the guy i like said he wanted to come to my house for one week of winter break. I thought it was a sweet gesture. I bought his return ticket before the coming ticket because it was only 60 bux. I did not want to miss that deal. plus i was waiting for my parents to say yes. if they said no it was only 60.
i figured a coming ticket would be 100 bux. Mind u i was gonna pay cuz hes on a money shortage. So i thought id be losing 160 only. i dint mind. cuz my monthy allowance is 480. well my parents took a long time. in that time the tickets went way up!
now they are in 300 range. im gonna use credit and i asked him to help me pay. he said he would. i orignally told him 120. but i want him to pay more now cuz hes not even my boyfriend. should i pay this much for someone whos not even my man?
2006-12-26 15:00:54 · 6 answers · asked by Tian 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It all depends on how much you want to see him, how much he can afford and whether you think a friendship is as important as a bf/gf relationship. I assume from the wording of your question that if he was a boyfriend you wouldn't hesitate to pay.
I think paying half at least like the other answerer said would be fair. You already knew he was short of money and you give the impression that you aren't. Friends generally help out other friends if they are in a position to do it.
If you dont place as much importance on your friendships as you would on another type of relationship and if YOU dont think its worth it, I'm sure he will understand if you explain that the tickets are way more expensive than you expected and that you cant spend that much money on him.
When you say 'the guy I like' do you mean you'd like to be more than friends? If that's the case then I'd recommend paying for his ticket to give you some time with him and maybe allow your friendship to progress to something more.
Whatever you decide I hope both of you enjoy your winter break.
Karma.
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2006-12-26 15:19:05 · answer #1 · answered by angelkarmachic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A sweet gesture is when he comes to see you at his own expense, not tell you about it and then you pay his way. Imagine what else he'll need when he's there w/ you, will he bum for everything else? Since he's not even your man he needs to at least prove he is A man in some way. If he really wants to be w/ you and impress you and be sweet to you he should know better than expect you to fulfill his 'ideas', if he likes/loves you he'll be patient enough to earn his way to you on his own. In my opinion it's not worth it. It may sound weird, it did to me when it happened, but this is the honest truth, my best friend went to pick up a guy she met in another state, they had met in person for a month, talked for 6 months. She brought him home and by the end of 3 weeks he was using her AND cheating on her. Don't let this happen to you.
2006-12-27 01:15:55 · answer #2 · answered by Danielle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl u answered your own question he is not your bf so why pay for the tickets if he wanted to really see u he would make a way even if his money is short.
2006-12-27 00:09:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go back on your word. But you can still ask him if he'll pay more.
2006-12-26 23:18:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no he not your boyfriend so don't pay nothing for him buy you something and be happy
2006-12-26 23:26:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
at least pay half...
2006-12-26 23:03:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋