2006-12-26 14:58:28 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's 22 and been married less than a year and she ignores him and nags him and he is depressed
2006-12-26 15:18:06 · update #1
First of all i haven't been intimate with him in any kind of way. The most i've done is hug him and talk to him on the phone or through email. I haven't told him to leave his wife or anything like that. He is the one who pursued me and I have tried my hardest to ignore it but i can't help but to have feelings for him. I've seen his wife verbally abuse him and put him down on more than one occassion.
2006-12-27 06:33:33 · update #2
You don't. What you should do however, is get yourself some counseling and grow a self esteem. God bless****
2006-12-26 15:02:14 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Sorry - you can't make anyone do anything they don't want to do. My husband had an affair and he came back to me after a short time. The grass isn't always greener on the other side. The other woman still pines for him - very fatal attraction.. He's been scared straight by that psycho....
***Even if these things were true (the nagging and ignoring) it's still WRONG.
You can't believe everything he tells you. He lies to his wife. Why wouldn't he lie to you? What do you think makes you so special that he wouldn't lie to you?
Would you be screwing him if he told you she was wonderful and never nags? Probably not because you'd feel guilty. You can keep rationalizing but it's still wrong.
2006-12-26 15:03:16 · answer #2 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about the making part. If he loves you more than his wife it will be a natural occurrence, especially if you realize this and make an ultimatum.
In general however you should not be having an affair with a married man. Remember the law of Karma.
Is this really the type of man you want to be with? Work on yourself spiritually and wait for like minded man to come into your life. If you play the game of the world it will always end with you hungering for more.
2006-12-26 15:08:45 · answer #3 · answered by Love of Truth 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't as long as his stupid wife will put up with it. Men who cheat and stay only stay bcuz 'it's cheaper to keep her'. If someone is that unhappy that they cheat, it's only a matter of time before the relationship will end. You don't have to 'make' anything happen, it will in time. Just keep in mind these types of men tend to love themselves more than anything, so if you date him after make sure you have your own guy on the side.
2006-12-26 15:43:48 · answer #4 · answered by syrag 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would a man leave his caring wife for his part time whore? Women like you are a piece of shiit!! Go find your own man!! LMFAO I hope u are miserable!! But, you would have to be, sincey ou are an insecure sluut who can't find anyone of her own! You have to do sexual favors for a man just so he will come back again just to fuuck you. You are a joke. Get a life!!
2006-12-27 01:22:58 · answer #5 · answered by hurtand still in love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since everyone else is being hard on you..ill be different...im married and involved with a married man...my husband knows, his wife dont....you cant make him leave her. we dont want to for each other...will be together if marriages fail for other reasons than us. he loves me..i love him...long story behind it, but his wife is a b****. and yes i have seen it, been friends with them for ten years. i do know first hand how she treats him...so every once in a blue moon they arent scum...im in this with him and for the long haul...im not ready to leave my marriage, may never be and he isnt ready to leave his...doesnt change how i feel about him or my husband...i love them both...not every man that cheats is a jerk..and not every "other woman" is a homewrecker either. but i can tell you that this is very hard to do and you have to be patient if youre going to do it...its hard being last in his life, and no matter how much he wants you first, youre not gonna be...if she is as bad as he says she is, he will get tired of it...there is truth in the fact that you dont keep a man just cause you got the ring...thats just the beginning...it takes work and believe me, he has bent over backwards for this woman and then some...mine may get tired of it and he may not...he is still at the point where he doesnt want to accept that she isnt the woman he fell in love with...once he realizes that he will leave her..but neither one of us want our marriages to end due to our affair, so we just wait..yours could be the same, but whatever happens, ill still be here...takes 2 to tango...both in an affair and in a marriage and she aint dancing...she just wants to lead and make him follow...that aint love i dont care what anyone says...she tried suicide and he is scared to death she will try again cause he does love her...she wasnt always this bad...she was this way but not this bad...if it gets better he will probably stay with her..but if you know all this going in...then you can at least make rational decisions...i dont hate you or think ill of you...you cant help who you love...we tried this once and didnt work...might this time..might not...but ill always love him no matter what and you just have to decide what you are willing to accept and live with and what youre not...but you wont make him leave no matter what you do...youll just have to wait and see what happens or move on...its up to you....
2006-12-26 21:21:10 · answer #6 · answered by mandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant make some one leave some one they have to want to leave for there selfs and im sure there are reasons she so called nags at him maybe because he is spending to much time with a lil home wrecker instead of being at home with her. she probly ignores him cause she is mad and hurt by him be cause of some lil home wrecker that wont leave her hubby alone if it was me id be mad too some lil stupid chic pushing her self on my husband wouldnt that bother you if you was married and some lil home wrecker was after your hubby? id be kickin some lil ho's A S S if it was me cause she would be asking for it so why dont you leave him alone and let him be married? he isnt married to you right?
2006-12-26 15:49:41 · answer #7 · answered by cute redhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea, and i'm sure that you know this because you seen his wife nag him and ignore him?
or did he just tell you that so you could feel sorry for him and he could get into your pants?
you are young and clueless, he is just using you for sex and he is not going to leave his wife, why can't you find a single man?
2006-12-26 15:31:32 · answer #8 · answered by zether 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You do not make anyone do anything that they do not want to do. He is a married man !! Leave him alone as he will sort out his own problems. He does not need you to sort out his life, he has his own wife to do that. Get your own man and leave this married man alone !!
2006-12-26 15:27:48 · answer #9 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want a relationship with a man who would leave his wife? Think about it.
2006-12-26 15:03:10 · answer #10 · answered by DrB 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whatever answer you decide, and he do leave her, this will also be the very thing that break the two of you up, because life is a circle, what goes around - comes around.
2006-12-26 15:10:14 · answer #11 · answered by mouse in chicago 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋