My dad and my brother use to beat me. Men have tried to rape me. Every guy I've ever dated cheated on me or made me the "girl on the side" or second to first girlfriend. I've tried to date a wide range of guys with different personalities and professions, but they all treat me like sh*t in the end.
Today, I had to call the police to get a restraining order on a guy I barely even knew who has been stalking and sexually harrassing me for months.
I don't think I've deserved any of this, because I've done nothing wrong. I've come to the point where I can barely even look at a guy or even start any sort of relatioinship with. What do I do? I don't want to end up alone.
2006-12-26 16:30:53 · 14 answers · asked by Tulip 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
and im not submissive person at all, ive always fought back physically or verbally.
2006-12-26 16:35:22 · update #1
Guys are idiots they never treat woman the way they should be treated If I was You I would become a lesbian and find a woman you can be romaticly involved with..Girls are sweeter
2006-12-26 16:33:49 · answer #1 · answered by Aaron 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hate to hear what your life was like with your dad and your brother. I fear that a lot of what you're dealing with in your life now with other men is a direct reflection of that past abuse by your family. While people don't intentionally go out and choose these kinds of men consciously it seems that subconsciously they believe that's all they deserve. Take yourself out of the places you've gone to in the past to meet these guys and find more reputable places. Instead of a bar go to a church. How about a local park? Got a dog? Walk it and meet other dog lovers. Just an example. If you go to a crack house expect to meet a crack head, not Mr. I'm gonna sweep you off your feet romantic. It's just not gonna happen like that.
The most important thing - stop worrying about ending up alone. That's why people "settle" and are unhappy all their lives. Take some time to get to know yourself. Reassess your own goals in life. Work on self-love. It's always been my experience that when I stop looking so hard for love or basically just "give up" is exactly when I find it. Don't try too hard. Be yourself. Love yourself. Appreciate yourself. One day you'll find the man who can do that too. God bless & keep you!
2006-12-26 18:00:42 · answer #2 · answered by Pamela 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the nice guys anoy you because yoou are not used to the nice feelings that they make you feel and you realise how hurt you are when they are around you and how much work that you have to do on yourself to get over the pain of the arseholes that treated you like nothing. I say give the nice guys alittle bit more time and paitence. It is definitely not worth going out with a guy that treats you badly just so you can feel sexy and wanted.It will erode your self esteem.
2016-05-23 09:41:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get over your fear of men all together first. It will take a lot of time and effort seeing as though you have had that trust broken before. Get a back bone and stick up for yourself. Remember to take no stuff. When you show you have a lot of self confidence, chances are it will be hard for someone to treat you in that manner. Good Luck
2006-12-26 16:33:34 · answer #4 · answered by amandaped25 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
l am sorry for your rough troubles but the only thing i can say to maybe hel p you is to be careful who you do things with and if for a second you feel uncomfortable you need to go somewhere where you will be.
as far as being alone forever dont worry about that some one good will come into your life.
2006-12-26 16:37:20 · answer #5 · answered by johnrymel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
babe im so sorry to hear about your problems w/ men, it makes me sick and im being serious, you gotta stop surronding your self with guys like that. it seems like your with these over controllin 'thugs'. you gotta find a real man who will respect you for the lady you are, you cant be pushed to the ground and trampled on anymore, i wish you all the luck, cause youve been thro hell and you deserve something better. find a real man get away from the men youve been around, they havent done you good yet so try and find something new
sorry
2006-12-26 16:36:12 · answer #6 · answered by Hock 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just prepare yourself as good as possible in the attitude and ignore every guys U have met. Paying attention in your work, will have a right guy for U then
2006-12-26 16:35:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are being a victim and are only attracted to abusive men. You need counseling to identify how you are doing this.
2006-12-26 16:34:34 · answer #8 · answered by Red 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
your name says to me your 21, life just started and I m sorry youve dated boys, maybe look for a man, they usually have integrety. also, look at the begining of the relationship, you usually get siggns of agression, good luck.,
2006-12-26 16:34:22 · answer #9 · answered by dwill604 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
get a pet. the love is unconditional. because your desperation draws those kind of guys like rotting flesh draws maggots.
2006-12-26 16:33:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋