A recent (and I think bogus) survey noted that about 95% of Americans have sex before they are married. Is that stat too high? And should we be worried about sex before marriage?
2006-12-26 12:51:55 · 33 answers · asked by YourMom 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I think it's an awesome thing to save yourself for your husband/wife. What better gift could you give him/her?
Just because society believes something is right; doesn't mean it is.
2006-12-26 12:55:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) Sex before marriage is not wrong.
2) No, the stats are not too high. If you do some research on the study you will find that it was conducted using a very wide range of people, over a number of years, by a reputable group of people. It's quite likely that the 95% number is accurate.
3) People have been having premarital sex for thousands of years. If you look at historical records, they were having premarital sex in the middle ages. People are not going to stop having premarital sex. They are not going to stop having sex.
4) The only time you should worry about sex before marriage is if you aren't getting any.
2006-12-26 13:01:01 · answer #2 · answered by happydog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, that question asks for an opinion and there is no such thing as a wrong opinion. That being said, MY opinion is that NOT having sex before marriage is wrong! Sex is definitely a huge part of a relationship (especially when you're talking about having sex with the same person thousands of times) and you kind of want to be sure that you'll like it enough to ONLY want to have it with that same person. Isn't it more unfair to both of you to wait all that time, marry the person, and then find out that you're completely sexually incompatible? Why waste years out of your life, go for it!
2006-12-26 13:00:22 · answer #3 · answered by answergrrl3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was raised Christian and went to a Christian College. (It's important to know what type of religious background you ahve as well to better answer this question!)
From reading the Bible, it says that fornication is lusting for something you can't have. Be it because a woman is already married, or is your sister. The Bible also says that an impure thought is just as evil as the act itself. So in that case, thinking about fornication is just as evil as fornication.
Yet, the Bible aso teaches forgiveness and repentance, stating that it is human nature to sin, and inevitably, to learn from sin.
In my own personal opinion, marriage is a state of mind. While some people get legally married and don't love each other, others love each other very much and never get married. Sex is definatly a tool for intimacy, both for the man and the woman. (or the man and the man or vice versa).
I think that there are different types of sex as well. Like, the sex that is morally alright with me is making love. When sex will improve and deepen a relationship, it is called making love.
When sex is a mutual understanding of sexual fufillment, it is plain sex. Having sex.
When sex is random, often accompanied with alcohol, and is used as an excuse, is is called f*cking.
So, to answer your question, I think that making love is a beautiful thing, married or un-married while f*cking can be left to the dogs and college fraternities.
2006-12-26 13:00:16 · answer #4 · answered by supercurlz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound a bit too low for me, but im kinda depress right now. There shouldn't be any reason about worrying about sex before marriage since other people businesses are not something you have power over(even if it is your own children, though you will undoubtedly try your best). And if your partner have been 'around', then why not jump onto the bandwagon. Life doesn't wait for anyone.
2006-12-26 12:56:04 · answer #5 · answered by my alias 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, just like eating and sleeping before marriage isn't wrong, neither is sex, because they are ALL natural actions of human and animals. Humans should really stop trying to make every damn thing taboo and start thinking of more profound ways to contribute to society. I'm a virgin, but for different reasons. Don't feel bad, as long as you are using protection and being smart about your sexual choices, nothing to worry about :)
2016-03-13 22:20:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chris, I would agree with the survey-- it is commonplace to have sex before marriage in todays society--(trying out the merchandise etc..) and do I think it is wrong- Yes! but did I do it - Yes- would I do it again if I could go back in time? No! I believe God told us in His book the Bible, that fornicators will not inherit the Kingdom of God-- but He also gave us free choice- and , well, the flesh is weak--- if you haven't - don't, because giving that to your marriage partner would be an awsome gift-- and as a friend of mine put it -- you don't miss what you never had-- so you never know any different and are happy with your mate.
2006-12-26 13:00:04 · answer #7 · answered by drox 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Would you buy a car without test driving it? Would you buy a house without walking through it? Would you order a meal without knowing what it's made of?
Ummm, no - I do not think sex before marriage is wrong.
2006-12-26 12:54:41 · answer #8 · answered by bananapeel317 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong it is necessary. Would you buy a car without taking a test drive first? I think the test drive applies to the Man and the Woman. If you are not sexually compatible your marriage will not work. Sex is a big part of a marriage.
2006-12-26 12:56:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that stat is probably about right. It's just that many people still pretend to be virgins so their church people wont look down on them.
Just ask my friend who was a virgin and married a guy from her church who claimed that he was too and she later found out what a slu t he really had been before they married.
As far as I am concerned, sex and honesty are both necessary before marriage!
2006-12-26 12:55:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that's bogus as well.
Having sex before marriage is a personal choice, in my opinion, since the divorce rate is so high, it's not smart to save yourself.
2006-12-26 12:53:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋