Why did my my son's best friend die in a car wreck?

Question

on christmas day? it's not fair. he was the sweetest nicest kid you would ever meet.

Answer 1

I'll begin by saying I'm sorry for your lost. I'll leave you with this impression. The same reason 277,418 people died in the Tsunamia and 2,000 others on 9/11. The same reason so many innocient kids died in columbine and so many of our dedicated American soliders. The same reason why my mom died in my arms the day after christmas and the same reason God watched his own son die on the cross. The same reason we will one day die. Since my experience I started talking to my family about my wishes and how I would want them to go on to do great things. I never had that conversation before. I've learned we are not promised tomorrow and you have to live each day as if it were your last. Appreciating life and showing gratitude toward others is what I obtained because of my experience. Living life without a family member or friend is difficult but teaching your children that it is a part of life so they'll have some idea on how to cope and handle the situation is the best gift you could ever give your family that is left behind.

Answer 2

Dear Janet, I am very sorry about your son's best friend dying in such a tragic way. Usually the first thing we generally ask is WHY? Especially for a young person. Death is an intregal part of life. It is inevitable from the time we take our first breath we are that much closer to dying. Accidents seem so senseless. We usually tell ourselves and others if he had just done this or done that, this would not have happened. I'll bet there was very much love within his circle of family and friends. There really is no concrete answer to such a difficult question. I feel that when we lose someone we love so suddenly,we are shoved into a world of disbelief. The grief is so painful, but you will get through it. Try to find your strenght in the memories you have of each other. Talk about him. Remember the silly things done together. Remember the hard times you all worked through together. Let your son know these things. Let him know that some of the things that others may say might seem strange, it's just that they are trying to help and may not know what to say. I believe that he is in his Father's arms. I hear heaven is a wonderful place.

Answer 3

I am sorry to hear about the loss of your sons friend. There are always questions that we ask and this is one of them. People come into our lives. People get taken from our lives. People voluntarily leave our lives. Unfortunately we have no control over these things. My step brother passed away 3 1/2 years ago in a motorcycle accident. He was a very sweet kid too. He was only 23. It will take some time to mourn the loss. Remember him for all of the good things he brought into yours and your sons life. Help your son through this. See a therapist if you need to. Make sure the people that are close to you, you are turning to them, instead of pushing them away. Be there for the parents of the kid if they need support as well. God takes people when their time comes, and he only takes them when they have done whatever it is they were put here on earth for.

Again, I am sorry for this loss of yours. I know things will get better as far as the broken heart you feel (which is part of mourning, even if it wasn't your child). Be strong, turn to God and the church if you need to. Best of luck to you and your son.

-EA

Answer 4

Very sorry to hear about that. But, there is no answer to your question. A lot of things happen that aren't fair. They do say only the good die young--they are taken up in their innocence so they won't see the corruption of the world. I honestly don't know.

Answer 5

I am very sorry to hear this. This must be a horrible loss for everyone involved. It is difficult when anyone dies however very difficult when it is a sudden tragedy and especially when it is a young person. There are many things in life that we never really get an answer to and this is probably one of those times. I am very sorry for your loss. God bless you ****

Answer 6

Its called life. Yes he was young and it was tragic but it was his time. Make sure your son seeks professional help. My son loss his best friend 2 days before their high school graduation. They had been friends since 2nd grade. It was hard on our entire family this boy was like a fixture in my house. His mother is my best friend I see the pain she has to endure daily. It was her only child. My prayers are with this child family and yours.

Answer 7

I am sorry for your loss. I don't know why it happens. Try to hang on to the good memories and be there for your son. It's all anyone can do.

My son lost his best friend in the Kentucky airport crash this summer. I know how you feel. Best wishes.

Answer 8

i am very sorry to hear that my lady. but life is a lottery that many of us dont realize we win every day, we cannot control how long we are going to live. stuff happens and its hard i know but there is nothing we can do about it. someday we are all going to die, we do not know how, or when but my best advice is to live life to the fullest and enjoy every moment of it. because just the fact of being alive is a privlige

Answer 9

Because the car hit him and he got injured. It was just the wrong moment it happened. Hope all the best.

Answer 10

Life isn't always fair...It happens to everyone else too...so just think about it could've been worse. Imagine if your son was with his friend...your son might of died too. Well just go on with life but don't froget who that person was to you. You'll be fine!