im 20 and pregnant with his 3rd kid by me
2006-12-26 16:14:29 · 26 answers · asked by the sun should burn out tommorow 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
first- get away from him now!! he may hurt or even kill the baby!
Second-call the police first so he wont do anything to youfor that
Third-DONT TRUST ANYONE!!!! Dont tell any of his friends or anyone close to you where your going. get out of the city or even state so if he goes to jail when/if he breaks out, he wont find you.
Forth- Take his kids (if you can) with you. They dont need to see that and are goin to end up being in jail.
Finaly- Enjoy your life with your child/children live life and do what you've gotta do.
Trust me honey, He just thinks your another piece of as s. He does not love you or care about you. Hes only in it for the sex. Leave him.
2006-12-26 17:19:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not tell her anything. That is an adult problem and if you tell her what is she going to do about it except worry about something she is totally powerless to fix? If you insist on telling her. Tell her to ask her dad why you are hurting.
What you need to be doing is filing for DIVORCE and leaving the creep. Your 20 how old is he? Your on your 3rd kid? He sounds like a pervert. You need to watch Dr Phil.
He has you because he knows he can beat the he!! out of you and you will stay. Break the cycle NOW. Or keep your freezer full of ice packs. Your stepdaughter is learning that it is OK to have the he!! beat out of you by your spouse. Not to mention the other kids.
2006-12-27 02:20:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry you are in this terrible situation. I hope you quickly realize you and your children should not be treated like this by anyone. Even if their dad is not beating them, the children are being negatively affected by this type of home life. Your stepdaughter knows something is really wrong. Don't try to make everything sound fine. Tell her the truth. He should not be hitting. What he is doing is wrong.
Do whatever you need to do to get your children and yourself out of danger.
God bless You!
2006-12-26 16:40:43 · answer #3 · answered by kyletexas_123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get Out Now! Take her to her mother's or with you if that is not an option. By witnessing the beatings, she will not only learn this is acceptable (which it NEVER EVER is), but, will also either learn to find a guy who'll do the same thing to her later in life--or, even worse, become a beater herself! Plus--what's to say he dosen't turn on her when you're not around? Get law enforcement in on it now--before it is too late for you and her. If he beat you up when you asked this, you needed to call 911 immediately! He's a violent individual who needs serious help NOW! Get Help, and Good Luck to you.
2006-12-26 20:04:21 · answer #4 · answered by Mudcat007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally i would call th epolice and file for divorce because we are in the same situation the only diffrence is im 34 i have 5 kids and the man who beat me and my children is going to be divorced to him in a year( yay) and my oldest is already a teen so there shouldnt be much fuss around but for you i could think that you dont want to be seperated but if ur prego u shouldnt be hurt talk to a doctor/therapist and explain to your stepdaughter that daddy's in a bad mood
2006-12-26 16:20:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget telling the kid this, tell the police. No one has the right to lay a hand you. Even the person you're married to. That's abuse. Call 911 or go to a family or friends house take the kids and get out. This could get worse. I wish you the best. No man is worth getting beat up over.
2006-12-26 16:40:29 · answer #6 · answered by meshaangel2004 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ugh - why do you keep getting pregnant? Why are you living with an abuser? Would you want someone to abuse your children? Because if this is what they see and know, this WILL happen to them as well. Get out now and make something of yourself for the kids sake. I am sorry but I have no sympathy for a woman who stays with an abuser especially when children are there.
2006-12-26 23:45:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get all the kids and yourself out of that situation. If you cannot take her with you work with her mother to keep her out of your husbands hands. Testify. Because after you leave he could turn on her.
By staying you are changing something in them, teaching them this is normal. They will have difficulty with every relationship they have because of this. They are more likely to be in these types of relationships and/or abuse someone themselves.
Why are you allowing this? What will you do if he hits the children? How will you protect them? Find a shelter, find aid. There are a lot out there.
Good Luck
2006-12-26 16:23:35 · answer #8 · answered by micheletmoore 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, seek help!
I understand that most women stay in an abusive relation because they can't get out of it or it's really hard for them to get out... but I do want you to know that there are places that can help...
As for your step-daughter, she must have sensed something is wrong for her to be asking you these questions. This also must mean her dad is beating you in front of her. Let her know that it's never okay to hurt others. Let her mother know what is happening (if she doesn't already know) and ask her to take her out of this situation.
It would be ideal to be able to tell her what her father doing is wrong, but I'm worried for your safety when she tells her father.
2006-12-26 17:58:13 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle N 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-01 05:19:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋