I'm a senior in high school and about halfway through the year and about 5 months from being done with high school entirely. At the beginning of the year I decided that I was going to try to make some new friends, especially since I had been really unsociable the year before. Then I got invited to work on a project in the beginning of the year with some people of the group I was trying to get in with and I was so excited and they really seemed to like me and I was optimistic about it. But the thing is I was too shy to take it much further and I feel like I failed, basically blew my chances. And now I feel like no one likes me anymore and they just don't care. I honestly think it's too late. Part of it is pride and part of it is being realistic So what I'm deciding to do is just keep to myself for the rest of the year and stop trying to make friends. I mean I'm not going to suddenly be an a hole and not say anything but you know just sit by myself and not try to talk and mingle as much. My failures have made me depressed and I think that maybe if I just tell myself "it's over, stop trying" maybe I can be more at peace. And besides I'm so depressed half the time I can't even make myself feel i want to have friends any more and I just want to be left alone. And I don't mind being alone either. And besides, it's only 5 months. I mean I know I'll probably regret it but I already regret it so I don't see what difference it makes anymore. Do you agree that thats what I should do?
2006-12-26 13:33:59 · 10 answers · asked by leena 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
cheer up its ok you can do it one at a time i have faith in some one like you you sound like you are a hard working girl that group just might b the wrong one 4 you try again
2006-12-26 13:40:11 · answer #1 · answered by J_DUB_5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, I don't think so. I don't think you should just roll over, and I don't think telling yourself that will make it any better. What you should do is make yourself feel better by "overcoming the odds" and daring yourself to make some friends. Seriously, you can't just give up like that. No matter how shy or withdrawn you are, there are always nice people. I know it's cliched, but join a club or activity or something. Most still allow new members halfway through the year, and that's always good to find common interests.
2006-12-26 21:39:41 · answer #2 · answered by Kouya-chan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Its not the hand picked group of people that you choose that are your friends. It is an evolution of people that you get along with and feel no pressure about it.
But I do think that you have some type of social anxiety......WELCOME TO THE CLUB! Everyone goes through something like that.
You are not alone with the way you feel about yourself, but it is healthy to bring positive figures in your life via friends. If your too shy about being around people that you like, then you may feel like its your fault that the environment was not too pleasant....ITS NOT YOUR FAULT AND YOUR NOT A FAILURE!! People just did not see the bright side of you that others should find delightful. There are always 2nd chances and nobody is entitled to judge you.
2006-12-26 21:47:19 · answer #3 · answered by sk20007623 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe that group u were trying to get into just figured that u already had a group or didn't think to invite u out or something...i think what u should do is invite someone from that group out to just hang out. get to be that persons friend, and u'll start to be friends with the rest of the people...and also, maybe try hanging out with another group? also...what u were doing was the right thing --- trying to be more sociable etc. this is a great time to discover urself. find out what ur talents and goals are in life and start utilizing these aspects of urself. try joining a club or developing a cool hobby or talent...i don't care if these people end up being ur friends or not...try talking and hanging out with people. who cares what they end up thinking? it is only 5 months more...and it is a great way to prepare urself for college, which, may i say, will be a great opprotunity to make friends and stuff...
also, since the senior year is finishing up, people probably figure that u already have friends for one, and two, people are probably thinking about their friendships...people spliting up, moving, going to different colleges, etc.
be urself and realize that u r not the problem. the situation is.
just...think of this as preparation,
good luck,
xao:)
2006-12-26 21:45:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi im sorry you are feeling that way the last year of school is the best i think ok first i know you have alot of good intentions but if you are like me you get your feelings hurt easy so change the way you think ok its easier said then done well what do you like to do at school think of differnt things put yourself out there and try somthing new by all means dont be alone u think abt all the bad things get out try somthing new try small things like when you get depressed take a little walk or think of a funny moment in life try somthing differnt little at first and if it dosent work out you can say oh well tryied it dindt like it and its hard but learn to laugh at yourself you are not perfect and think of it this way in a week or less it dosent matter life goes on i had to take ffa you know abt farm animals i wined the whole time but i learn new things so keep your head up and smile and say i am worth it and i am a good person cause ive been there i hope everything works out good luck
2006-12-26 21:53:43 · answer #5 · answered by rob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you have any friends what so ever that you can talk to?
I mean, I know how it feels to be alone; I felt that way with my own family. Anyway, I would try to find other "misfits" that you see that looks like they do not have any friends either.
Basically my dear, what I am trying to say is that you have two options: you can either be friends with those who needs one, or, you can keep trying to be with these people that may or may not work to your advantage.
The real thing is when you get into the working world: real life. Other then that, be yourself. Be that beautiful loner.
I hope this helps.
2006-12-26 21:47:13 · answer #6 · answered by uchaboo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you just expect too much of yourself and others, don't give up for where there's a will there's a way. Make friends with the people that sit next to you, than work it from there. Good luck!
2006-12-26 21:45:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've felt like that alot of times too. I even switched schools but running from things didn't help( it wasn't anything bad, i just felt i didn't fit in and i wanted knew people to hang with) going to the new school just made everything worse i realised that i wish i could be with my friends again, at the other school. i'm living with someone else in my family now, and i have alot better self asteem. maybe theres just things outisde of schoolhappening and it's hurting you and you just think it has to do with school or your friends. do you not have friends or people you used to be close too. most people feel like this even the popular ones but you've just got to get out there, were just human.
hope things work out- a.b.n.k.
email me if things do ....ashley_moments_life@yahoo.com or yes_eggnogg_monopoly@hotmail.com
2006-12-26 22:53:58 · answer #8 · answered by ashley_moments_life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make one friend at a time.
2006-12-26 21:36:45 · answer #9 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try 'ana panna' meditation for the depression and uncertainty. www.vipassana.org
2006-12-26 21:42:06 · answer #10 · answered by kicking_back 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋