I'm thinking about losing my virginity to my boyfriend. I am fifteen and he is sixteen. We have been together for a year and three months. I want to know from virgins or non-virgins what your opinions are. Like what should I consider before losing it. He isn't pressuring me and never has. If we do we will be using protection. I just need some opinions and comments from people about how they felt after they lost it. Its not like I come from a broken home and am doing this for attention. If you are going to answer by just saying "You are too young don't do it" with no reasioning behind it then don't answer at all unless you give me a reason why.
2006-12-26 15:11:24 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I lost my virginity too young. No matter how good the situation is, if you guys break up in the future (and you probably will, the odds are not good for a happily ever after scenario with your first serious boyfriend) it will taint the experience, especially if it's a bad breakup.
Losing your virginity is really a serious step, and it's something I would suggest you wait as long as possible to do. Mainly because you don't want to second guess yourself. Looking back, I lost it to the wrong guy, it made it MUCH harder when we finally broke up (because I had shared something so special with him) and I really wish I had been able to lose my virginity to my husband. I'm 24 now, and I can tell you that you don't start living until you get into college.
Once you start having sex, you have to worry about being pregnant. Type "i think I'm pregnant" into the yahoo answer search, and you'll find a whole TON of young women freaking out about a missed period or this or that... even IF you use protection, this will ALWAYS be on your mind. It is VERY stressful. Not to mention STDs (if he has cold sores, don't let him perform oral sex.. you could get herpes... they usually don't tell you that in sex ed.) and the emotional aspect.
Trust me, I know you don't want to hear this, but you are very young. Life doesn't get interesting until you get a car and some freedom, and it REALLY doesn't start until College. High school seems so important now, but it's really not. It's such a small part of your life... you're really just starting out. Once you lose your virginity, having sex isn't as big of a deal. If you break up with him, then have sex with your next boyfriend, and the next one, then by the time you get through college you'll have a pretty daunting number of partners. Fifteen is very young. Just hold out. It's worth it.
If I could have told myself what I just told you, and talked myself out of it, I would. But I can't change the past, so I want to save you from needless stress and trouble. Life is hard enough for you right now to add all this stress to it.
You gotta make sure it's right, because you will NEVER forget it (no matter how much you want to). I'm married and I have a baby now, and I still wish I could take it back.
2006-12-26 15:23:06 · answer #1 · answered by feistycharley 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only person that knows for sure if they are ready to lose their virginity is you sweetie =).
Just keep in mind that once it is gone, you can NEVER get it back. In MY opinion you ARE too young to do it because you still have a lot of experiences to feel and people to meet. You may stay with this guy or you may not so be sure you won't REGRET it later.
I say give it some more time because having SEX is a major step in the relationship. After you two "do it", the dynamic of the relationship will change. You'll see that it is more emotional then physical so make sure you're relationship is strong enough for the change =) Think it through and if you decide to, ALWAYS ALWAYS use protection!!!
2006-12-26 15:34:42 · answer #2 · answered by Lonely Love 06 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your too young...there I said it now let me explain... aside from the physical aspects (pregnancy and std's) the emotional toll on someone so young I think could be overwhelming. Young love is so strong and passionate yet most of the time very short lived. Young adults are often unprepared for breakups and when you add sex in the picture it makes it that much harder to deal with. 15 is pretty young to take a relationship to that level. I really think you should wait until your older and more able to deal with the consequences that a sexual relationship can bring. Being in love and having your first sexual experience is an exciting time and the more patient you are the better it will be when it does happen. Good luck with what ever you decide to do.
2006-12-26 15:23:17 · answer #3 · answered by GI 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay. I was 13 when I lost mine. I did it to prove to a boy that I liked him, and he ruined my rep all over school. I didn't do it again until I was mature enough to handle it - because I knew at the time, I was only doing it to please him and I wasn't ready.
Use protection. The health dept should have free condoms (and just because he's the GUY doesn't mean he's the only one to be responsible for condoms.)
Talk to your boyfriend. Tell him that it is on your mind and get his opinions on how he feels. Guys like sex, yes. But he could be nervous about it as well. Open communication is key when it comes to healthy relationships.
Just know that sex does change things. It is intimate, and you will be sharing a part of you that no one else has ever seen. It's not something to be bragged or gossiped about. It is private, and you should keep it that way.
Respect yourself and your relationship. If you are ready, you will know and take the proper steps before you jump in. You will be fine.
2006-12-26 15:19:02 · answer #4 · answered by Mintygoodness1 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should do it because sex is something that should be special for the both of you and it should be between two people who are old enough and mature enough to deal with the consequences after wards and i'm not saying that you all are not but just stop and think about it before it's to late because coming from experience i lost mine at 15 and i thought i was ready but i wasn't because after i did that we stayed together 4 like 6 months and then he left me so i wish that i would have waited and shared it with the great man i have now. Please wait it's not worth the the pain that sometimes comes with it and what i mean by pain is the heart ache
2006-12-26 16:03:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well because a kiss can release endorphin that make you feel like your in love, imagine what sex does for a women. I de-virginized a guy and he fell in love with me, I felt sorry for hum because i was not in love with him. I think you should wait longer. Sex does not tell you about each other sex drive, although its will show the other how you love the other, and for religious reasons, of course, It makes it easier to trust a person when you can wait. Having sex does not show how your sex drive will be measured, although the world will tell you that it will show you how compatible you are. The first time hurts a little. I would use protection, if you do do it anyways, and use a little lubrication because of the protection. If your too tight, get on top. But seriously folks, I was a virgin until I got marriade.
2006-12-26 15:26:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 16 and I just lost it to my boyfriend of 2 months (but we have been close friends for 4 years and we are very comfortable with one another). It hurts very badly, but after a while, the pain starts to go away and then it starts to feel good. Most people give up, but I kept going. Also, I didn't feel much different after I lost it. It was bound to happen, so I wasn't really surprised. Its actually feels better knowing that I'm not a Virgin! Anyways, make sure you do it with the one you love and are totally 100000% comfortable with!
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2015-09-24 17:52:05 · answer #8 · answered by Maggie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex will greatly alter you both, put a strain on you both, likely spin things out of control, and ultimately end your relationship. This happens often. Its a big step that neither of you are responsible or mature enough to handle. When you break up, you'll regret having done this, down the road, when you explain to your future husband that you didn't wait for him.
Once you've started having sex both of you'll likely get carried away, have condoms break, not care about protection anymore, have late periods, pregnancy scares, break up ... only to repeat the process over and over again with a series of partners through the remainder of your teens and twenties.
Is it really wise to allow your hormones, emotions, and passions to sideline you so early in life?
2006-12-26 15:27:35 · answer #9 · answered by AnswerGuy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look at a some of the worst case scenario's that could happen, even if the odds are remote, such as pregnancy or getting some STD. Either way you then have a BIG problem.
No, this is not a moral lecture, it's just the facts of life.
Can you handle it at 15?
2006-12-26 15:16:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋