My girlfriend, pretty much asked me today, if I would marry her?!? We've been seeing each other for about 3 months now, nothing serious either. She wants to join the navy, wich I don't have a problem with. But she wants to get married because she says we wouldn't be able to see each other for long peroids of time. I'm still in college. She asked today, wich put me in a panic. what should I do?????
2006-12-26 17:24:14 · 20 answers · asked by hard shell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
tough one. tell her its too soon definately. if she loves you and really wants to marry you shell wait.
2006-12-26 17:25:48 · answer #1 · answered by Christines256 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like she wants some security for when she is away. If you have only been dating for 3 months and not really serious you should not get married. You need more time to test the waters with her. Marriage is a big thing and the divorce rate is too high already. Give it more time. If she truly loves you she will wait until you are ready.
2006-12-27 02:01:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
3 months..are you serious? That is not long enough to know if you're even compatible long-term so how could you possibly be thinking about marriage. Maybe the distance can do you some good and prove you're meant to be over a reasonable amount of time. You never get married just because. It should be a well thought out decision.
2006-12-27 01:37:43 · answer #3 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Getting married is not something that you ever want to feel rushed into. Take some time to really think about things. She isn't going anywhere if she loves you. You can get married today, next year or a couple of years from now. Quit stressing... leaving college doesn't sound like the smartest move to me. If she loves you she'll understand that you can't just up and leave your goals and dreams behind to follow her at this time. Maybe once you've finished college, then you can think about relocating to whereever she is, and then you will be the one ready to ask her to be your wife.
2006-12-27 01:34:23 · answer #4 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is a serious commitment, and these days, too often, people are getting married for the wrong reason. My personal opinion is that the only reason two people should get married is because they love each other so much, they can't imagine not having that person by their side for the rest of their life. Dont rush into something you will regret down the road.
2006-12-27 01:33:35 · answer #5 · answered by Kritikopoula 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is such a short time of being together and especially if it is not serious...Marriage is very serious..Sounds to me, and I may be wrong, that she wants to marry you so while she is gone you wont be with anyone else..Its your life, but remember she will be gone for times without end..You will spend many days and months apart..To me marriage would hurt yalls relationship,,not strengthen it..If I were you,,I would just still date,,write letters,,make phone calls back and forth..Get to know each other alot better..Then follow your heart..If you love her enough to make her your wife for the rest of your life then get married..But if it was never serious then marriage would be a terrible mistake...Im sorry but it would be so wrong to marry without being serious with each other...May God help you in your choice..
2006-12-27 01:29:55 · answer #6 · answered by glowworm 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ummmm.....NO! Marriage is hard enough when you actually KNOW each other and get married for the reasons of being madly in love and wanting to spend the rest of your lives together. You SHOULD be panicked because this girl sounds like a freak! 3 months & she wants to get married and then join the Navy and leave?!?! No way. Just say "thanks but no thanks."
2006-12-27 01:30:23 · answer #7 · answered by Pamela 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't do it. You've only been seeing each other for three months and it sounds like you are not ready. Marriage can be a miserable mess to get out of. Best not to get in one if you're not entirely sure it's what you want.
2006-12-27 01:43:21 · answer #8 · answered by Jenny A_331 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her the truth you are not ready to marry someone you have been dating for 3 months and plans on being away for long periods of time. Divorces can cost a lot of money....... Save your money and just say NO>
2006-12-27 01:26:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
way too soon......you do not have to be married to continue to see eachother. what does not being able to see eachother have to do with having to get married? if she is looking for insurance that you will not cheat or will stay with her during her absence a piece of paper cannot assure that. tell her to hold off on the navy for a year or so...this is a dangerous time we live in....get to know eachother better and then get married and let her join
2006-12-27 01:28:10 · answer #10 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you should do is sit down and explain exactly how you feel. Sounds like BOTH of you aren't really seriously ready to get married. Marriage is serious business, not a game.
2006-12-27 01:27:29 · answer #11 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋