I'm 8 months pregnant and my husband and i recently seperated (his choice) we still talk many times a day and spend a lot of time together and i understand why he left but i am having a very tuff time coping with the situation. i feel abandoned and hopeless. i want to work things out it but he's not sure...were having a baby what should i do?
2006-12-26 15:15:05 · 11 answers · asked by I♥Karma 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am sorry about your relationship.
Normally I would say to forget about him, but you seem so sincere when you say that he is your true love and it appears that abuse is not the problem.
Why not just focus on the arrival of your baby and continue spending time with your husband. Although it is not the best time for him to be unsure about working things out, sometimes that just happens. Although it isn't easy, just give him time. Even if you do end up in divorce, it's still important to have a healthy relationship for the child's sake.
So often we throw away the chance to heal a relationship when there is a bump in the road. Maybe it's time to be patient and kind. I feel that you'll know when it's time to let go.
Please don't feel hopeless. Your baby feels what you feel.
Best luck.
2006-12-26 15:26:20 · answer #1 · answered by Abby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to distance yourself from him. Write him a letter saying that when he's ready to be a man, he can come back and help out with his child. The child needs both parents or it will be lost. The more you talk to him, the more you're going to develop self-loathing and depression. You'll spend the last month and maybe longer, hating the situation, but it will get better. You need to make the best of a rainy day. You are never truly alone because help will be there as long as you're looking.
2006-12-26 15:22:27 · answer #2 · answered by cutie34lyfe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's tough. Remember, it doesn't matter if he is your true love or not. He is the father of your child. That's the only thing that matters now. Make sure he pays child support. You have to take care of your child whether he reciprocates your feelings or not. Don't feel abandoned or hopeless. That's not what your child needs from her mother. Feel empowered because you are going to be the primary caregiver of another life. Focus on the good things. God Bless You.
2006-12-26 15:17:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
focus on having your baby. This is a wonderful time for you and you won't get it back. Try to focus on the good things that are happening. After the baby arrives you will have little sleep and you won't even be thinking about your ex...except at 3:00 in the morning when you are wishing you had help. Those won't be nice thoughts.
2006-12-26 15:57:45 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.. that is horrible.
Maybe you should ask him if he still has feelings for you and if he thinks you two can work it out.. If not... suggest that you cut contact with each other.. Maybe he wants his cake and eat it too.. If you suggest to go on to separate lives, it may jumpstart him to thinking about what it would really be like to live without you.. and hey, if he doesnt care, then you are better off cutting contact for yourself mentally.. so that you can move on and find yourself. If you think its tough now,.... wait until the baby comes.. girl i feel for you. sorry.
2006-12-26 15:18:23 · answer #5 · answered by yo mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant just think about your self your thinking for two now so you have to get over it and stay in touch with the father for the baby and dont think you might get together again he broke up with you.
2006-12-26 15:22:58 · answer #6 · answered by Hephaestus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on why he made the decision to leave in the first place. What ever the reason was, you have to address it, and resolve it.
2006-12-26 15:20:46 · answer #7 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say you understand why he left? Which makes me think it's something you did..... we need more info. Talk to him, you are the mother of his child.
2006-12-26 15:24:58 · answer #8 · answered by veronica c 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he shouldnt have left, but for men it can get really scary. if its meant to be honey, it will be. the man upstairs has a plan
2006-12-26 15:21:27 · answer #9 · answered by *never give up* 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seek God and you shall find him.....forgive your husband, and pray for him.....God loves you...may God counsole you and heal your pains in Jesus mighty name....amen
2006-12-26 15:23:02 · answer #10 · answered by Bert 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋