I'm 16 and just found out I'm 7 weeks pregnant by my x boyfriend and I'm against abortions 100% but how do i tell my parents...what will they do...what will they say? I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO ... PLEASE HELP ME!
2006-12-26 16:36:59 · 18 answers · asked by Rockee 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
WE USE A CONDOM BUT IT BROKE AND WE WERE JUST ONE OF THE UNLUCKY ONES THAT GOT PREGNANT!...
2006-12-26 17:15:50 · update #1
WE USE A CONDOM BUT IT BROKE AND WE WERE JUST ONE OF THE UNLUCKY ONES THAT GOT PREGNANT!...
2006-12-26 17:16:00 · update #2
What are you in the tenth grade?
We didn't help you get pregnant
This is what you can do
Use a condom next time
2006-12-26 16:40:45 · answer #1 · answered by Bunky 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
First, calm down. Don't worry yourself over it. Yes, it is an issue, but I'm sure you have a good head on your shoulders. You have to go into this knowing beyond a shadow of a doubt that everything will be all right. Because it will be.
Next, I agree with the posters above- You should tell your mother first, and the sooner the better. Just say something like, "Mom, can I talk to you without you saying anything right away?". From there, calmly explain to her that you're pregnant and that you know you made a mistake. Make sure you apologize for betraying her trust before she makes a big deal out of it. The goal within the confession is to let her see how sorry you are and that you genuinely want her help.
Then, let her ask questions. If she wants to know who the father is or how you got pulled into having sex, explain that as well. The more she knows about what happened, the less likely she is to be greatly upset for a long time.
Together, you two can tell your father.
After all this stress, you also need to look on the bright side of things. You have a living being inside you! One of God's greatest gifts is the gift of life, and He has given you the responsibility to care for that little baby. You get to name it, see it through Ultrasound, hear its heartbeat, and feel it kick its feet against your stomach. It truly is a miracle to behold.
Whatever you do, don't let ANYONE convince you to abort that baby. That baby could be the best or the worst thing that ever happened to you. But it's only going to be whatever you make it.
Thank you for choosing life =)
You, your family, and your child are in my prayers.
**There's a song that I believe you could relate to, and I think it might greatly help you through this tough time. It's called "Irene" by TobyMac, and it's an excellent song. Check it out.**
2006-12-27 01:18:15 · answer #2 · answered by mmhmm141 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sit down with your parents and tell them that you're pregnant and you can't handle this alone. Let them know that an abortion is out of the question, so they can either support you and have the baby, or help you put the baby through adoption.
You have no choice but to be honest. Keeping the baby means you have to go to the doctor ASAP to get the education and prenatal care you need.
Good luck.
2006-12-27 04:16:15 · answer #3 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had just turned 16 when I got pregnant with my now 8 year old son. I told my mom first and she told my dad for me. They were upset but once they realized I was having it and I had some plans sorted out they calmed down. They were so helpful and great during the pregnancy and after my son was born. I am now preparing to tell them I am expecting my second child. Good Luck and remember they are your parents and they love you no matter what you do.
2006-12-27 10:39:03 · answer #4 · answered by miss_angel_eyes 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make a plan... adoption or a plan to finish school after the delivery or get a job... make an adult plan first. Then tell him. Find out how he reacts. Once you have the facts, go to them. They will be furious and very disappointed at first, so expect it and it won't hurt as much. Stand firm on your decision whatever it may be and as time goes on, they will accept it. If you keep the baby, they will love it IMMENSELY! I went through the same type of situation... I just wish I had a plan for when they started shooting all of the questions at me in anger. I felt like an idiot when I kept saying "I don't know" to questions like, "how will you support it?" and "what about school?" and "what does he think?"
Good luck
2006-12-27 00:50:03 · answer #5 · answered by dena_lisa 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm 23 with a first child on the way... it took me up to being 13 weeks pregnant before I could work up the courage to tell her. I would suggest talking to your mom first~ she will probably get a little upset at first but she will come to an understanding. That's what mothers are for. and then ask her to help you with telling your father. Like I said they will probably be a bit shocked and upset but afterwards they will come out of the shock. You just got to see it from their point of view... you are their precious angel... they just care about you~ so work up your courage and tell them! Good luck!
2006-12-27 00:48:50 · answer #6 · answered by MaMa2aCrazyBabyBoy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You would be very surprised. I have heard of the worst parents being told by their kids that they are pregnant. My husband thought it would be the worst thing to tell his parents that I was pregnant when we weren't even married but they were delighted. My parents were very mad at first but when they realized they were going to have a grandchild they came around. I would just tell my parents straight up and right away if I were you. I know it is scary but it feels much better once you get it over with.
2006-12-27 00:41:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to your mom, now. Tell her that you made a big mistake and that you need her help. Be calm and listen. She loves you and only wants the best for you. She will be on your side and together you can tell your dad.
Don't blame, and don't rule out making an adoption for your baby.
2006-12-27 00:42:06 · answer #8 · answered by anirbas 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK most parents say they are gonna raise hell at you if you get pregnant. Most parents are soo different when you do. They are gonna be nuturing and understanding, afterall, you are their daughter. They might be upset, but they arent gonna yell at you or hit you or woop you. They are going to be there for you. Just talk to them and trust that they are you parents and they know people make mistakes sometimes
and your gonna be ok
email me if you need any more advice
2006-12-27 01:08:46 · answer #9 · answered by ♥♥Meghan♥♥ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
most parents are the same. maybe theyll be angry a lil disappointed but im sure they will support you.
generally mums are the easiest to tell so tell her first of all. then tell your dad.
tell some one asap as you need to have the right care as you are so young and the risks for you are slightly higher. but dont panic its usually a precaution.
expect every emotion imaginable, angery sadness, happy etc.
good luck telling my grandad was the worst im 12wks and 22 he didnt talk to me for a few days but he came round and is quite happy.
2006-12-27 00:44:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋