Cheated with my boss for 3 days...now what?

Question

I have been married 2 years to a wonderful guy, I know its not right - but it happened.
Once a year, I go with my boss to a client sight.
This year - it was in Denver. Dec.19th was the meeting, we were supposed to fly back the 20th.
All flights home cancelled the 20th and 21st....
I have never been attracted to my boss, he is married, black, in his late 40s, he is a bit heavy....but we were literally stuck in a hotel for 3 days.
The first night - after many drinks - we started to fool around. That led to incedible sex. Then for the next 3 days - thats all we did. I have never felt that good EVER in bed with a guy. Yes - his size was amazing - but - I had felt things over and over I have never felt before.
We had sex 11 times in 3 days. He was purely amazing.
My husband and i had our "holiday" sex on Christmas. Yes I felt guilty - but - I could not stop "comparing".
My husband is just boring now compared to Denver...
I love my husband...but lust for my boss.
What to do?

and yes...cheating is wrong. I already know that. I was not all that experienced at all before this -
Now I want my husband to be more like my boss sexually.... How can i forget what happened? And how it was for me??
Sorry...thanks.

last detail....
My boss and I agreed there would no more affair- nothing- when we got back home.
BUT...I want him so bad again!
I know the difference between love and lust - I make love to my husbamd...this was just pure lust. My husband can never be like him size-wise...or stamina-wise....I just dont know how to stop comparing. Does anyone have "lusty" sex with their spouse?

Answer 1

oh god..u better pray hard ur husband doesnt finds out..

Answer 2

Well.........best to land back in reality. Maybe even change your job. This guy will most likely never be with you. And becasue he is exceptional lover doesn't mean you can't be with your husband.
How about getting some how to books for your marriage and tell him you want your sex life to grow with the years.

You boss most likely cheats regulary. I would get a STD test
asap

I don't see any reason for you to tell your husband. This would most likely be the death of your marriage, and it will never be the same. This is a personal thing you did. You don't have any reason to dwel on this situation. Pray for forgivness, this is between you and God. Make up your mind that it will never happen again. and then put it to rest. Pack it away and go onward from there. Just don't let it eat away at you. Make a choice to put it behind you.

Answer 3

Apparently after riding your boss, you feel that size matters more, rather than tell your husband about the cheating, maybe you could have your doctor put a couple stiches in and make things more tight down there an after it heals, you'll realize that your husband can make you feel just great.

Or you could have your husband get an implant in his dick, which means he would be hard for hours and could ride you into extacy for hours.

If none of the above works, then do the right thing and tell your husband and quickly find how fast you are out on your *** in the street.

Now the black dude has you right where he wants you and is going to use you like the tramp you were in denver. God i hate women like you. stupid biatch!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

First of all, this is why you don't cheat. Now you are always going to compare your husband to this man. A lot of people get divorced from this type of thing. But you know what you did is wrong and you are admitting to that. That is the first step. The second is, you need to tell him. I am sure you don't see how it is going to affect the relationship but it will. You are going to resent him for not pleasing you sexually. If you carry this on, he is going to eventually find out and you will hurt him tremendously. Think of how it would be for you if he did this. If you tell him then work on getting passed it, I am sure he would be open to suggestions in the bedroom. It does't hurt to tell your partner what works for you and what doesn't.I can see where you are coming from but remember...sex isn't everything and when there is no more sex , what will you have with your boss? Is it worth losing your husband over? There is a reason why you married this man....i know relationships tend to fizzle out but you need to do something...this may be your first affair, but they say the first is the hardest to do. Good Luck to you and your husband.

Answer 5

You may be regretful, but it may play worse later if you end up with some sort of an STD. Most carriers aren't even aware of it. Chances are you are not his first, and probably not his last. I think there as some major issues in your life you need to straighten out. How would you feel if you are responsible for transmitting an STD to your husband who was not a direct participant in your escapades in Denver? As for your employment, your boss has taken advantage of you as your superior. My suggestion is to make things right. Tell your husband, get a Blood test for STD's, herpes, etc. and report this to your bosses supervisor, and see a counselor. If just a few drinks led you to have sex 11 times in 3 days without the thought of how your husband would feel obviously shows lack of concious, a "sociopathic" event. Find a good counselor, and talk to him/her first for professional advice before you do anything.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

See this is what kills me........I read this question and the way some poeple will think she is the victim! What about the husband. Hmmm great guy, excuse me "wonderful guy"! But hey go have sex with your boss......that's so wrong on so many levels! Not only have you messed up the home life but work is now screwed too! Then, lets dwell on how great the sex was!
Here's the deal....any kids involved? (god i hope not) If not, get out, tell your wonderful husband just how much your relationship meant to you! (past tense) for a reason! Sex is a big part of my marriage, I don't get it as often as I'd like. But I'm not gonna go and get blitzed with a co-worker and then sleep with her!

Answer 8

Well, your not going to like this but all things come back to bite you in the AZZ. You can hide it hope no one finds out, but someone will. Depends how good you are at fakeing it. If you want to get hubby to do what boss did, leave books around rent sex movies suggest you try some of it TALK to him let him know what you want. But all secrets come out ALWAYS even after yrs.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Karen v my heart goes out to you ,you will be in my prayers .
i been there ,and i hurt my husband so bad ,today I'm still earning his trust ,if you don't confess,please don't go back and explain to your boss ,if you go back girl you have to be honest with your man ,who knows he may be understanding and forgive you like mine did ,i been married for 17yrs and 3 children .
my advice to you ,make yourself happy first ,if you happy everything else follows.
ASK yourself if you where really happy and loved your husband ,would you have cheated?Drink or no drink ?

Answer 11

This is a beautiful story and you are very lucky. Your husband would probably understand. Being alone with a black man for 3 days is fantastic.

Sallie