Usually this term is in reference to a relationship between a girl and a guy, but for the past four years I've been "friends" with this girl who is, by most people's definition, selfish. She's know for dating these guys, getting them totally whipped, and then once they're in love with her, she dumps them. In high school, I honestly I hated myself and never seemed to notice how many times she let me down and yet, anytime she needed me, I was there. I gave her rides everywhere because she had no car, paid for meals when she could not, and I helped her through one bad breakup after another. Then we went to college together and much of the same happened, but it was different. I had changed alot since high school and began to notice all the things she had been doing for the past few years. Now I have new friends, who do care about me and are there for me. Is it any wonder I started hanging out with them more? But when I started to she sent me a nasty email, telling me I was wrong. Am I?
2006-12-26 14:42:50 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No u r not wrong, becuz people usually grow apart when they go off to college. The only reason that she is sending u emails is becuz know u r not at her every becking call. In the past u were right there when she wanted u 2 b, but now since u r older and an adult u have begun 2 c her for the person she truly is a user. Don't worry about her, she wasn't ur friend from the beginning she was only hanging around becuz u had things that she didn't. That is someone that u don't want in your life they do nothing but bring u down. Good luck with ur new friends!
2006-12-26 14:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by 2good4hem 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not sure why you were hanging around with her in the first place. It almost sounds like you were buying a friend. Now that you have others, it could be that this particular one is too expensive. Time to jettison what was never really a friend in the first place.
2006-12-26 22:47:55 · answer #2 · answered by jhartmann21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now, I'm no authority in peoples behavior or anything, but i have a friend who is really similar to that, except hes a guy; it does sound to me like she has been using you and taking advantage of your low self esteem to your detriment, and now that you've taken a stand she lashed out at you, now even if I'm way off base that's still not a real good friend if they do that that, are they?
2006-12-26 22:53:57 · answer #3 · answered by J W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are 100% right stop letting her take advantage of your kindness. People sometimes will mistake kindness for weakness. You are a strong person and have every right to defend yourself. You need to tell her you dont expect anything in return for the things you do for her but it would be nice if she put as much effort into your friendship as you do.
2006-12-26 22:48:32 · answer #4 · answered by lovewhereilive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File this one under the heading, "If you have to ask the question..." Seriously, if you think you're being used, then you're being used. Don't listen to all the other bullshit that people will say here. Trust your instinct.
2006-12-26 22:46:48 · answer #5 · answered by mjatthebeeb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget her, move on with your life. You were being used and you should stick with your friends who care for you and respect you. What goes around, comes around.
2006-12-26 22:47:22 · answer #6 · answered by drunken_monkey1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can plainly see, by the quality of her email, that you were right.
Wha, you're not allowed to make new friends?
2006-12-26 23:21:10 · answer #7 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you was not wrong because all those things you did for her. You a better person then me because i would have been told her off. to me she deserved it
2006-12-26 23:32:54 · answer #8 · answered by krazykia1p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No youre not wrong and she can easily be blocked...to h*ll with her...i cant stand users...
2006-12-26 22:49:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not wrong. You are growing up. Hopefully one day she will too.
2006-12-26 22:45:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋