Why do some female's feel that they have a right to hide a pregnancy from the biological father?

Question

I redid the question so you could understand more.....
And i know there are men that dont want anything to do with the baby so lets excludes them to

This excludes the abusive an alcoholic Men

Even if you know that the father will be a great dad, some girls and even full grown "women" feel they're the only ones who can make the decision.
i just don't get it.

the father has a dam right to know and help make the decisions with anything that involves HIS child.

they both made the baby, they should both be adult enough to decide what's going to happen.
and she should be WOMAN enough to confront him about it.

where i live the women must have the father's signature before they can have abortion?

I keep asking the same question because some of you women just dont understand what im tring to say

Answer 1

Oh I definately agree. The father should be the second one to know about the pregnancy! And should have every right to help decide what happens with the child! I know someone that the mother of his child keeps his daughter from him and I think it's wrong.

Answer 2

Why are you surprised by this? If they both wanted a baby, the discussion would have taken place prior to intercouse. Plans would be made on wither or not you should have a baby and in the event that birth control failed, what to do if you mangage to become pregnant anyway. In a mature relationship, these topics are usually discussed and agreed upon. If you can't talk to you lover about these things then is your relationship storng enough to handle the concequences of sexual behavior? I you have not had these converstions with her before having sex, and don't even think about saying the opportunity did not present itself. It was just a very low priority. You would not be asking this question fi you had. That is why unplanned pregnacies are such a problem.

A) Who will carry the baby for the next 8 months, father or mother?

B) Who will have the strech marks, father or mother?

C) Does being a single Mom reduce your chances of finding a nice guy in the dating scene?

D) A baby is a huge commitment. Has the potential father showed any signs of being able to step up to the challenge?

E) The guy was nice enough for a fling, but you don't want him in you life from here on out.?

Seems to me the answer to these questions can come from anyone else but the mother. I can see why the father to be would have an interest. But the burden is not on him. I you were her husband, then I could see you having a bigger say. You pop the question and she says yes, then there is a commitment there. All I can say is that her decision is based on your past behavior up to the point when she found out. Actions speak louder than words. Any dick can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a husband and a dad. Do you have a deep relationship? or one that is based more on convienence?

Answer 3

I guess the most basic and slightly selfish answer is most women have is ..."it's there body, they can do what they like" blah blah blah, I will say it is sad to see that woman will lay down with a man open her legs get pregnant by him, not tell him ( at the very least) that he potentially is a father....
also think, you would have to prove it is your child and that my friend usually only happens after the baby is born
i mean if you have solid proof you can take her to court get an injunction and go from there....
but that also would be selfish of you ( or him)
if she does not want the baby for reasons beyond your comprehension she feels she does not need to tell you( or him) should take a que from that and let it go
Or if she does want to keep the baby, so be it as well, and after she has the child , you can once again take the "court route" and have the child tested for paternity, and have it established but then you might be putting yourself in some situations you do not want to be in I mean obviously you would be willing to pay child support heck you could even sue for sole custody, but enough of that
Most places I know of women don't need the "potential" fathers signature, they most certainly can walk in anywhere and say they don't know who the father is.....
but ultimately I suppose it is up to the woman weather or not she really wants anything to do with the said father, but that said she should be woman enough to tell him either way.
Hope it answers some ....

Answer 4

I think this question is a very good one. I don't know why women sometimes don't tell the father about a pregnancy. I have never been in that position. But I can tell you that I think it is wrong. I think both parties involved should have a say in what happens, or how it happens.

Answer 5

I totally agree with you. Unless the man is abusive or the woman feels her life is in danger, the man absolutely has a right to know and help decide the childs fate.

Answer 6

i think that father has the right to know. but if you willing have sex with someone then you should take on the responsbility. the only time i think you could have an abortion is if you were rapped.

Answer 7

Why do you keep asking the same question????