My wife just told me she wanted a divorce on the 8th of December,we are still doing all the paperwork and sorting out all our stuff.She immediately got into another relationship with a co-worker(i think it was going on before she asked for the divorce,but tahts in the past).I feel like a person should heal after getting out of a 6 year relationship,but she doesn't see anything wrong with jumping right back into one,I just hope she doesn't get hurt.I meta great girl about 2 weeks ago,just started out as a real good friendship,laughing talking,so instant messaging in the evenings,these last three days she has professed to me how much she likes me,and that she wants to get serious........I really like her alot,she's great,succesful,smart,funny,beautiful.........but I don't know if I am ready to get back into the relationship thing so soon..............how can I not break this poor girls heart???????????
2006-12-26 14:08:10 · 16 answers · asked by Uncertain 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks for all the help........she's a great girl,very,very pretty,Not to brag,but I'm a pretty goodlooking guy,she tells me she's scared she will lose me..........I'm really into this girl,I'm just not ready for that serious stage of a relationship,I want to have fun for a while,I'm still young,I want to enjoy life.Get in touch with old friends,do things I haven't done in years,I just hope she is understanding of what I'm going thru..........If she's not,then I guess it wasn't meant to be.
2006-12-26 14:27:29 · update #1
Settle your debts with your wife before you go into another relationship...Give yourself time to get to know you before you go with someone else..Don't do it because she did...Let yourself heal from the situation you are in now!!
2006-12-26 14:10:57 · answer #1 · answered by Floridapurrfection 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her and dont lead her on any further. If you let her be your rebound you will definately hurt her. Not a good move. Explain to her that you just got out of a relationship and feel its too soon to take it to a higher level. Sounds like she wants instant gratification just like your ex, and you already know that that spells out trouble. You just met her 2 weeks ago and she wants to get serious already??? Red flag city here my friend. Break it off now while its only been two weeks and you havent gotten serious yet. It wont hurt as bad now as it will somewhere down the road. Good luck to you, It sounds like you might have your head on straight.
2006-12-26 22:20:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right jumping right back into a relationship is not the best think to do. You need to let yourself heal and in the process. If this new girl is worth it, she will understand you telling her honestly how you feel. Best of luck.
2006-12-26 22:35:19 · answer #3 · answered by cheoli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her the truth only the truth shall set you free... hey my husband now of 3 years got divorced in august and we married in feb. he came out of a 6 year marriage as well and his ex-wife had a new man in her house like 2 months after my husband now left. and me and him met the day that there divorce was final, it was love at first sight thou. we are so happy now but that is weird you'd think he i just got divorced and now i'm single again, so party but then it's like you miss someone being there and living with someone. i think that's what happens you need someone. but take things SLOW.... good luck
2006-12-26 22:38:17 · answer #4 · answered by c_aguilar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look...as much as this sucks, your wife was way over you before the divorce. so her time frame isn't the same as yours. you do what's right for you. not the other girl. and if you were really into her....you would jump right in. but your not. so i'd let her go anyway. when i suffered a break up, i was 6 weeks solo and ended up with my husband. my husband was actually dating someone at the time and dropped her as soon as we hit it off. so to each his own. lesson in life....she'll get over it. trust me.
2006-12-26 22:15:46 · answer #5 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aside from the waiting a whole year (or any fixed period of time, for that matter) make sure your divorce is final BEFORE seriously pursuing this other woman. And make sure that she knows of your intentions up front, *whatever* they may be.
2006-12-26 22:11:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not break this girl's heart. You need to finish your divorce and then wait at least a year before you start dating again (trust me on this).
2006-12-26 22:09:59 · answer #7 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all the instant messaging might be leading her on. try to cool it for a while, see if you both feel the same in a few weeks.
2006-12-26 22:12:14 · answer #8 · answered by marianne o 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you dont want to get hurt or hurt her you just of out of a marrage for god sack she could be just a rebond and you dont want to rush things igf thats all this is i am sorry your ex is a cold hearted B
2006-12-26 22:12:35
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first of all, she needs to know your situation and understand it as well. i think that you should explain to her have you feel about her and that you don't want to rush into another relationship just yet. and if she really likes you, then she will wait and understand.
2006-12-26 22:19:34 · answer #10 · answered by ken's princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋