2006-12-26 14:15:59 · 55 answers · asked by bashmentgirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
don't expect "material" things for christmas, instead be happy that you have your loved one beside you. that's more important than a present.
2006-12-26 14:17:29 · answer #1 · answered by ... 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
There have been many Christmas's and Birthdays when I didn't get anything from my husband too. My birthday is on New Year Day so when the children were smaller, we didn't have the money right after Christmas and after that he just didn't think about it. I know that things are just so hectic during the holidays and he runs a retail store so that doesn't help. He just often runs out of time. He always means to but just never gets the chance. I don't get upset about it, it's just the way he is. I got him a brand new Lazy Boy recliner for Christmas this year and he got me pajamas, but I'm not angry. I didn't marry him for the gifts I would get during the holidays. I married him because he is a great husband, a wonderful father and as it has turned out, an even more wonderful grandfather. Honey, we have been married for more than 25 years and we are raising two of our very young grandchildren.
Just don't read more into this than there needs to be. Maybe he just ran out of time. He probably meant to but just didn't get the chance. If that is the worst thing he has ever done then he is a good man.
2006-12-26 14:25:06 · answer #2 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, first a few questions. 1. did he have any money ? 2. Did you ask for anything? Its really hard to say without some background here, but If the answer is yes to the above questions, ask him, sister. Come on. You didn't say what kind of marriage you have or what did he say when you gave him the gifts you got him?
Talk to him, be honest and let things fall where they may. At least you will know.
2006-12-26 14:25:27 · answer #3 · answered by angel1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a good look at your life, has he been real good to you threw out the year? If he has then thank God for that, because some people would love to just have a husband to love them threw out each day. , A gift is nothing in comparison's to a good husband........ Don't worry love is not measured on Christmas day.
2006-12-26 14:26:01 · answer #4 · answered by LittleDaisy. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a chance he couldn't afford a gift, didn't think you would mind or could care less. Whichever is the case you need to communicate with him, let him know how you feel and what you expected. Yahoo can give you all the answers you want but at the end of the day you've pledged your life and will fall asleep every night next to someone who is not giving you want you need. Work it out.
2006-12-26 14:20:24 · answer #5 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask him if it is bothering you. Go to your husband and ask and let him know how you feel. Besides gifts are great but I think we forget the true meaning of Christmas. Happy holidays and hopefully you can work your feelings out with your husband.
2006-12-26 14:34:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is some trouble there. could be lots of things money troubles gambling lots of stuff.
i know that one year my ex and now late sister in law put nothing under the tree for daddy . the kids first noticed this . they were 2 and 4 i think . anyway daddy my brother had bought mommy stuff and the kids saw this . mommy and daddy and the kids said little about it after when the kids were playing with the toys mommy went up to daddy and told him she was leaving him that day to live with her boss . he was to keep the kids as he did not like children and she was not to found of them either.
the man she left him for her boss was the director of the childrens aid . she was a worker there.
daddy gave mommy gifts for christmas every year. she went through men like dirty socks and then got cancer daddy carred for her just as he would have if they had never separated. the kids remembered and learned that daddy did not fail in his duties and gave all he could to help mommy . he did this because he did not want the children to grow up thinking ill of there mom.
i was present at the time of her death as well was my brother and the kids and her sister and parents i lead the prayer and a few moments later she died . my other brother a minister took the service. not one of us ever spoke ill of the woman around the kids and attempted to not do that period . i hope she goes to heaven and i forgive her and i think so does my brothers.
the point is lack of christmas presents to me seems a huge deal
and not something to ignore.
i wish i could tell you what was up but i cant but i can say be ready for a bomb shell . and if possible take precautions such as money matters and so on . but most of all pray and ask for help .
be willing to forgive never hate and be willing to help.
i will pray for you and your husband this hole thing makes me so sad now i cant really take it . god be with you both.
2006-12-26 14:29:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there has been chrsitmas ,s that we didnt buy for each other due to money not being there and we needed to take care of getting for the kids and our folks but we always went after christmas and make a ddate of it to go out to eat and go shopping for each other a gift sometime we just went got what we wanted and sometime we would split up in the mall and suprise each other ,but the best way to find out why is to ask ! he is the only one that really knows if its cuase he was laze,or didnt care ,then heres what you do tske his credit card go get a new out fit nails done and treat yourself and a friend to lunch next yr he will find the time and energy to take care of bussiness
2006-12-26 16:16:52 · answer #8 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he's an asshole. Don't jump to the conclusion that he's cheating on you...
I think the best thing to do is ask him why. If he gets defensive, there may be something going on - but don't resort to evasive tactics or try to investigate; that's a sign of an unhealthy relationship.
Just talk to him - he'll tell you.
I've been poor before and waited a week or so to give presents; it's no big deal, unless it's really, really abnormal or inexplicable.
2006-12-26 14:18:32 · answer #9 · answered by Bella K 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is no excuse. And don't let people say 'his Love' is a gift. Take some money and buy your self something nice and expensive. Go home and show it to him and say "Look what you got me for Christmas".
2006-12-26 15:59:45 · answer #10 · answered by syrag 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Had the same problem with the wifey once... the words "Mene, mene, tekel, upharsin" come to mind... In other words, it's time to read the writing on the wall, sweetie... It's over and you've missed the old lady singing... Sorry, but that's what I've come to understand... HOPE I'm wrong...
2006-12-26 14:21:04 · answer #11 · answered by KnowhereMan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋