My husband makes me swallow everytime we have oral, and i hate it, he threatens to divorce, What should i do?

Question

He holds my head down.

He holds my head down and said something about a "Flaming Dragon"....and my other boyfriend doesnt know what that is. (i am a guy ladies)

Answer 1

Use your TEETH! Then get some self respect and leave his ****.

Answer 2

Your husband is effectively raping you: he is forcing a sexual act upon you that you would not consent to if not under duress.

So you have some options:

1. Tell him no and see what happens, and then seek couples therapy.
2. Proactively start setting up a divorce yourself; hiding away money, if possible, or finding out about resources for abused spouses.
3. Leave.
4. Let it keep happening

(1) might end up being followed by (2), (3), or (4) depending on his actions. (1) might also result in him physically abusing you, instead of his current sexual abuse. That being said, if I were in your place and had the resources available, I would choose (1), and then (3).

Good luck.

Answer 3

Several options.
#1 If you can't get past the IDEA, you might get some counseling. Plenty of women swallow and enjoy it. It may be distasteful, but it's not disgusting. I've known women who DEMANDED to "go down" because they LOVED the taste.
#2 If you can't get past the taste, there are a number of things you can do about that. Supposedly, a man's essence tastes like the last thing he ate, whether cod liver or strawberries. If you want sweet taste, and you can "get into the idea", have him eat tasty things.
#3 Realize that if you're being threatened or coerced into ANYTHING you don't wish to do, that is abusive behavior, and I wouldn't put up with it for the blink of an eye.
It may be time to show him the door and change the locks. Abuse usually starts with very low-key unpleasant behavior, but it escalates, and can result in someone's being severely injured or killed.
Tell him the abuse stops, or someone goes.

Answer 4

I would take him up on his offer of divorce but l would get in first and divorce him. It doesn't matter whether you are a same sex marriage or not my answer would still remain the same. Good luck to you and your new husband for the future.

Answer 5

He is raping you report his sad **** to the police the next time he made me do anything like that and i didnot want to i'd give it a good bite sink your teeth in he wont be thinking about comming then divorce him hes a rat.

Answer 6

If a married man is talking about divorce over this (frivolous, petty, simple, weak, can-reach-compromise) issue.....well he is not much of a man or a husband!! I sincerely hope you don't have kids with him. If you don't, stay that way. If you do... well... then it is a different ball game. I truly hope he has MANY outstanding human qualities. Because respect and equanimity, he has none!

Answer 7

He says he is going to divorce you cause you don't wanna swallow?? That is about stupid and if that is all it would take for him to divorce me, honey I hate to tell ya, I would have already told him to go take his *** down the the courthouse and FILE please. Or better yet, do it for him. No one threatens me in any way. ESPECIALLY about sex.

Answer 8

Be a good wife and swallow as is your obligation. That's what you should do.

Answer 9

Dont let him force you to do things...no matter what the consequeces are...if your husband loves you he would not threaten you with divorice over an issue like that

Answer 10

OK....throw it back onto him. You are what you eat. Men love it when we swallow. Most times...it's foul tasting and that's because of what they eat. Stay away from onions, veggies & beer especially. Try suggesting he eat candy, fruit and/or wine.

Answer 11

Take him up on the divorce.