Do you think it's true that almost without fail, everybody you meet will eventually become so annoying and totally disappointing, even the person who stares back at you in the mirror every morning?
2006-12-26 16:13:43 · 9 answers · asked by Middy S 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Dissapointment is directly tied to expectations. If you feel dissapointed often we have to look in two places for a reason; the people that are dissapointing you and the expectations you are placing on them.
It is normal to experience dissapointment, we all do with others and with ourselves as well. When you find too much of it as your word "everybody" implies, then we have to look closer at expectations.
At a point in my life I felt I had to be perfect; anything else was a dissapointment. At another point I expected people to be as good to me as I felt I was to them; I felt dissapointed as well... I never enjoyed those very successful moments and those good friendships because of how I looked at them.
Then I found a text that read something like this..."Being a man of purpose and set goals is nothing else but being how others imagined us to be and not how we were meant to be, be not a servant of anyone's orbit, but a comet that traces its own path". Not a literal translation but I think it captures the meaning.
Have standards, values, principles and goals, but never let other's expectations become the measure of your success or the determinant of your fulfillment. We make life more complex than it has to be. Recognize yourself not for what is left to do, but for all that has been done.
When looking around see people for what they are an what they bring; do not impose heavy expectations on them; enjoy what they bring and accept, recognizing that some people are meant to be great friends and some just casual acquaintances. There is space in life for both.
Look at life through a lens of gratefulness and be proud of yourself, of every accomplishment and every effort made in your life. Embrace yourself as you are and those in your world as they are.
We are all in our personal journeys and quests. Good Luck with yours.
2006-12-26 16:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by David R 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Every person has value, even the person in the mirror.
We all have our quirks and flaws, that is what makes us unique and individual humans.
A person of intelligence can work through the small talk and irksome tics and find a gem inside everyone.
Lower your expectations and you will never be disappointed again.
2006-12-26 16:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by Crispy_Frog 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only the ones I date.
2006-12-26 16:51:21 · answer #3 · answered by pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I dont think that. People are who they are and disappointment comes when we try to place them in categories that they should not be in. Accept them for who they are and know that everyone has faults and you will never be disappointed. Your attitude will be..."it was no surprise they did so and so".
2006-12-26 17:21:16 · answer #4 · answered by â¤??? ?å???? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to think like that - CONSTANTLY! - -- It's only that I grew up, (no offense) that I can look at people differently - I have been through SO much - I thought I would always be bitter.
It happened some-time in my late 20's that I realized - that it's not all about me.
I wish you health and happiness from this day forward!!
2006-12-26 16:25:55 · answer #5 · answered by tirebiter 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You will always be disappointed with people if you build up expectations about them. Just enjoy their company.
2006-12-26 16:24:13 · answer #6 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That doesn't happen to me, I always look for whatever positive thing I can find, even if its little.
2006-12-26 16:15:58 · answer #7 · answered by jabbergirl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No
2006-12-26 16:16:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yep!
2006-12-26 16:36:22 · answer #9 · answered by Gen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋