Ok, so like I have these dreams of people "touching" me, in my dreams It feels good! And I tell them something like "that feels great" or "don't stop" , but when I wake up, I start to remember..."whoa was that a girl???!!! I'm straight!!! I like guys!!! What was I thinking?" I hate myself , because then I start to have doubts.. is it me or my stupid dreams? could anyone like help me get my thoughts straight? I dont want to be bi or lez, I want to be straight!(no offence)
2006-12-26 12:29:50 · 14 answers · asked by That Girl 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i vote its a dream thing, and if you had the dream once from watching something, and then are thinkin about having that dream when you are going back to sleep, you are going to dream about it again... no worrys hun, if you think and feel straight, you are.
2006-12-26 12:33:45 · answer #1 · answered by soccerbabe_angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hon, I "wanted" to be straight too, but it just wasn't gonna happen. No matter what I did, date guys, have sex with guys, even marry a guy, I'm still a lesbian leaning bisexual.
I just had to learn to accept that this is who I am and that I'm perfectly normal regardless.
You can't control your dreams, they're your minds way of sorting out stuff.
Just remember what Freud said: "Sometimes a Cigar is just a Cigar."
In other words, don't try to read too much into your dreams.
You need to have an honest discussion with yourself. Granted, not out loud as that would just be weird. But to yourself. Ask yourself why you think you might be a lesbian or bisexual. Then ask would it really matter if you were? Then ask what makes you so upset about it if you are or not.
Learn to accept yourself for you no matter what. Don't obsess about whether your lesbian, bisexual or straight...you simply need to live your life, be happy, find something you enjoy and stick with it. Stop over analyzing yourself.
2006-12-27 00:24:00 · answer #2 · answered by DEATH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People dream crazy stuff.
If this line of thinking is confined to your dream world, and it feels good, run with it.
The dream world is one of our last lines of defense, where you can pretty much be and do anything you want without consequences.
Unless you're feeling these urges when you're awake, there's no reason to think this says anything about your sexuality. Try to relax a little.
If it turns out you really start feeling bisexual (or lesbian) some time in the future, deal with it then. But, don't let worrying now spoil it for you. Most of us would kill for a rich pleasurable dream life.
2006-12-26 20:36:15 · answer #3 · answered by David G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no "want" to be bisexual, lesbian, etc. You either are or you aren't. It just depends on the amount of time it takes for you to accept this fact (if you really are). Only YOU know if you are... just don't hide behind denial. If you MEANT the "no offense" bit, then that should mean that you're not against us, right? Then... I really don't see a problem with it. Don't beat yourself up because you think you may be "different." Who the hell wants to be "normal" anyway? Normal is subjective. Why would you EVER want to aspire to be BORING...?!
Being bi or lesbian or omni or gay or transgender or whatever else I am omitting (sorry) rocks! The only one who's making a big deal out of it is yourself. You are who you are... if you're hetero, bi, or otherwise, it's REALLY no big deal, okay?
2006-12-26 20:36:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry, you are only having a dream, and that means you are working something out in your subconcious, and it probably has nothing to do with your waking sexuality.
The fact that you say you are straight, well, says that you are straight! SO dont worry about your dreams, they are private and yours to enjoy if you choose to. They dont mean anything else.
2006-12-26 21:05:08 · answer #5 · answered by Goatfarmer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when i was about 14 i had your say problem. But i turned out to be Bi and it is nothing to be ashamed of it is just a label. Before i was sure i tested it out. You don't have doubt you are just wanting to sample around to see what it is like.
good luck
2006-12-26 20:37:45 · answer #6 · answered by blondebeauty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, Everything is dream to start with.because even when somebody touches you in a real he or she will go away after sometime then you are left alone than also it becomes like a dream.therefore at least you got some enjoyment so you should be happy with it.
2006-12-26 20:35:57 · answer #7 · answered by basyal27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's pretty normal. If women haven't experimented with other women, they've at least thought about it. Sometimes, dreams are thoughts we can't let ourselves think consciously. Talking about it is a great step toward resolving internal conflict or unease. Good job. :-}
2006-12-26 20:35:28 · answer #8 · answered by Dorothy and Toto 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can understand you wanting to be straight. i think that it's just you wondering if your bisexual, or a lesbian. kind of like a mind over matter thing. your dreams basically show you a story or your happiness, stress, business, knowledge, fantasies, anything. your probably just stressed about it and thinking about it before you go to bed. think of something else before you fall asleep. and don't worry about it. i'm sure it's just a temporary thing.
2006-12-26 21:20:07 · answer #9 · answered by asprinfree_braindamage_please 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a woman knows how a woman likes to be touched its that simple a man no matter how good he is just doesn't come by it naturally, no of fence men! i have never been with another woman but i do know how to pleasure myself and i know that another woman would also know. its the same with seeing another woman aroused it will most likely be a turn on to you, of instance in a film where you see her get aroused their is nothing wrong with it it is simply human nature.
a woman's body is beautiful especially when aroused.
its all natural relax and enjoy it, it is ok! and perfectly normal:)
2006-12-26 20:40:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋