The guy Im seeing disappeared on me for like 4 days. And just today he sends me a text message on my mobile. Asking me if I was ok and that he miss me alot. Im pissed as hell i hated it when people disappear for no reason. I didn't reply to any of his messages or calls. I feel like disappearing myself just so he know's how it feels. I don't like people taking me for granted. Am i over reacting here?
2006-12-26 11:48:46 · 17 answers · asked by julia1975 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
no i would do the same thing you are.. no lie! that is rude as hell and i wouldn't stand for it, and for him to come back thinking things will be okay isn't right... =) good job to you! hope you get some answers or whatever makes you happy! hope u have a very, very happy new year!
2006-12-26 11:51:21 · answer #1 · answered by ~broken~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to be mad as hell however, i would make contact with him. just say I can not talk now. i will call you when i can.
wait four days.
t If he brings it up act nonchalant. if he gets pissed. dhen tell him that the relationship is a two way street if he worries about you when he doesnt know where you are, then he can understand your feelings. tell him you really care for him but you are not going to be in an unequal relationship and if you have stronger feelings for him than he does for you then frankly it is time you moved on.
2006-12-26 20:30:31 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Johny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think that you are overreacting. It's one thing to be upset but another not to answer text messages or calls.I think you should find out where he's been all those days and a good explanation. If you just started dating this guy then you should defiantly tell him how you feel about that stunt he pulled. If he can;t understand that, then yeah, it won't work out but Maybe he had a good explanation. Reason I'm saying this is because I didn't hear from my boyfriend for three days. I was calling every number that he owned. Finally three days later he calls me...turns out his mother died and where they were, offered no reception but he got all my messages and he definitely found a way to make it up to me!
2006-12-26 20:04:32 · answer #3 · answered by BabyRuth 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It would probably piss me up and upset me too, but really it depends how long you've been seeing him and how serious you are about each other. However this could be a sign of something else like perhaps him not taking the relationship as seriously as you. If you like him, I would tell him it bothered me and give him a chance to explain where he went and why he didn't contact me. If he gave me a reasonable answer I would probably forgive him, but if it happened again it would be over.
2006-12-26 20:17:01 · answer #4 · answered by Libby p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you're overreacting a little bit... taking out your past experiences on him.
Did you call him in those 4 days? Or text him?
I'll admit, it's bad that he would go through the holidays without talking to you... but then again, it's the holidays. Its a crazy time and if you haven't been together for very long, maybe he was just too busy with his family.
2006-12-27 16:47:57 · answer #5 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. Did he tell you he would be gone for awhile before he just up and disappeared? I think it sounds kind of shady and I have to tell you every time I wondered where my husband was when I couldn't find him, guess what now I know where he was he was cheating. I didn't know it then but I sure know it now. I hope this isn't the case with you but I agree with you not answering his texts let him know what it feels like.
2006-12-26 19:52:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No not at all,u are not over-reacting.I would feel the same way,& yes I'd be so pissed off.When a person disappears like that most likely they are seeing someone & they are trying so hard to hide it.& it most likely means that they are considering of making the relationship that they are hiding to work out.Or it could be that they done something they are not proud of.Thats how most crimes end up.Its something to think about.& most definately something to look into.If I were u I would really find out what is happening.Mostly if u are around that person,face to face u can tell by the way they are acting if something is off,something about them is different.A person knows their mates,& if they act different than usual than look out that means somethings wrong,& they are totally guilty.
2006-12-26 19:59:37 · answer #7 · answered by fanofcelebritymathersmarshall 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So go ahead and disappear for a few days!
2006-12-26 20:27:34 · answer #8 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are not over reacting. you are under reacting. you need to kick him to the curb and not care if he gets lost for months. find someone better. if you put up with that it will only get worse.
2006-12-26 19:51:12 · answer #9 · answered by dana j 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now you see him, now you don't. Great magic act. Only we need some reality from time to time, Eh? Tell him to "Take off, eh?" You can do it.
2006-12-26 20:04:30 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋