While visiting my cousin, I met a guy 14 years ago after my husband died. He is the borther of my cousins boyfriend. Since then, I have moved closer to my cousin (and met up with the same guy). We are now both married (but I don't think either are happy), but still talk as friends. He treats me better than my current husband and we always have something to talk about. What if I want more?
2006-12-26 14:15:19 · 12 answers · asked by Beeny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him how you feel. Maybe he wants more too. you are married, not buried. That's why there is a thing called 'divorce'. Better to divorce and be happy than live a 'phony' marriage where you aren't happy. Being miserable just to say you are honoring a commitment is stupid. If you bought a car and it was a lemon would you keep it and pay it off bcuz 'you made a commitment'? Think about it.
2006-12-26 16:03:23 · answer #1 · answered by syrag 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh ****. Another one who doesnt seem to grasp the concept of, I made the choices I made, willingly, based upon the information, resources, people available at the time. Now you need to stand by what you committed to doing. Maybe your husband doesnt treat you that well, based upon, oh well, lets see here, YOU ARENT WORTH TREATING WELL OR DONT EARN BEING TREATED WELL. Give that one a second read and really think about it.
If you would take the time you are spending goofing with joe cool and work on your marriage, it just might improve, for you and your husband. What a novel thought huh? You know, we all have regrets and things that we wish we had done differently. We all wish that we would have had some different choices available at times. But the test is to live by what you picked and then make the best of it.
2006-12-26 14:27:40 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help how you feel so let it go, he is in a relationship and is jumping from one relationship to another without knowing what went wrong with the first one, I am assuming! you know what that means. Anyway she is leaving to go to her country and he does not want to go to theirs so He must of known this was going to happen since his parents forbid their marriage he knew it was going to end sooner or later. And trust me a couple of days is not time enough to figure it out. However I would suggest if he was moving to where you live then let him get his own place and start seeing him, you could help him figure out what went wrong, without getting to involved and take 6 months to get to know him before you get into a relationship. You don't know if he is abusive or a player or whatever, if he is serious he will deal with it without a physical relationship.Your Catching him on a rebound and that could be bad I could tell you some stories but won't. Anyway your a big girl and you can deal with the pain and suffering if it fails. Of course this is cheep advise and knowing women as much as I guy can know about them your going to do what you want anyway. Just take it slow and remember the price of this advise you get what you pay for. Good luck and don't feel guilty you can't help how you feel, you can change how you feel later but his relationship was introuble so remember he was with her two years how long are you goin gto be with him before he moves on.
2016-05-23 09:24:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to first stop and think about what you are doing. you have a second husband and you are talking to this guy. if you want more than what you have with this guy now, then maybe thats who you should have married after your husband died. you don't need to get married again, but you may want to divorce this guy you're married to and live the single life for a very long time
2006-12-26 14:26:33 · answer #4 · answered by ken's princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you willing to leave your husband and end up with nothing to start a relationship with this guy? If the answer is yes, then it's time to leave your husband and try to make your move. Make sure he gets a divorce as well however.
2006-12-26 14:45:23 · answer #5 · answered by tannedknight45 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are married just like he is so there forth you can't have more unless you get a divorce and then what assurances do you have he will want you? Why think about another man when you have one. Try working on this marriage instead of dreaming about another.
2006-12-26 14:19:04 · answer #6 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband and tell him what it is that you want and need that he is not giving you. Then your husband can forfill your needs. If he does not wish to then it may be time to let him know and start to move on.
2006-12-26 14:37:49 · answer #7 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way to know is to talk with him about your feelings. you never know he might be feeling the same as you right now.....it isn't good for either of you to be stuck in a bad relationship. don't waste anymore time.
2006-12-26 14:27:11 · answer #8 · answered by beckdawgydawg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and work thing out with your husband but what ever decision you make don't let your husband know, don't hurt his feelings
2006-12-26 14:22:11 · answer #9 · answered by darkangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are married....your marriage is a covenant with God....seek God and you shall find him....he will help you through this......God bless ya
2006-12-26 14:36:58 · answer #10 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋