A friend of mine was in the process of getting divorced and her husband who would not leave her alone (he did not want the divorce) suddenly found someone on Match.com and moved this other woman in his house around 3 months after they started dating. And legally they are still married because the divorce has not gone though yet. My friend wants to know if this is true love?
I told her its not and she needs to move on. It sounds to me like her ex was desparate and wanted maybe to get her jealous or wanted this "other woman" as a rebound. Out of respect for her and their family I think he could have waited till the divorce was final and they were no longer husband and wife. Hence the desperation.
Would like to know other opinions out there. Personally I do not think her husband and this other woman are going to last. Oh and more thing. This other woman is not legally divorced ethier. She is in the middle of a divorce as well!!!
2006-12-26 12:34:08 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know her lawyer never mentioned anything to her about what she could do because legally if they are still married and he has another woman than he is commiting infidelity.
I guess her lawyer said it would be opening up a whole can of worms and she would need proof and my friend wants this all overwith. I would have been more than happy to go up to his house with the nightvision goggles and get evidence for her! :)
And another thing her husband has been dragging this divorce on..(taking his time signing paperwork, fighting every little thing) Why do guys do this? It must be about trying to make her jealous because if he is not in love with her and wants this other woman than he should get it all over with. So immature! (They are both in their late 40's)
And it is hard for her but she is trying to stay strong...
2006-12-26 12:44:47 · update #1
THIS IS FOR THE A*SHOLES-that are saying this is none of my business and crossing the boundaries-just for your information I have my friend on the phone right now who is asking me to write this for her, it was her idea....she wanted to hear other opinions....So for you jerks F-off...if your not going to write anything helpful than dont participate....
2006-12-26 12:49:16 · update #2
My husband moved out of our home and in with another women within months of my asking for a divorce but no paper work being started. He had only known the women for a few weeks. She is a skank and he gave no thought about how his kids would feel or how it would effect them. All he cared about is that she wanted to be a swinger and was a whore and he is a sex addict who needed to live the life of an addict. Needless to say he got exactly what he deserved and I got a great life. Tell her to move on, it will be the best thing for her.
2006-12-26 12:41:21 · answer #1 · answered by Sally B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She wanted the divorce right??? If so then why should it matter..... I mean I'm not trying to be harsh or anything I'm just trying to understand what it matters if he's in a new relationship if she is the one that filed........ and if they are legally seperated then there is nothing she can really do about it in a court of law....
Oh and for Katie girl I don't think she can sue because the divorce was already in the process..... there fore it wasn't this "new girl's" fault of why the marriage broke up!
2006-12-26 14:00:56 · answer #2 · answered by ~*~Niki~*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a simple case of "I want what I cannot have." Why the jealousy and the wondering now? He didn't want a divorce in the first place and now that he is moving on she is jealous.
Sounds a bit childish to me. She should HOPE that he finds a great relationship and she should do the same for herself.
Instead of tryng to appease your friend you should point out that he didn't want the divorce in the first place and she should remember why she did.
2006-12-26 12:41:12 · answer #3 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay- as a friend- stay out of it. [it is the hardest thing to do]
the emotional need to understand "love and war:
she needs to find he own way and support her in that only.
divorce is a horrible situation and help her by encouraging the process to be completed so she can move on.
As a friend, you need to know that your love and acceptance may witness a reconciliation of this couple or something like that, so consider that the future is not clear for anyone and she must make the most of her life with or without him!
I can imagine its very hard for all of you during the holiday season. Redirect her attention to the "goals" and kids if any and the "future" and let "love or falling out of love" have time to heal.
2006-12-26 12:43:37 · answer #4 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow what a story! In my opinion, I would certainly not call that "true love," it is just a marriage that's going to get a lot worser if they don't get a divorce. What her ex husband did sounds like he's trying to get her jealous. Hopefully, your friend will find someone a lot better.
2006-12-26 12:38:04 · answer #5 · answered by star_puk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree that he should have waited on the divorce, but at the same time, they both are still in love with each other. if she is asking you do you think that its true love and he just wants to make her jealous, then maybe they shouldn't have gotten a divorce. and the woman that he lives with now may be just a sex thing to ease his pain. they are consuling each other right now because they are both vulnerable.
2006-12-26 13:12:05 · answer #6 · answered by ken's princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, I can't figure this out either and in the past few months I have heard more and more stories like this. Definitely the husband is being disrespectful. He is obviously looking for a confidence booster. Tell her to stay strong...he'll most likely be waiting for her to confront him, showing him that she's still interested. If she ignores him (although it's difficult), he will most likely put an end to this new romance. Good luck to you and your friend.
2006-12-26 12:37:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Whether or not it's "true love" with the other woman, actually is irrelevant at this point. The fact is simple: her husband doesn't respect her. Which is more important to her? If he doesn't respect her, then she shouldn't WANT to be with him. She should definitely let it go. Find someone that respects you first and foremost. THEN, he can truly, deeply love you.
2006-12-26 12:42:16 · answer #8 · answered by feefee2u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a boundary issue here - and you are crossing it. None o this is your business. If your friend wants advice, let her ask for it. Your job is to be there w/ compassion, not judgement ot what is going on.
2006-12-26 12:38:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Text book rebound i give it 3 months max Good Luck to that crew
2006-12-26 12:41:20 · answer #10 · answered by P.Bunyun 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋