Im 18 & Pregnant, Can anyone Tell Me How My Life Is Going To ChAnge? Is It Good Or Is Bad? Positive & Negative

Question

Im 18 Years Old & Im Pregnant. I Had An Abortion When I Was 16 Years Old Because I Just Wasnt Ready.After That I Had Terrible Guilt And I Dont Wanna Do It Again! Abortion is Out The Question.I Just Want To Know HOW IS MY LIFE GOING TO CHANGE.Is It A Dramatic Change? Is There More Good Then Bad Change? Will My Life bE Over? How Expensive Are Babies? Thanks For Your Answers ;)

Answer 1

Well your social life will be gone. Your friends will be out partying and you'll be walking the floor with a cranky baby who is teething. Your friends will be in college earning degrees towards their careers and you'll be ankle deep in poopy diapers. You decide whether your life will be over. How expensive are babies...if you have to ask then you don't have enough, and lastly..."Is It Good Or Is Bad? Positive & Negative" Yes.

Answer 2

Well, I'm glad you're smart enough to keep the baby. Now if I were you, I would start thinking about how I'm going to raise the kid. Are you financially stable? Do you have a good environment to raise the kid?...etc. As for your questions, OF COURSE YOUR LIFE IS GOING TO CHANGE. Every woman's life changes after she has a baby (that's obvious). How is it going to change? Well, if I knew you in person I could have told you right off the bat, but since I don't you're going to have to answer your own question. Do you party a lot? If yes, then you can forget about that for awhile. Yes, it'll be a dramatic change. You have another life inside of you...who your pretty much responsible for. I haven't had my baby yet so I can't say that whether they're be more of a good change or bad change. But since I'm totally ready for this little guy...I'm expecting my life to be waaaaay better. Your life will not be over...don't be ridiculous (stay positive). Babies are expensive these days, try to get some help from social services if your parents (or any other family/friends) can't help. My husband thinks my little guy is expensive (we're spending somewhere close to $2,000) on him, but I want the best for him.

Look, it's obvious that you weren't ready for this. You're asking all these questions to us...when really, you should have been asking yourself all this before you even had sex. Don't get offended by what I've been saying, but having sex and getting pregnant is not a game in life. These kind of things need some serious thinking. I'm glad me and my husband planned our baby when I see questions like these. Goodluck to you girl. Stay positive.

Answer 3

Having a baby is a life changing experience. You can either look at it as a blessing or a mistake, which you shouldn't... You are 18 and you haven't experienced life the fullest. I know people will say that you shouldn't have opened your legs blah blah blah... they are just judging you and you should just ignore all the negative things. A baby is not a toy. you are going to have to be there to nurture him/her for a lifetime. You're not going to be able to sleep in through the night, you won't be able to shop for your self anymore either, your baby will always come first. you need to feed this living being. The baby is going to need all of your attention. So social life? What social life? you cant always find a babysitter and you cant just trust your baby with anyone.. this is something that's a part of you, literally. I'm 23 and pregnant with my first child but I am in a great relationship and have been through a lot and I know i'm ready. If something inside of you is saying that you aren't ready... there are options, you can have the baby and then put it up for adoption, there are plenty of good families that cant conceive and are looking for babies to adopt. But the long nine months ahead of you... well you may start to get attached to your baby... or you can go through another abortion and get some help by going to planned parenthood, they will help you get on some contraceptives... and practice safe sex! Well... that's my advice... hope everything works out for you.... if you do decide to have the baby, just know you have a tough road ahead... just keep your head up sweetie!

Answer 4

I don't think anyone answered the cost question in depth - it depends on a number of factors, but as a single parent with a low-income job, having a child will cost you approximately $1,000 per month on average, over the first 18 years of life. While the child is an infant, it will probably be a bit more. This is $1,000 per month you need to come up with to keep the child alive, healthy, thriving, and able to have a real future.

If you don't already have a partner/spouse and intend to make a family with this child, *please* put it up for adoption immediately. Another family, a real family with a mom and a dad and an established income, jobs and savings who want to take care of your child will gladly raise it and give it all the possibilities you can't, because you are still very young and you don't have the life experience it takes to raise a child successfully. People who do (I noticed at least one other answerer that has had children at your age) were able to do so because of the tremendous support of others, or they just have a very poor sense of what it truly means to be "successful". Single people at age 18 do not have the experience or capacity to raise a child alone.

Answer 5

Honey, a baby can be both a blessing and a curse. It's all how you look at it. Personally, to me a baby is a miracle and should be treasured. Your life is going to change completely. It's no longer me me me, but will become baby baby baby. Everything you do should be for that baby, if you decide to keep it. Don't get me wrong, you should also make some time for yourself to relax, but those moments are few and far between. There are midnight feedings, there diaper changes several times a day. It's tough. Yet when that baby looks up at you with all the trust in their eyes, you know you're doing the right thing. Babies are expensive. doctors bills, diapers, formula, clothing. Babies never stop growing. Fortunately, you can get help from the government if you are a low income single mother. You should check with your local medicaid/medicare office and see if they can help you out. I wouldn't promote abortion. I believe every woman has the right to do with her body as she sees fit, but I always think adoption is the better choice to abortion. There are so many people out there who cannot have children, myself included, who have so much love to give. The best course, would be to talk with a doctor about your options. Good luck.

Answer 6

I was also pregnent at 18 and scared to death. The truth is yes your life is going to change drastically. For me, it was a great change. Don't get me wrong it wasn't an easy change and i don't sometimes wonder what my life would have been like if i wouldn'tt have gotten pregnant. But now 8 years later looking back my daughter was the greatest thing that ever happened to me. Having her forced me to change my life and trust me it needed alot of change, but it gave me a real purpose. It was a reason to finish all of my education and make something of myself. Life will not be easy at first but you will develope a new rutine and in no time you wont remember how to live with out your baby. No your life will not be over, you are just starting a new chapter in your life. one thing for certain find a good babysitter a friend or relative make sure you make time for your self you will go crazy if you don't. The most expensive part about babies is the start up costs, the crib, blankets, strollers, carseats, highchair and clothes all at once is alot. My best advice i'm sure you know people who have children 2 and up? Ask them if you can use thier old items, they are not using them now and will probably be more than willing to help out. other parents understand better than anyone else. don' t be to proud to accept help from people. Don't worry i am sure you will be a great mother and congradulations.

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Answer 7

There are good and bad factors to having a baby at that age, but a lot of it depends on your support system. Is the baby's father still around? How do your parents feel about it? I had my first at 18. We lived with my parents for about 2 years while I went to college. I got an Associates degree and I've been working towards a Bachelors over the last year or so.

Life will be hard, I won't lie. You will miss out on being "young". You won't be able to go out partying with friends, you will have to grow up a lot faster than other people your age. But if you have the support of your family, your life doesn't have to be over.

I do accept e-mails through Yahoo Answers if you want more from an insider view. Good luck to you.

Answer 8

You sound like you are not prepared to give up the joys and freedom of youth to raise a child. It is very expensive. It is a constant responsibility. When all your friends are out having a good time; you are home with a crying, fussing baby. You never get enough sleep. You have to work to pay for everything and also care for the baby, Child care is expensive.

I think this child should be given for adoption. More mature person who is financially better able and has either a partner or family support is better able to parent.

Go to a DR. and learn about birth control. Be sure next time you get pregnant you will be ready.

Answer 9

Babies are not expensive to start with, but they become expensive! A new born needs nappies, clothes and food that you can provide by breastfeeding. Most of all a baby needs love. Yes there will be sleepless nights and dirty nappies and all that, but babies do not stay babies for long, they become children. You are taking on a lifetime responsibility!
You will find that you will grow apart from alot of your friends, they will be busy going to school, and jobs and socialising, and you will start to realise you no longer have anything in common, so look for a mothers group. If you can try to find a young mothers group. This will give you the chance to spend time with others like yourself, and as your baby grows, s/he will have the chance to interact with other children.
Your life will not be over, but other dreams will have to be put on hold. I wish you all the best, if you can make it through, the experience it will make you a better person.

Answer 10

yes your life is seriously going to change. there will be alot of things that you are not going to be able to do that you use to. it will probably be hard at times but you are making a grown up decision and you will be able do it. just think what you will have in the end this little bundle of joy. even when days get bad you will have this little one to pull you through. it is hard raising a baby i hope you have some help. but after time you just develop a routine and everything runs smooth. no your life will not be over, you will just have to learn how to do certain things and incorporate your little one. there will be days that you will need me time but you have to remember going out all the time, sleeping late, going to bed whenever you want will be over. this is a big responsibility and i reward you for doing it than having an abortion. just think on the positive side you will do just fine good luck to you and congratulations!!!

Answer 11

Always know that your kids are your blessings. Yes, your social life will change and there will be times when you feel like you are at your wits end, but it will be all worth it. No, your life will not be over. Having kids does not mean having no life.You can always find a sitter and still go out from time to time. It will not be as much as you usually do, but you can still have a little bit of your social life. School is not out of the question. I am a mother of two boys. One is a toddler and one is an infant. I am still in school and supporting them. Did I forget to mention I am single?
It can be done. It will be a joy to have someone that loves you despite all of your flaws.