I have been reading this one ladys comments on here to all the horrible bigots & she's always so classy and nice. I don't think I've ever seen one nasty comment from her. Now I don't even know her except from here but I worry if she's that nice to strangers who basically say it's a sin to be gay & blah blah blah. Is there a time to get down right nasty? I don't know very honestly why I care so much but some of her comments my grandmother used to say & I'd do anything for my grandmother.
2006-12-26 14:48:04 · 16 answers · asked by gitsliveon24 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Bandgeek, I know what you mean. I used to be a very sweet person but I got sh*t on one too many times & now I'm a *****. But I do envy this lady & I really wish she taught lessons on how to be so understanding, I could really use them
2006-12-26 16:34:47 · update #1
Pinkroseplease don't change- I truly envy people like you. My grandmother would never say anything bad about anybody even when they truly deserved it & that was many of her best qualities
2006-12-26 17:22:56 · update #2
Oh dear I *am* turning a lovely shade of crimson here. Since I am the Lady that gitsliveon is speaking of, I'd like to make it known that I DO get angry and when I do --which is not pretty and very infrequent -- things and people can have a tendency to become harmed. I can count the times on one hand that I've become *that* angry and it frightens me. THIS is the main reason I don't get angry and why I use old-fashioned manners , sweetness and sarcasm to get my point across. I've found one can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar (Look! another old adage from Mom!!!) Yes, I'm the same way with people on the street and in conversation (bless their little hearts some days) but in some instances if I could physically reach some of these bigots I'd try to wear them down with Mom-lectures, a fly-swatter and cookies occasionally (not kidding, sometimes cookies work). There's nothing wrong with remembering manners. It often throws people completely off their game and allows one the ability to get their point across.
Thank you so much, Gitsliveon, and PinkRose, please dont change and AdamKadmon...it is not ingratiating behavior. It's being polite. Blessings to you all.
PS Very few people walk all over me unless I allow it (and usually they're either Family or Cats.)
2006-12-27 10:50:41 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You should never be too nice, as folks will start to take advantage of you. The difficult part is that once you start to act nasty and mean, you'll be the bad guy. So basically, don't be nice or mean, do like I do, stay in the middle and stay out of the way.
2006-12-26 22:56:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it is not possible to be too nice, however there are times when you must be firm and tough with people. You do not need to loose you class however when responding to others. But you should neverlet people walk all over you.
I wish I could say I never speak a mean word but I must admit there are some real idiots on here.
Peace
2006-12-26 22:55:12 · answer #3 · answered by Kdude 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that there are definite times when people are too nice in what they put up with. As for how they go about not putting up with something, I think that sometimes being overly polite can be the way to go. There is something about not letting people drag you to their level. I'm not saying that we don't also need people to get really nasty sometimes, but...yeah.
2006-12-27 01:30:52 · answer #4 · answered by Atropis 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're right there is a time to be mean. God, who the bible says IS love, even gets mad in the Bible. For example; if your little child runs out to the street i think its appropriate to get mad at them so they know their boundaries. Same with people who try to abuse you. Just because you're good doesnt mean you can't be tough.
2006-12-26 22:59:40 · answer #5 · answered by flournoi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Someone I loved broke up with me because I was "too nice." I always thought that was a positive trait? I stand corrected.
2006-12-27 01:16:43 · answer #6 · answered by pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont really think there is an issue in being too nice. I also think that people who value kindness can still stand up for themselves.
I think she will be fine.
2006-12-26 22:56:34 · answer #7 · answered by its_just_me 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sure it is possible to see the good in everything. Sometimes it will get your feelings hurt. Some of us always see the cup half full.
2006-12-26 22:58:19 · answer #8 · answered by shoes_717 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes, people can be overly nice, but that doesn't mean it's a bad thing. i believe there's always a "nasty side" to someone, no matter how nice he or she can be
2006-12-26 22:50:39 · answer #9 · answered by CC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, too much of a good thing could be a bad thing.
2006-12-26 22:55:39 · answer #10 · answered by Ghost Wolf 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋