Well today we went out with my husband and we were shopping with the gift cards we recive, first we went to gap and there was these suarer that cost more than the other one, to make it shoter he got rip off and I got up sad because this always happends. when I sais (what ever is your money anyway)and arguin he said to me shut the f*** up he never had said that to me and we have two years of married Why did he said that to me and should I forgive him I go so mad that I walk home from the store. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-26 13:29:44 · 23 answers · asked by babylove 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry for the spelling guys, I know it was wrong but, I didn't wrote it, my little cousin who is learning how to write in the computer did and he was just trying to help me, since I was upset and angry. For all of those who were mean about it just keep out from questions you can’t even answer, and for the ones that answer thank you so much for try to understand. This also goes for “Colleen O” who didn’t know who to spell "Language". I know now she didn’t learn “English” first and neither did I.
2006-12-27 07:41:04 · update #1
Thank you for your answer it was meaningful and it make me think a lot, no I’m not nagging him but I would like him to be a little bit smarter about this things. Once in a Chinese Restaurant we order an orange chicken and sushi, he pay $35.00 dollar and didn’t even think about, why? Orange chicken was $10.00 and sushi was $4.99 and total could have been $16.00 dollar but, he paid about half the price and is not the first time. So yesterday he paid $39.99 for a sweater that was on sale for $15.99 he bought Two of them and paid 39.99 for one and 19.99 for the other one because some of the worker mess-up the price machine. All I said was you got ripped off again but I guess I was wrong. We apologized to each other last night and promise this would never happened again. Thank you anyway. Very clever, this comment is for ''Woodland Warrior''
2006-12-27 08:16:18 · update #2
It sounds like, you nag him a lot and he finally had enough. He then snapped telling you to shut the ____ up. I am not sure what he was purchasing from your spelling of it, but it sounds like there were two types and he wanted the more expensive one, even though you wanted him to get the cheaper one. You say this usually happens. How is he getting ripped off? He is getting the one that he wants, with his money. Why do you have to get upset about that? You are making him feel bad about purchasing what he wants, then you make him feel like you are putting him down by saying that you are right and he is wrong, by getting mad about it. No offense but if that is how you are and it is most of the time, mabe he is realizing that he made a mistake marrying you and is having trouble holding in his anger towards you. I would stop being so controlling or you might lose him. I have been in this situation with a past girlfriend and needless to say I didn't stick around all that long. If I have misread or misunderstood your question, kindly disregard this advice.
2006-12-26 15:14:09 · answer #1 · answered by Danny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is a "suarer"
There's two sides to every story, and you're a bit sketchy on your side. But it shouldn't be a problem if this is the first time he's done in in two years.
Men don't shop like women. With men, it's "git'er done." In other words, find what you like, and get it. Men don't have the patience for comparision shopping.
To women, the hunt is better than the item finally bought. Sure, you'd take the time to find the best value--perhaps getting something less than what you want because it's a better value--but that's not what men are.
Today was a badddddddd day to take a man shopping.
Understand, then work to reconcile. Men usually lose their temper when a woman won't give up her point. Accept that his point was "get something, and get out."
Now complement him on his purchase.
I can't for the life of me figure out how you could ask for an apology, or apologize youself with out starting a confrontation, but with two years of marriage, perhaps you can figure it out.
2006-12-26 21:43:18 · answer #2 · answered by mt_hopper 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm really not sure of what the thing was that he got ripped off with but yes he was certainly out of line speaking to you the way he did. I would be very upset also but if you know that he really did not mean it and he apologised l would forgive him. We all get upset sometimes and say things that we really do not mean. It is all just part of life and growing up. Good luck
2006-12-26 21:41:57 · answer #3 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to consider the fact that you took a man shopping. I just arrived home it's 7pm. I've been out since 10am. My feet hurt I was starving but the long lines didn't make it any easier.then we ate what she felt like having because i didn't care anymore.Although I would never talk to my wife that way, especially in public.he talk said this to you because you let him.
2006-12-26 21:40:18 · answer #4 · answered by vince 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So your husband got ripped off at the Gap and this always happens? ...And you just stand there, sad, saying "whatever it's your money anyways?"....LOL!!...the problems people have! Sounds like you both need to apologize to eachother.... after that, just don't go shopping with him anymore....
2006-12-26 21:48:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well the reason he said that is because you said yourself that you always tell him he got ripped off and instead of showing him about something that is the exact same thing at a lower price you ***** at him. so yeah, i probably would have told you to shut the **** up too. you have to support your man and bite your tongue sometimes even if he is wrong.
2006-12-26 22:09:54 · answer #6 · answered by ken's princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am learning that men care a whole lot about their money. That causes a lot of turmoil in a relationship. Women are not always thinking of it. You mention it and a man goes berserk.
2006-12-26 21:52:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
guys dont like been put on show like that in public....wether ur married 2,4,6,8 guys will say that if they feel like it and to shut the other party up.... whta u need to do is pull him up when ur alone and when u have calmed down and say to him "that u dont appreciatte him talkin with no respect to u, and that ur hes wife not hes buddy" tell him how u felt when he said that, xplain 2 him that u were embarrassed, humiliated, xplainit to him, but plz try notto shout, cause once u do, automatically he switches off...
2006-12-26 21:52:20 · answer #8 · answered by sweetness 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should not have disrespected you like that. If he apologized and said it would never happen again then forgive him. Otherwise...............he may be heading out the door with another lover. Just to give you a heads up. I say within 2 years you will be divorced unless serious change happens.
2006-12-26 21:35:36 · answer #9 · answered by WDS 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
u insulted his ego .... was it worth it now .... it was a gift card after all and he spent it and made a unwise choice but when u reminded him of his faults he got angry and said that ...maybe he doesn't want to hear it from u always that his not smart in some ways...... u know man have feelings too , put ur self in his shoes would u have gotten upset if he said that to u ?
2006-12-26 21:57:18 · answer #10 · answered by amal L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋