She was the most beautiful, sensual woman I have ever known, Lebanese, gorgeous, great personality. My partner from work said she looked at me with a sparkle i her eyes and that was the look of not just love but admiration, all I did was shake her hand and say how good it was to see her and that she looked great and she said so do I, we made small talk since I was there for business and then I gave her my card, I am confused as I felt something there and I really really don't know what to do, plus things are on the rocks with my wife and I what to do what to do, do I start talkign to this girl or what???
2006-12-26 12:39:55 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have said that you are newly married; and how it can be on the rocks from the get go I don't understand. Did you marry your wife JUST to make another woman jealous and she found out about it? If your marriage is on the rocks and you don't want it to be between a hard place too then YOU will work on it (the marriage).
Do not put yourself in a situation to be around the other woman. So she is Lebanese; maybe the allure of someone exotic is what is temping to you.
If you cannot make this marriage work, what makes you think you can make it work with Miss Lebanon?
Work on your marriage as you would your job. The job has its benefits and if you work on your marriage it can pay off in dividends too. It can have a life time of benefits for the two of you to share in. It will be twice blessed for it blesses her and it blesses you.
Miss Lebanon's come and go in the blink of days but marriages are slower and more painful to dissolve. Work for your life time of benefits and dividends.
2006-12-26 13:10:53 · answer #1 · answered by Pepsi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you were unsure if your wife was "the one" you should not have gotten married-but you did so seek a counselor and work things out with your wife.
Please don't be offended but MOST men have fantasies about the one that got away, and MOST men consider having an affair with the one that got away--it is normal.
But what you need to consider is if it is worth the risk both emotionally and financially if you pursue a fling, your wife finds out, and you realize that the fantasy about the one that got away doesn't measure up to reality.
You are left with alimony payments and you are stuck with a shattered life because you could not let go of the one that got away.
If you do not want to be married then get divorced BEFORE you have a sexual partner that is not your wife. Have some respect for your self, your wife, and your potential future sexual partners.
Once you cheat there is no going back and it will be easier to justify cheating in the future. Have some self control and THINK instead of just reacting to hormones.
2006-12-26 12:56:23 · answer #2 · answered by rwl_is_taken 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously have to decide what you really want think about your wife you made vows ! Do you want to be a hypocrite? Is this other person really all that good for you everything happens for a reason and you didn't marry her for whatever reason! You married your wife and for whatever reasons your marriage may be on the rocks for if you really love her and can work things out don't think about the one that got away! Think about the one that you have! Weigh it out in your mind and soul you know what's best for you, you wouldn't have asked if you didn't know what you might hear! Good luck! I hope you make the right decision!!
2006-12-26 12:56:36 · answer #3 · answered by Maria C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Newly married people usually love their spouses and remain faithful in the first year of their marriage and may go through few fights and arguments though. But it is not a wise thing to do to switch your love for your wife with another woman. Most certain that spells trouble in the end.
2006-12-26 13:06:24 · answer #4 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to think about your feelings for your wife and decide whether you want to walk away from her and pursue a relationship with this woman from your past. Remember that when you step into a marriage, you vow to be there until death. That means working through the rocky moments. If you truly love your wife, you will keep your relationship with the other woman strictly platonic. If you do not love your wife, then you will leave her and save her years of anxiety and distress from your cheating heart.
2006-12-26 12:46:33 · answer #5 · answered by Talkstress 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are lusting after someone you can't have. You have a wife and you made the commitment to her when you said I do that you wouldn't cheat on her. I think if your wife means a lot to you, you will keep this girl on a friendship bases or nothing at all. It's funny how every guy that is thinking of cheating says their relationship is on the rocks...if it didn't work with this other girl the first time what makes you think it's going to work now??
2006-12-26 12:44:23 · answer #6 · answered by Floridapurrfection 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck No you married a women that you said"you loved"did you forget your marriage vows?I don't understand how quiclky a man can forget what he said at the alter.How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot?Your wife should be the most special thing in your life.If you feel you have to cheat(in your mind and heart)let your wife know be honest with her and maybe your marriage may hold up.If it dosen't you weren't honest in the first place.
2006-12-26 12:44:58 · answer #7 · answered by gblue52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stay away from this other woman. You are a married man now and all your doing is asking for trouble.How would you feel if your wife started seeing another man?If you love your wife then you would not even think about cheating on her even though you are having problems in the marriage.
2006-12-26 12:59:44 · answer #8 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you like this lady and have a newborn along with her yet you're undecided in case you ought to marry her? i think of it relies upon on how picky you're being with regard to the themes. each and every courting has problems, this is the way you paintings on them which will define your courting. you won't be ready to in straightforward terms tell her there are problems and assume them to pass away. Be a sprint proactive and come across a marriage or courting counselor, if she has a similar opinion to it then a minimum of you know she's desirous to paintings it out with you and not in straightforward terms desirous to get married to all and numerous.
2016-11-23 18:44:17 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you forgotten you're married already??? Even though you're having marital problems already--you need to go home and face those problems with your wife and get them straightened out. You had your chance with miss lebanese and chose your current wife--who you are supposed to love and honor--do so -- and be a man--don't be a cheater and do something you may regret down the road.
2006-12-26 12:45:51 · answer #10 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋