i just had a baby a little over a week ago and my bf and i think this baby is just soooooo cute, and i know that we think that because we are her parents, but his mother dosent think that she is a pretty baby, and she tells me this to me and my bf;s face. my parents think that our baby is adorable, and i wish that my bf's mom would keep her opunions to herself, what do you think?
2006-12-26 12:05:04 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Hello.I don't think she means anything by it.It is often more common then you think.Some babies arent as pretty as others
some may very well be cuter and some maturer looking.
It's a mother in law....? Maybe she doesn't see any resemblence
to her side or was raised to judge stereotypically .I don't think
it's all that.Unless you need to go get a new mother in law.
Think about that one ....al some of these other answers are so
much more wrong(want you to destroy your only family ties???
Was what she thoughtlessly said intended on being mean??
Or were you not in the mood .Lot's of people say newborns
are wrinkly,red ,bald,hairy,scrawny legged,big toed??????
That may not sound so actually"pretty" does it? And I am
sure your mother in law meant well and is for the most
part ...I'm sure she contributes something very positive
other then her mouth.Maybe she didn't realise you were so sensitive.
2006-12-26 12:14:27 · answer #1 · answered by forthewriters1 1 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Wow don't let the first answer guilt trip you into allowing this behavior to continue. There is nothing wrong with visiting but there has to be some boundaries. It is up to your husband to let his mother know the deal. You and your husband need to come up with something you can both agree on in terms of when his mother can and cannot come to your house. Every night is too much. Coming at 8:30 pm is too late, coming 4-7 times during the weekend is way too excessive. Your MIL is really overstepping her boundaries and she just needs to be (GENTLY) put back in her place. There is no need to be rude to her ,just have your husband explain that you two would really appreciate a little more alone time with your new baby.. that this is a very special time that you guys really want to enjoy together. Afterall, she had her chance to raise babies... now it's your turn. Personally, I would limit the visits to once a week, which is really quite a lot considering most people don't even live in the same state as their parent's/in-laws. She should feel lucky and blessed to have a weekly visit with your little one. Since she comes so often, once a week is going to seem like nothing to her but hold your ground. That is not unreasonable at all. Grandma's need to be grandma's, not mommy's.
2016-05-23 09:07:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for you. I mean what kind of a person says **** like that to people. That is seriously ****** up. Why would she call her own grandbaby ugly? Next time she asks to hold her reply with no i dont knnow why you would want to hold such an ugly baby. All babies are beautiful, but your own baby is esspecially precious to you. No mother thinks her baby is ugly, and I am sure that there are five million old ladies out there that would love to get a hold of your daughters chubby little cheeks. Tell her to **** off and not to come around until she quits being such a *****. You should just politely ask her to keep her opinions about your daughters looks to herself if you dont want to have a conflict.
2006-12-26 12:20:26 · answer #3 · answered by Autumn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that I wouldn't want that horrible woman around my child --ever!
What a terrible thing to say and later your child will feel that she isn't special in her grandmother's eyes. I'm sure your little girl will be very beautiful and I'm sure she's just right for her age now.
Right now she's a newborn and all newborns really aren't that cute yet, since they just came out of the womb. About four weeks or so you will notice how super cute your baby is and I still wouldn't want my daughter spending much time at all with her mean grandmother.
What a terrible, shallow woman she is!!
2006-12-26 12:11:19 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
far out, that's just mean. ALL babies are beautiful and she should be told that! I haven't ever seen your baby girl but I'm certain she is the prettiest baby yet (except for mine of course!!!) Enjoy these precious day and weeks ahead as they go way too fast to be worrying about your mothers silly insults. Go and kiss your baby right now and tell her shes the best, prettiest and the most beautiful baby in the world!!!
2006-12-26 12:11:22 · answer #5 · answered by blahblahblah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think thats absolutely horrible. Regardless of what anyone says all babies are gorgeous. Its not just disturbing because your mother in law told you that your baby wasnt "pretty" or "gorgeous". Im just thinking about what she is going to say to your child when she gets older. Is she going to say that she was an ugly baby? You should talk to your husband and both of you should tell her what you think.
In the long run she should just keep her opinion to herself.
2006-12-26 12:09:53 · answer #6 · answered by gr33n_3y3d_grrl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell the bit** to her face what you think of her and her ugly mug talking about your baby and see the response from the hag..ask her to search her low mentality memory and see if she ever read the book called the ugly duckling and then tell her your baby has years to become gorgeous, whereas she is stuck with her mug as it is now for the rest of her ignorant life. Then shut the door on her face and decline any visitation to your baby.
2006-12-26 12:17:52 · answer #7 · answered by colinhughes333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sure your baby is very cute. most of them are. sounds like your mother in law doesn't like children really. or babies. don't take the baby around your mother in law, and if she asks why tell her because you didn't think she liked the baby.
or just tell her to keep her opnion to herself, i'm sure people don't say she's ugly to her face.
2006-12-26 12:10:49 · answer #8 · answered by Kitterkat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a horrible person, all babies are cute, don't listen to her. She is your child, Im sure she is beautiful. What a witch!!!! I really dont know what to tell ya. Tell her to pull the cucumber out of her *** and let it be. To be honest, I don't know what I would do. Enjoy your new daughter, Merry Christmas, what a blessing.
2006-12-26 12:10:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's a witch for saying that because it is just a baby.
If you want to be a witch back tell her that it must be the genes from her side of the family.
2006-12-26 12:10:31 · answer #10 · answered by dejesus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋