My husband and I went to the boxing day sales today (After all the xmas shopping I didn't want to go but went coz he wanted me to come with him) Anyway - I ended up in a shop that had a long queue and coz he got pissed with me for that and yelled at me infront of about 100 people! I was really upset by that and once I'd been served I told him to f*** off and said I would make my own way home if this is how I was going to be treated in public. About half hour later he found me and asked me to stay with him at the mall - he didn't apologise or anything but I gave in and I always do coz I can't stay mad at him for long - Do you think give in too easily and hence give himn reason to treat me this way?
2006-12-26 16:01:56 · 21 answers · asked by misscynic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
*** we teach people how to treat us. if we don't let them treat us poorly they won't.
2006-12-26 16:05:49 · answer #1 · answered by meme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes your damn right you did, especially with no apology from him. You are wrong too though for the way you spoke to him also in public and you should apologise to him as well. It was his idea to go and he should have realised how busy it would be. Two wrongs however do not make a right and l honestly feel you should both apologise to each other and then leave it alone. If he talks to you like that again on another occassion do not lower yourself to his level by returning the abuse. Wait till you get home and then let him know it is unacceptable behaviour and you will not put up with it any longer. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-26 16:17:43 · answer #2 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question (smile). Since you have allowed this to happen on several occasions then what do you expect, but you can turn this around, stand your ground the next time and don't give in, you know that this is a form of disrespect so why buy into this, please do not allow your husband to disrespect you in public or private if you think about it , it just shows you what he really think of you. You need to hold him responsible for his actions, you do need for him to apoloize once in a while don't you think ?
2006-12-26 16:12:39 · answer #3 · answered by Priscilla B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to get a lot of opinions on this one... I understand your reason to keep peace... However the good Lord did not put you on this planet to be stepped on either..
The best advise is to seek council.. and tell your husband that this needs to take place.. however seek it for yourself first. Then work him into it!
This will give you better perspective on your marraige!
God Bless You and Pray for Peace in your marriage.
2006-12-26 16:07:09 · answer #4 · answered by Esther J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
part of how people treat you is directly related to how you LET him treat you. obviously he doesn't give a rats *** about what other people, including you, think. but by you giving in (even if you DID tell him what is what), he wins.
you guys need to talk (when you AREN'T already mad) about how you both need to be treated. he might not even realize how he acts.
Bottom line, though, is if he keeps it up and you keep letting him, you are in for a LONG marriage.
2006-12-26 16:05:25 · answer #5 · answered by carolynnnna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you didn't want to go and so you should have stayed home--you probably were a time bomb waiting to go off--and he could feel the tension so he reacted out of this--but regardless as to why he did he shouldn't have acted out in public--and then he should have been asked to apologize for his rudeness--
2006-12-26 16:07:36 · answer #6 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is called mental abuse. You are allowing him to do this to you and unless you stop him now, it will get worse. Yes, he should apologize, but he also needs to take some anger management classes. He should treat you with the respect you deserve and you should demand it. Do not take this anymore.
2006-12-26 16:07:07 · answer #7 · answered by Junkyard DOG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that he has no respect for you. on the other hand you may still have some respect for yourself to be asking this. Think... Is this how you want to live??? Get some professional help... It does work.
2006-12-26 16:08:57 · answer #8 · answered by kellyfl59 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer. If you give in every-time he upsets you, you are ABSOLUTELY giving him permission to treat you that way!
2006-12-26 16:05:41 · answer #9 · answered by All This and Brains Too! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you do give in too easy.....He should of said he was sorry it was not even your fault and he had no right to hell at you like a child_
2006-12-26 16:04:33 · answer #10 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're giving him the easy way then he would do the same thing over and over again! you should tell him something is wrong and open his eyes tothe fact that you are hurting!
2006-12-26 16:11:44 · answer #11 · answered by jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋