They knew each other for many years and the boy has always been extremely nice to her, they did everything together and everyone thought they were going to make a lovely couple. After they get along with each other for quite a long time, the boy told the girl that he's in fact homosexual. But they agreed to remain their, uh, "nice relationship." However, the boy already has a boyfriend and he doesn't want anyone in the world to know. Is the boy using my friend? Should my friend leave him? She said she doesn't know what to do, cuz everyone is congratulating her for having such a nice attractive boyfriend and the boy does take good care of her. She told me she doesn't want to lose all these. Do you think she should be brave or if she's ok with that then it's fine?
2006-12-26 12:27:02 · 9 answers · asked by okma 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Iam a lesbian, now I'm out and open to the world , but there was a time I was in a similar situation. I was "dating" my best Friend who was also on his way out of the closet . We were like a crutch for each other. We both were able to go out and gain experience and learn about our sexuality (not saying ur friends gay), w/ the cover of being stright (the Midwest a place to be to be gay). It not the easiest thing, for a lot of people to come out of the closet, sometime having a good friend by your side is helpful. It was hard enough to admitt to myself let alone the entire world. And things can get complicated when dealing w/ the first girlfriend or boyfriend. Like any relationship, gay, straight, real or fake there's lot of factors and feelings you may not be wear of. The only people who truly know about that relationship, are the people in it. I wouldn't worry if I were you. Your friend sound really close to this guy and it seems like a solid friendship. It will run its course, and if all parties remain happy - so be it. Live and let live.
2006-12-26 14:19:51 · answer #1 · answered by J.Brown 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, she is getting used, but not in a malicious way. It's convenient for him and he may think, "It's her choice." She needs to move on. She should not, however, "Out" him in anyway; that's his decision. I'm not saying she would, but a break-up, no matter how amicable, can bring out bad feelings in a person. She just needs to be conscious about not doing that to him. Hopefully, she realizes that it's not something about her that has caused this situation. It's also good that they have a close enough relationship that he felt he could tell her.
Tell her good luck and to talk to him about it.
2006-12-26 13:01:33 · answer #2 · answered by Brian W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she should leave him because he is a jerk and treating her like dirt. She should not care about leaving him because it is just peoples opinions i mean they are not hurting anyone if they break up. The guy won't care becausew he likes guys and the girl may just come out with a tear but there are other fish in the sea.
2006-12-26 12:31:37 · answer #3 · answered by blondebeauty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My spouse... I figured this out when I met yet another gal after some years and theory i could desire to attach along with her, yet found out i could no longer... If I did, then i could be a hypocrite and be little greater suitable than the a$$holes that i glance down on. Nope. My spouse has have been given me for the size.
2016-10-28 10:34:08 · answer #4 · answered by atalanta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only is he using her, but she is using him as well. she is only using him for his looks but also the things he gives to her. I think she needs to find a new boy who truely likes her, and isn't just using her for something that he is ashamed of. and she needs to be brave enough to be single and ok with it or she will be in a bad personal position.
2006-12-26 12:31:36 · answer #5 · answered by soccerbabe_angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is "safe" to love a gay man, like it is safe to love a celebrity. Safe meaning they never have to deal with the reality of a relationship. They can just long for it and feel like they are in the game, even though they are taking no risks.
2006-12-26 12:30:41 · answer #6 · answered by Brooke B B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are 1000s of good looking men out there. Gay is gay and will never change and it would kill me to know that my man is messing with another man that's digusting. She needs to get herself another straight good looking man.
2006-12-27 10:01:52 · answer #7 · answered by Diamond C. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs to find someone else and he needs to come out of the closet and be proud of who he is.
2006-12-26 12:36:40 · answer #8 · answered by Modern Jesus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She shows him what a woman really is and what she can do, thus turning him into a strait person.
2006-12-26 12:31:07 · answer #9 · answered by Roger89 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋