Honestly, everybody says its such a horrible thing, but is it really? It's a personal decision. Half the time I'd rather be alone and isolated from people. I don't want to get too close to people and I don't want them to know everything about me. And people say its selfish, but its such a personal thing. What do you think?
2006-12-26 14:01:07 · 17 answers · asked by bubu9876542 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I didn't do thumbs down I can't even do ratings.
2006-12-26 14:13:40 · update #1
Well, being on the other side of the situation (someone who wants to be friends with someone who *doesn't* seem to want close friends), it's hurtful. It's rare to find friends of the same sex that I feel like I can connect with in a deep way. When I find people with my interests and experiences, I want to get closer to them. It's nice to relate and support each other. But I also understand about wanting to be alone. Sometimes I just want to concentrate on what I'm doing and don't like other people to interferre. Other times, I feel people just don't understand so I rather pursue my passions by myself or with my boyfriend. But really, I'm always looking for a close female friend that I can share interests with. It's your business whether or not you want to befriend people, but one day you might feel lonely and want someone to share your interests/thoughts with. When that day comes, the people that feel like you rejected them might feel too hurt to come back. Think about it. We're all vulnerable to rejection.
2006-12-26 14:20:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong in holding oneself back. But what happens is when you do so, you tend to bottle up all the stresses and frustrations that you experience. Sharing it with a friend or partner will give you an opportunity to vent it out. Psychologically when we vent out, we feel that we have another person as a moral support.
2006-12-26 14:04:35 · answer #2 · answered by SP 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What matters is if you're happy and aren't hurting anyone else. It is a personal decision and your life. Other people are being selfish if they won't acknowledge that and think you have to include them, because then they're making it about them, not you.
2006-12-26 14:07:25 · answer #3 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't seem so bad to me. I do the same thing. Still, every so often, I try to come out of my shell. Maybe if you do, you'll meet some people you'd prefer to hang out with than be alone. But why should I talk. I basically never hang out with friends.
2006-12-26 14:04:54 · answer #4 · answered by Lizrd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do the samething and I think Im fine. I think personal people would not know what to say to me to really help so I hold back Its OK
2006-12-26 14:04:46 · answer #5 · answered by SONNY_D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happened in your life that made you this way? All people arent the same so until you give someone the chance to prove you wrong you will never know the friendships that you are missing out on.
2006-12-26 14:04:02 · answer #6 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was going to say something good till i noticed that you, or someone else, give all those who don't agree with your way thumbs down! Pathetic!
2006-12-26 14:12:36 · answer #7 · answered by mr_dark_eyed 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't allow the world to change you; hold on to your identity. You didn't do anything bad that needs modification.
2006-12-26 14:06:25 · answer #8 · answered by childofGod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the only one u should really answer to is God Almighty, stop answering to humans.
2006-12-26 14:05:11 · answer #9 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think you should give other people a chance. And you don't have to tell them everything about you.
2006-12-26 14:03:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋