I have worked all my life I have brought up my 4 kids my husband has provided all our life for both me and the kids. but I now feel that I want something more out of life than what I can see in the future. We are both 63, slim and in the best of health our sex life is still OK. Financally we want for nothing. My husband is still a go'r he is always the first to be up for a dance, and really he is the life of a party. I just see my friends out and about with diferent chaps that I think I would like some of that, should I say good by and take my chance in the big world or is the grass not as green as it may seem?
2006-12-26 12:11:32 · 48 answers · asked by Nurse Gladys 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nurse Gladys - some how I don't believe you.
You have 126 points, no answers, only one question.
If my calculation is right - you should only have 96 points.
What's up?
Yeah, go ahead and taste the greener grass on the other side.
Why would you want to leave your husband, who has provided well for you and the 4 kids. He is still young, fit and enjoys life with you. You have no money worries what more do you want.
Sex with another man? Its all the same.
If you want more spice in your life, talk with your husband.
Maybe together you could come up with some exciting
things to do - even in the bedroom.
Did you ever ask your friends what they think of your marriage.
Maybe they are looking over the fence to find the greener
grass that you have.
2006-12-26 12:27:10 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Are you still in love with your husband?
If yes, then why would you want to go out and find someone else, your husband has tried to give you the best life he could by the sounds of things and you have 4 children together even if they are all grown it would be hard on them. But if you are not in love with him then you should not stay with him because you will not put 100% of your love into the relationship and thats not fair on him. He deserves to be happy, you both do. Maybe you should go on a cruise together or something or something just for the both of you and if he gets up to be the first one for a dance you should be the first one up to dance with him. Think about when you were both younger what attracted you to him it wasnt the stable life he has given you it was something only you could see and didnt you ever say to each other you want to grow old together thats what life is about finding that one special person and growning old with them, sorry sweetie but 63 just isnt old to me he can stll get up and dance and still get It up. After being together for a long time you probably feel like you have lost that special something but i am pretty sure if you look hard enough you will find it again. Good Luck
2006-12-27 01:18:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say that you feel you want something else than what you can see in the future. But what? If you do separate life will not be so rosy - you say financially you want for nothing; that may change - why not try and see if you can work out with your husband what is wrong, fix it if possible, and go forward together? A relationship counsellor would help. You would be considered brave [or foolhardy!] to set off anew at 63!
2006-12-27 03:46:33 · answer #3 · answered by Davy B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a 52 year divorcee I would not say that the grass is greener. Personally, I feel a tad envious of your relationship with your husband.
You want something more out of life.........well, what about a new interest rather than a single lifestyle, which in later life is not all it's cracked up to be. Try looking at the University of the 3rd Age.
2006-12-28 06:21:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think you might be happy for a while but I think you would soon regret it. A suggestion. Do some volunteer work, take a college course, a cooking class, volunteer at the local hospital,just get involved in something without your husband. Try to develop something just for you. Do something to meet people on your own. Maybe you feel a little too much in his shadow. Do something to just get out of the house and test the waters of the world. I think you will find that you have a gold mine but you just need to see the real world to realize this. E-mail me if you need to talk to someone.
2006-12-26 12:57:30 · answer #5 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My parents have been married for 51 years. For the majority of that time my mother has been in a wheelchair after a near fatal car accident. My father was in his early 40s at the time and i know he could have left my mum for a more 'fulfilled' life. But he didn't.He hasn't regretted it for one moment. OK so they don't travel the world together but my dad does travel. he has lots of friends and two strapping nephews he travels with.He has been to Rome,Paris,his home of Jamaica many times. Of course there are times when he wishes he could travel with his beloved wife but He counts himself luckily to have such a wide circle of family and friends.
I suggest joining an evening class or something. What about a language class? you are so Lucky to have what you have. Don't spoil it for a what you think is a more exciting life.I bet deep down your friends crave what your have.The grass may look greener on the other side but i can assure you cows c*** on that side too!!
Wish you all the best in 2007
2006-12-26 22:13:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, be grateful for the kind of husband that you have. It's time for you guys to be back on your honeymoon now that the children are all gone. It is not worth the while to go flirting at your age. Just rekindle the fire that you once had and enjoy your retirement together as a happy couple in love.
Don't let your eye fool you, the grass is not greener, they were sprayed.
2006-12-26 12:37:05 · answer #7 · answered by clar 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The grass is not at all green on the other side. Stay where your at. If your husband is faithful to you then you have no biblical reason to divorce or leave him and you will be an adulterous. Do you really want to spend eternity in hell just because you were "curious"? Sounds like you have life really good. If it ain't broken don't mess with it.
2006-12-26 12:15:27 · answer #8 · answered by Sally B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the grass is so not greener out there lots of strange mixed up and very damaged people, my hubby hit a midlife crisis and had at one point three women on the go,he did and said terrible things and although i am nearly over most of the hurt of this.the hardest part is finding someone new that you can really talk to,who is on your wavelength,think of all the times you and your hubby have look at cross a room and known what each other is thinking,talk to him tell him you want so new experiences and try to find some together and some just for you and good luck.
2006-12-27 10:55:51 · answer #9 · answered by Redmuppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband seem to have a great marriage and are very compatible. Please do not throw that away for anything. Your friends may be out and about with different men but believe me they would not have the love and stability that you and your husband share. You ask my husband who also once felt like you are now he will tell you the grass is definitely not greener on the other side. He tried it out and is very sorry that he did as it nearly cost him his marriage and he did loose the love and respect of his first born child because of it. They are things that are very important to most people. Certainly too important to loose !! Please for your own sake, do not cheat on your husband as you will live to regret it. It is just so wrong !!Best of luck.
2006-12-26 13:03:07 · answer #10 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋