He says it's wrong. I'm a PROUD singlemom of three WONDERFUL boys. I've been doing this for years? I just make sure the doors are closed and all ya know. Should I dump this turd?
2006-12-26 17:17:56 · 30 answers · asked by proudsinglemom3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, he should dump you. Don't you have any respect for your kids? So you've been doing this for years, shacking up with the B/F du jour, bringing in a steady stream of men into your kids lives? Sure, you've got a lot to be proud of, but it's not bringing stability into your kids lives.
The doors may be closed, but kids aren't dumb. What do you think they're thinking of their mom shacking up with a different man all the time? What are they learning? That it's OK to sleep with whoever comes along? If you're so proud, then put a trophy over the fireplace, or a high score table on the refrigerator.
2006-12-26 17:24:25 · answer #1 · answered by Capt. Obvious 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Whether you dump him or not is your business but sounds to me he has alot of respect for your children..Some men are leary of this due to the fact a child can open the door at any time for different reasons and well this man dont want to get caught in the act...
Talk to him and find out his real reason behind it..Im sure it is a moral issue more than anything else...If you cant find yourself agreeing with his ways then its to your best interest to find someone who is not like him..I do hope all things work out for you..Dont know what you meant by you've been doin this for years...Follow your heart..He sounds like a descent man and there is not that many on this earth anymore...God bless you
2006-12-27 01:25:07 · answer #2 · answered by glowworm 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he is not comfortable with your children around, he is not the one. He may really care about you and your children, but you two don't see parenthood the same way and if you two can't resolve this difference, then you should move on for your own happiness.
But, he may be right about the kids. Even though they are only children, they know more than you may realize and it would be better for them to have 1 stable man who is a good role model around, rather than a parade of strangers and tawdry sex episodes in the next room.
2006-12-27 01:24:23 · answer #3 · answered by Cynthia W 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he ought to dump you. Atleast he has morals and self respect where your children are concerned. Maybe this is a wake up call. It's wrong of you to do what you've apparently been doing for years.
Are you a tramp or something?
2006-12-27 01:28:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he say it's wrong because your kids are there...or because he doesn't believe in pre-marital sex?
If this is a religious/moral thing, it might be admirable and he might be a keeper. If it's a kid thing, you need to think about what your sex life is going to be like for the next 15 years or so while you wait for the kids to grow up and move away...you should probably dump him.
2006-12-27 01:21:37 · answer #5 · answered by David G 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Monkey see Monkey do. How will you feel if your boys start having sex at home and use "Mom, you did it as long as the doors were closed"? If you do this behavior all the time as you say, the word sl*t must come up into conversation alot.
2006-12-27 01:35:00 · answer #6 · answered by BONNI 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is a pedophile & when you fall asleep..he will attack your children.How do you know he wont if he is a "new boyfriend" you probably dont know him well enough.Id trust no one around my children. When he says he wont do that,,there is a reason,,let him go.He may just be extremely respectful or maybe not really interested in that sort of relationship.Either way,,its not going to work. Do be careful as to who you have in your home.Can you not get a sitter while you see these guys?Or get to know them a long while before interacting with the children.If he is not interacting with them,,why would you want this type of relationship.Its more like a wham bam deal.Thats ugly if you want to be a good role model for them.
2006-12-27 01:24:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
He probably feels very uncomfortable, knowing they are near by. When I started dating again after my divorce, I felt the same way. It took me the longest time to even want to do something at my own place. I felt like a teenager, sneaking around.
2006-12-27 01:21:00 · answer #8 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
as long as you're in a different room, the doors are locked and you arent screaming too loud its ok. think of the future, if you were married to him would he not do it with you after you had a kid together? wierd.. most guys jump at the chance to do it, no matter when or where
2006-12-27 01:22:01 · answer #9 · answered by Olivia's Mama 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some men view children as turn off while they are trying to get in the mood, if this is already a problem maybe you should reconsider.
2006-12-27 01:20:47 · answer #10 · answered by nene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋