Suggestions please...?

Question

My husband and I have been living together for 6 months, our sex life is almost non existent and he never wants to get close to me. We are in our late 20s and we have sex probably once a month. I am constantly bothered by his habits such excessive smoking and non-healthy dieting, plus he always makes excuses to go to the gym. We never even kiss anymore, I really cannot stand the cigarrete smell and every time I say something he gets mad at me, specially when he wants to smoke in the car while I am in it. I used to smoke but I do not anymore. We recently went to visit his parents and his mother smokes one every minute, he took advantage and smoked more than usual; the worse thing is that they smoked inside the house and I got sick because of that. Later they said I was not being myself. I am trying to take a healthy life, eating and exercising and smoking is not in my agenda anymore. I feel this is drawing us apart so early in our relationship that I am afraid we might eventually fail.

Answer 1

It sounds like you're too nice.
If it really bothers you and makes you sick, then make him quit! I quit for my wife and kids. My father quit when I was around 6 (my mom never smoked and hounded him about it).
Give him an ultimatum and stand your ground... for your life, for your happiness, for your health.

Answer 2

my husband use to dip it made me sick and whe i say somthing he would swear i dint smell it on his breath i would make him go brush is teeth b/f bed time or if he watned to make out after 16yrs of praying that god would help him want to quite he did he just layed it down but i was glade i didnt give up on him hes a great lover and my best friend he plays soft ball a lot and i am not athletic but i learned to enjoy watchuing him b/c i love him dont give up just try to comprimise love will get you threw any thing if you let it even bad habits