Okay, so me and a buddy were discussing the pros and cons and I thought I had knew the right answer to this but when he stated his case I must admit I needed to rethink...The pros seem to be that it shows your kids that their is an authority structure in the home and not even mommy is above the law. However, the cons seem to be that the kids can start viewing their dad as the bad guy and mom as the good guy or that it can lesson their view of their mother to where the kids don't think they need to listen. Once these things were stated, I must admit this is a very hard question and I figured I would get the views of other people to maybe help me out.
2006-12-26 12:34:32 · 36 answers · asked by Lucky L 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
husband does not discipline wife
you and your friend are confused
2006-12-26 12:37:06 · answer #1 · answered by Cap'n Donna 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
You should NOT discipline your wife. And you definitely shouldn't discipline her in front of the children. You not only teach the children that you are a bad guy, mom is a good guy, they can divide and conquer, and worse that women don't deserve respect (this is 21st century America where women are work equals and bosses). If you have a daughter you destroy her self esteem, making her more likely to date a holes as an adult, and If you have a son, he may become an a hole by taking things (like grown up situations) out of context. Also, I mean it could be wording here but is your wife happy with being "disciplined"? because that could cause problems with the kids too. An unhappy mommy can be very disturbing to a tiny one. Keeping things private doesn't lead to miss-communications with little ones, no matter what.
2016-05-23 09:12:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does a man need to 'discipline' his wife? She's his equal, not his subordinate. That's why they call marriage a partnership. But if you mean to have a debate or argument in front of the kids, I think it depends on the nature of it. If it's a screaming match or one parent trying to show authority over the other, keep it away from the kids. It doesn't help to teach them that their authority figures are at odds with each other - they'll start putting their parents against each other to get what they want. And arguing over how to discipline said kids in front of them is a definite don't. Let Super Nanny do what she wants - in real life, you don't go telling off parents in front of kids, whether you're one of those parents or not. Why do you think the household goes to hell again the minute Super Nanny buggers off. She just showed the kids the parents aren't in control. Would you show your kids your wife answers to you, then leave her to try and take care of them all day? She'll get nothing but trouble from them.
2006-12-26 12:42:24 · answer #3 · answered by The Mad Shillelagh 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If the wife is totally screwing up with behavior harmful to herself or her family, then rebuke her first in private. A rebuke is a sharp reprimand, btw. I wouldn't hit her or drag her to the closet and lock her in it if she's resentful to your rebuke. Childishness rarely leaves suddenly from someone being told to cut it out and why.
I would make it clear to the kids that her bad behavior will not be tolerated and explain to her in front of the kids why if she keeps it up. Then let the kids know that their bad behavior won't be tolerated either, if Mommy isn't getting away with it. You know kids always watch and model their own behavior from what they see at home from their parents.
Parents today are faced with challenges today similar to parents of thousands of years ago. The most basic ones are maintaining control over the kids and being respected by them. If the kids don't respect their parents then they will be little hellions away from the home. It's hard to have a behaved child if the wife is acting childish as well and getting away with it.
You have my sympathy if you have a childish wife.
2006-12-26 12:55:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not even mommy is above the law?
I think you'll find passing the wrong condiments isn't a criminal offense. But then I wouldn't expect a child like you to be familiar with the law. Or anything else requiring thought.
2006-12-26 23:59:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a bad idea to discipline his wife in front of the kids because it shows that there is only one authority figure in the household. It's like if the mother tells them no, then its not ultimately up to her its up to the father to give the final answer. If it needs to be taken care of, then do it privately where the kids can't see or hear it.
2006-12-26 12:39:35 · answer #6 · answered by C_1984 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If my husband EVER tryed to discipline me wither it was in front of our children or not, he would be in for a world of hurt. A husband does not ever have a right to discipline his wife. For a wife is not one of his children but a partner. If a husband or a wife have a problem with how the children are being raise the should talk about it when alone. Not in front of the children. Talking about it if front of the children can and will cause discipline problems with the children.
2006-12-26 12:46:52 · answer #7 · answered by ravensongblue 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
ok, buddy what you dont seem to understand here is that in a relationship theres no authority, your not no police man, you're a husband. It should work as a 50/50 relationship. your talking about your wife as if she was a pet or something, its not like that. You can TALK with her about things that you dislike or about improving the relationship, but you have to hear her side also. Now about the kids, I dont think that they should be present when you guys are discussing your relationship issues. If they're present when you guys argue, you're just teaching them that screaming and arguing is a way to solve issues.
2006-12-26 12:45:20 · answer #8 · answered by Wendy R 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I thought the only disciplining a man would do with a woman would be in the bedroom and vice versa AND that should never be done in front of the kids!
BTW-if there is a slight morsel of truth to what you are asking, she will look good and he will look like an as s! Victims always prevail!
2006-12-26 12:41:58 · answer #9 · answered by JustLynn 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
a man and his wife are equals - hence a man should not discipline his wife. yes there maybe times one would want to correct the other which could result to arguments - but that is best done inside the room and not in front of the kids.
2006-12-26 12:38:56 · answer #10 · answered by Bubuchachum 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Discipline wife? Men get jail time for that and in front of the kids? Thats when social service comes involved
2006-12-26 12:38:16 · answer #11 · answered by Countess Bathory 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋