My bf seems to not have a sex drive a all. When we finally do have sex, it's amazing. I only wish we had it more often. Once or twice a day is what I would consider normal. I have asked him, and he tells me that he'll make it up to me when he's not so stressed out....but this is ridiculous and it's driving me crazy. I feel like I have tried everything - the weird part, is that he loves watching porn, which I do too, but even with that, he doesn't even touch me. Is there something I can do or suggest that he does? I hate to say this, cause I do love him, but if those needs are not being met with him, should I be trying to find them somewhere else?
2006-12-26 16:27:52 · 10 answers · asked by gabster 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
OK... for the record:
1. we rarely fight.
2. on an average, my ex and i would have sex 2-3 times a day... so i know it's possible.
2006-12-26 16:41:29 · update #1
We have been together since July.
No, I wouldn't cheat on him, although the thought HAS crossed my mind...and I'm getting tired of having sex by myself!
2006-12-26 16:45:25 · update #2
I don't think there's anything wrong with either of you.
Stress will kill a man's sex drive. If there's a particular stressor that you know will let up soon, wait it out with your hand and toys. If it's generalized stress, he might need some sort of stress-management therapy.
If you absolutely can't wait, you could discuss opening the relationship with him so that you can go elsewhere to fulfill your physical needs.
2006-12-26 17:30:49 · answer #1 · answered by Kerkyon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you do make sure his out of your life, please dont cheat on him. That wouldnt be right nore fair, you know you wouldnt like that happing to you.
Well you never said how long you 2 have been together months years? Is this the guy your thinking of marrying ,if so if the sex isnt there now it never will be and ask yourself can you live with that. If the answer is no then move on, sit down and ask yourself what do you want more out of this relationship, why are you in it and what does it mean to you.
And yes sex in a relationship does matter a lot, i do know that but i would hate to think you pasted up on a great guy, just to find the grass isnt that greener on the other side.
2006-12-27 00:39:37 · answer #2 · answered by Porcelain Doll 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once or twice a day is not normal, nice maybe, but not run-of-the mill. If that is not true, I am pissed as I have missed a lot of action. Do you guys have jobs? Buy a few sex toys and let the games begin or maybe he could invite over a buddy to pitch in.
2006-12-27 00:42:23 · answer #3 · answered by Paul D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, don't cheat onthe guy..that's bad karma. Address the problem with him and either stick it out because you love him, or move on because eventhough you love him, doesn't mean he is the one you are going to end up with forever. There are plenty of guys out there that would love a girlfriend to want sex 1-2 times a day!
2006-12-27 00:32:28 · answer #4 · answered by Jaybird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have same prob, in reverse, he likes sex 3 times a day. Tiring but work around differences. Quality versus quantity. Be open and express your wishes/needs. Encourage him to "support" you in meeting your needs and he should assist you in being sexually satisfied. Be his porn!!!! Fantasy play, exploring sex in new places, and let him know you are attracted to him!
2006-12-27 00:41:20 · answer #5 · answered by mizzmel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont have sex because of stress and other issues regarding my gf.
leave him alone and work on other issues of the relationship.
2006-12-27 00:31:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obvessly he doesnt want it. Gurl im a guy myself so if u guys fight all the time that could be why otherwise i would find somone else.Good luck!
2006-12-27 00:31:53 · answer #7 · answered by probegt0012 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once or twice a day?! What fantasy world do you live in?
2006-12-27 00:37:42 · answer #8 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to sit him down and ask him wats up-if u still get nothing then maybe it's time to move on
2006-12-27 00:32:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U may drag him to a doctor
2006-12-27 00:31:27 · answer #10 · answered by forever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋