Most young girls I see (I am in my mid-20s) nowadays are very badly messed up in that they watch all these reality shows and want a guy to be all those things...yet these girls are also jaded as a result of coming from dysfunctional families, often having sex with too many guys at a young age, getting paranoid from seeing all these anorexic "hot" girls on tv etc...
They are so messed up that is seems like they are incable of falling in love. They also refuse to cook or to be more family oriented, have a lot of anxiety and depression, and are more and more jealous of other women.
Guys are also messed up, but in very very different ways.
Do people still fall in "true love" and stop thinking about themselves?
2006-12-26 15:47:23 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
hell ya! It happens & still goin' strong (even though our sperm count is lower nowadays & women's infertility clinics are boomin')
The more messed up we are (or seem to think ), the more likely of falling head over heels for someone. Ya gotta be nuts to fall in love, didn't you know that?!
2006-12-26 16:02:01 · answer #1 · answered by The one with a tail... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I believe in true love, and I like to think of myself as more of a traditional girl. I understand what you're saying, and the definition of love does seem to have changed for many. Guys, and girls. A lot of guys don't want the tradition girl either.
Umm, I guess there's a little bit of everything out there. Some people will fall truly in love, the "traditional" way. While others won't. Sometimes the other way works for people, other times it doesn't.
I feel sorry for those who have allowed themselves to believe all that junk spewed by the media. (Just makes everyone unhappy with themselves).
I think the media has had a horrible influence on younger girl. Cof, cof, Hilton, Britney, Nicole.
Basically lies of what "happiness" is supposed to look like. It's sad, but many fall into this trap. They then have to learn the hard way, that the 'Hilton's' of today may seem glamorous, but it is only a superficial front. Real life, needs real happiness. Being able to live with yourself, and your past actions would be a good thing, no?
PS. What's wrong with being a bad cook? Can't we be family oriented, and traditional, with take out? LOL.
2006-12-26 16:11:20 · answer #2 · answered by Belix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it has been known that there is no greater LOVE then the LOVE that GOD has given this world which was his son JESUS but i feel you in some aspect its somewhat true if you don't stand for something you will fall for nothing meaning alot of girls do have this conception about marriage to a prince off of t.v but if they only knew that money isn't the key to happiness and true LOVE they would be with someone who is as broke,and fat as them lol i just cant get the part when they hear on t,v models say how they edit pictures thanks to computer technology and they still chase a broken dream to look like ugly beyonce, j hoe oops low lol why not be a natural beauty queen like the person GOD created them to be or have sexy mad class like the beauty queen MRS. ANITA BAKER hats off to the older queens who never had to be naked to be beautiful
2006-12-26 18:09:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think so. Believe it or not, there is still a real love, in the very sense of the word. Of course, because the perversion of the society and human nature and lack of property authority guidance, it seems there is less of the 'true' love exist between man and worman. If you only pay attention and observe, the overwhelming majority of the US populaiton are still law abiding and God-fearing people. And that is good!!!
2006-12-26 17:27:23 · answer #4 · answered by FotoNerd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you quoted "true love" either indicates that you don't know what the hell it even is or you're skeptic about it or there isn't even such a thing. Why must people live to satisfy YOU? If those girls want to have sex, well, go ahead. The only thing I advocate is using protection... ALWAYS use protection. Otherwise, their sex lives don't matter to me; I have my OWN to think about.
As far as guys being messed up... *shrugs* Are you referring to the "players" and "gangstas" and idiots like that with more machismo than brains? Well, once again, if they want to participate in the widespread fashion faux pas of wearing baggy EVERYTHING, go for it. Just be content to know that they're the ones who are going to be behind the counter of a fast food joint asking YOU what you want to have for lunch later in life.
Some people like you are "family-oriented." Others like myself... are far from it. We want to live up the single life and not be tied down to someone for years... nothing kills a relationship faster than monogamy. This is pretty damn true in this day and age.
What's wrong with thinking about myself? I LOVE thinking about myself. I'm my favorite person in the entire world, which is perfectly acceptable and logical considering I live as myself and am with myself my entire life. Social Darwinism, sweetheart. This is a human-eat-human world out here. Not saying you can't be nice to others and think about others occasionally, but if you're TOO kind with other people, then that means: a. you're Bill Gates and can AFFORD to be a philanthropist, or b. you're too soft and empathetic towards others... you need to be able to help yourself before helping others so much.
Then, there are also people who don't even believe in love. I find this emotion questionable. Love may only be described as subjective. It means different things to different people. Some don't even believe in it. Others detest it, and yet there are others who gush over it. *shrugs* It is what you make it out to be. That's always been my answer for defining love.
My point is... why are you passing judgment on other people? Simply because they don't fall into your ideal categories of "monogamous, loving couple" and "innocent individuals seeking true love?" I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that other peoples' relationships do NOT affect you whatsoever.
Just because you do not approve does not mean that it hurts you, does it? If you don't approve of my hot gay guys and their sexual lifestyle, does that mean that their sexual lifestyle affects you? NO (which is one of the reasons I find severe fault with religious thinking)! This is reality. Get over it.
2006-12-26 16:05:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married in my early 20's, came from a great family (but I don't think theres a perfect family), didn't have too many previous partners, and love my body and think Paris Hilton should eat more. We are a family oriented couple who cook dinner every night, have a routine with our son. For the naysayers, we are also liberal. I think it's common, depending on where you live.
2006-12-26 15:54:45 · answer #6 · answered by me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Falling in love" is common, but loving someone is more rare due to the fact that you have to spend a good amount of time with a person to truly "love" them. Many relationships today are not long enough to allow real love to develop. Also, people are too spoiled today to invest all their hopes and dreams in one person.
2006-12-26 15:54:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a very good question. In todays life style and the choices past generations made in raising the "adults" of the next generation, I find it very hard to believe there are any out there except for the occational few.
2006-12-26 15:50:58 · answer #8 · answered by mcdermond3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes as a matter of fact it does happen. I have a wonderful husband and three beautiful children plus I live in a very small town were gays are highly frowned upon, as well as permiscuity.
2006-12-26 18:00:27 · answer #9 · answered by emotionalyhurtmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we more or less lost our TV identity with good and bad and the ugly when ted turner bought the world as we knew it, the area TV milks today has no morals in it i don't dig sit or spit in your face comedy and the sitcom either so there isn't anything to waste the money on but we can't get licensing to program either so it's all big bucks to get tighty whitie to where she is today
2006-12-26 15:54:08 · answer #10 · answered by bev 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋