and continue this when ever you think something unpleasant of someone else. It can change your outlook and open your heart to others feelings. Good luck! This may not totally turn you around if you feel you tend to be jealous or not accepting of others but it can soften your edges a bit.

Answer 2

You shouldn't feel fake. You will still be you but obviously better and you aren't "changing" your personality, you are making it better.

The first part of making the improvement is understanding and identifying the things in your life that feed those unwanted traits. Once you do that, you need to figure if you want to cut those things out of your life or change your interactions with those things.

Than you have to form new habits. Obviously your old habits may have been incorporated into your old traits, so you may want to start doing things differently.

Some good advice would be to make new connections with people and places. That way you don't have to feel pressures (for lack of a better word) to be the old you. Sometimes it is hard to change/improve ones self and be around people who know you and those ways.

Finally, just know that from wanting to improve, you have already improved.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Until it comes from the heart your right its not real , instead of trying to do everything at once why don't you start small with little changes, remember everything is a process, it didn't happen overnight that you have become the person that you are, so its going to take time and a willingness on your part to obtain those qualities that you are speaking about .

Answer 4

Work on it gradually.

The accepting personality is probably the easiest to conquer. When you find yourself looking at someone and thinking a negative thought, just put yourself in their shoes. Or better yet, view them as one of your loved ones. Would you be so critical of what that person is saying or doing if they were one of your loved ones?

I had a HORRIBLY opinionated mother. Once she had an opinion--that was it, it would NEVER change. Of course, as a teenager I was going to buck her every step of the way. That was the hippy days.
I went to the elderly neighbor lady's house barefoot, holes in my jeans, and a halter top that was made from a mens single handkerchief. My mother was there and flipped out. I was expecting the same from the neighbor lady as she was uptight and very traditional.

My mother looked at her for support in her verbal tirade against me and the elderly neighbor lady replied: If I were that age, I would wear the very same thing.

That comment always stayed with me--nearly 40 years later. That is acceptance.

Answer 5

if you have a genuin desire to change, then you will change. It sounds like you might be trying hard to change too much all at once, slow down, you've got your whole life to grow into the person you want to be.

Answer 6

Good question. Surely a lot of people are in the same boat.

A way to counter jealousy is to rejoice in other's success as if
were one's own.

Heard it works.

Answer 7

study other peoples behavior ,attend personality development classes and increase your exposure with people .this will change your outlook and personality.

Answer 8

You can become this way by acting this way. It eventually feels genuine.

Answer 9

Sometimes change is for the better.

Answer 10

You are born with and try as might you cannot change it.