I really don't want close friends. I don't want to be friends with people to a point where they know everything about me and can make fun of me. Maybe some acquaintances to do things with occasionaly but I don't want them to know much about me.
2006-12-26 14:23:57 · 42 answers · asked by bubu9876542 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
that's normal... i'm the same way... that is why i joined sports so that i could talk about sports, and avoid the other things i didn't want to talk about...
2006-12-26 14:26:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they were truly your friends, they would never make fun of you unless they were just teasing.
If a person likes you, they will be forgiving, no matter what it is you're trying to hide. It probably isn't nearly as bad as people would see it.
We all have flaws. It sounds like you were hurt in the past.
Let those old emotions go. They do nothing but hold you back.
The world is teeming with people who would want to be your friend WITHOUT knowing every little thing about you.
Just because you have a friend, doesn't mean you have to tell them everything. Just relax and enjoy their company. Life is too short to go through it all alone.
Start making friends by being one and smile. Enjoy yourself.
I promise you can do it without fear. It's easier than you think.
Also, most people are kinder than you think. You just have to make a small effort.
2006-12-26 14:33:34 · answer #2 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's weird. I know many who at some point have felt similar to you. I too, and I am still cautious of who I see as a "friend".
However, I would recommend that you find those acquaintances, and within them, find "real" friends. People who you would trust to know everything about you. It's hard, but it gets easier as you realize that they won't freak out when you open up to them.
Everyone has issues and problems, friends do too. If you support them, they'll support you, and if they don't they were never "real" friends.
Good luck, and God bless.
2006-12-26 16:34:02 · answer #3 · answered by Belix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always good to keep certain things about yourself private, you shouldn't have to tell your friends EVERYTHING. Secondly, if people were your true friends if you had something very private and embarassing etc. to tell them about yourself, they shouldn't make fun of you for it...so if you are going to dispense information, make sure it's to a person you can trust. Most people in your life you'll come to find are simply acquaintances because it's very hard to find true friends that don't care about themselves first and won't backstab you. It's good to have a few best friends or a boyfriend to confide in when you do have personal problems though, just make sure it's the ones you can trust and who respect you. You're definitely not weird though, don't worry. :)
2006-12-26 14:27:00 · answer #4 · answered by citygurl8503 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you're saying, because I'm the same type of person. The thing is, though, if it is a truly GOOD friend, then they WOULDN'T make fun of you for anything. Ever. I have one best friend that I've been best friends with for 20 years now. We can (and DO) tell each other absolutely EVERYTHING. We never have to worry that the other is going to judge us, or make fun of us. It's really wonderful. She knows all of my most dark and embarrassing secrets. It is really freeing to have someone that you feel that comfortable with, and can get all of your worries off your chest with.
2006-12-26 14:37:38 · answer #5 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not weird . To this day I have what I call close friends that I only share feelings to a point. But you must remember when you need a friend you may not find one. You will have people who care about you , but they will stay away because they think this is what you want. I don't let people know how I feel' and this is a price you may not want to pay.
2006-12-26 14:33:57 · answer #6 · answered by ngo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. Except for the fact that you say that you don't want people to make fun of you. That points to low self esteem. If you said that you do not make friends easily or that you don't find many people to connect with i would totally agree with you. I'm a loner because I want to be. Honestly, it's hard for me if not impossible to find cool people. I wasn't always this way or at least not to this extent. But, I do have important people in my life. My husband is my very best friend, my sister is my very best female friend. and my kids are my buddies. You need people in your life. Do they have to be friends outside your family? no not all. I find most people to be shallow and I can see right through most people.
2006-12-26 14:28:50 · answer #7 · answered by lilmisstickletoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're weird at all. I find this to be a very practical way to think of friendships. I find it to be true no matter how close the "Friend" is, if something happens, everything will come pouring out at your expense. Take a 20 year old marriage for example, you think you would be safe. Ha! dream on buddy!
My advice is: Go with how you feel safe and secure and to heck with everybody else.
2006-12-26 14:33:30 · answer #8 · answered by angel1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a brother inlaw just like you and to me its really up to you, if you dont want people been in your business then thats fine but really i dont think that people will laugh at you, if you really find some good friends they will be really helpful when in need of help. So just get to know them first, and find out what kind of person they are and then maybe your change your mind. I understand where you are coming from only because my brother inlaw is so hard to get along and its not that i want to know his buniess but i do enjoy talking to people
2006-12-26 14:31:11 · answer #9 · answered by Bex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this is a bit wierd. If someone is truely a close friend then they will respect you not make fun of you. Well maybe sometimes but not in a way to hurt you.
2006-12-26 14:29:09 · answer #10 · answered by zedvilla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True friends are the people who know a lot about you and still wouldn't make fun of you. Be cautious when you choose the people you spend time with, but remember that there are trustworthy people everywhere.
Also, if they know you, then you know them. My two best friends and I joke that we have to be friends because we all know too much about each other.
2006-12-26 14:27:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋