I'm a little apprehensive as he's only been seperated from ex(he wasn't married) for 9 months and still hasn't settled his affairs IE he still pays the bills for his old house they own together as she doesn't work and they share a young child.He has his own place.
Here is the list:
1. broke down crying telling me he's madly in love with me
2. Had tears in his eyes and said he's scared of losing me
3. was very affectionate and mentioned marriage in church on Xmas eve.
4. when we sit together on the couch he kisses the top of myhead alot
5. gets very jealous as I'm younger and very attractive (I'm 29 he's 43)
6. always does little things for me like repairing things at my house even though he's knows I know how to do it.
NEGATIVES and worries:
1.When at the ex's (they have a child) he sometimes turns his phone off
2.Is often moody and can get distant at times(I give him space)
2006-12-26 12:56:23 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The dude needs some time alone.You mite find yourself in a 3 way love affair and i dont mean the good kind.You both need to cool your jets.
2006-12-26 13:00:31 · answer #1 · answered by P.Bunyun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me it doesn't sound as if this guy actually has an EX as much as he has a girlfriend and is wanting something on the side. IF they were truly seperated, he wouldn't be paying all of the bills, he would of course be required to pay child support and HALF of the mortgage on the house but she would be expected (by the courts) to get out and get herself a job to take care of any of the expenses. Sounds to me as if he is paying all the bills because he doesn't want HER to go looking elsewhere while he does. Of course he gets jealous because you're a "sweet young thng" and if the truth were known about him he could loose you to some guy who has a lot more going for him.
I'd be giving him a whole lot more than just "space". I'd give him the "heave to" and tell him to forget he knows my phone number. There are so many red flags going up here, get out of this realtionship.
2006-12-26 13:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that he is using you as a cushion right now.....if he is paying his ex's bills then I would say that he is still very much involved in the relationship. You need to step back and let them settle their seperation before you come into the picture. It seems to me that he isn't over this relationship just yet!! I mean if there is nothing going on then why can't he answer your calls while he is at her house. I think you need to peel the skin off of your eyes and see what is right in front of you....it is your choice on what you plan to do with this relationship but your still young and there is still a lot of life to experience don't settle for second best when you can have the ONE!!
2006-12-26 13:03:25 · answer #3 · answered by Floridapurrfection 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 00:35:49 · answer #4 · answered by mulry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like u both are in love.
He turns his phone off cause it is normal to do
while at an ex's house.
He is obligated to the child til it is 18 yrs old.
So, u just have to bear with the situation.
U need to try to build a bond with the child, u may be the stepma soon.
Get along with the exwife if possible and think positive, remember he is yours now.
2006-12-26 13:01:47 · answer #5 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be open and honest with the way you are feeling, give him his space to a point, maybe offer to be more of a part of the childs life and try to solve some issues. Give him time and let him know you are there, listen with an open mind and try and offer some good sound non judgemental advise and just keep believing he loves you is why he is with you.
2006-12-26 15:25:33 · answer #6 · answered by blueigurl34 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Red flags all over this one!! I am 39 divorced with a child and all of what you describes is trouble. He is not over her and wants his family back. He wants you as a back up plan. His affection and religous convictions are part of his emotional upheaval. Move on and if he is around in a year then reconsider. Trust me with this one, though you dont know me, I have been where he is and am way past it now and a better mate for my girlfriend because of it. good luck hun, you sound like a sweetheart and deserve more.
2006-12-26 13:02:16 · answer #7 · answered by Brooke B B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd take this very slowly. Something doesn't sound right here. You need to open up the lines of communication and beware.
2006-12-26 13:01:54 · answer #8 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my.........he has many, many issues and this relationship does not look good! quit worrying about him and focus on yourself, maybe considering dating someone closer to your age......he's got some co-dependent issues and is not available, even though it may appear that he is.
2006-12-26 13:01:49 · answer #9 · answered by Bay Area Babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no hes not afraid of rejection hes worried about his bills and such. give him time.
2006-12-26 13:01:53 · answer #10 · answered by ~*[{BasKeT CasE}]*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋